The Experience Of Being Complete

[theleelajoker]

26 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

This approach seems much more a way to medicate suffering than to stop it altogether. You want to transcend what is causing suffering itself (context) not what arises from it (content: emotions, sensations, thoughts).

How you know you suffer? You have to feel it somewhere right? There has to be location. 

Put attention to this location as described above. Simple, full, non-judgemental attention.  You can't fully put attention and think at the same time. So no thoughts. And re emotions, sensation --> see above 

 

[Joseph Maynor]

2 hours ago, CARDOZZO said:

Sure. How do we make "change" based on love/acceptance? 

Generally, humans want to change because they are suffering. The root cause of their need to change is suffering, hurt, moving away from pain.

Anyone can come up with a list of at least 10 things they could ideally change that would significantly improve their own health, finances, and relationships just to make it concrete as a starting point.  And even if these aren't done, making the list improves intention, which is valuable in itself.  

[CARDOZZO]

9 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Anyone can come up with a list of at least 10 things they could ideally change that would significantly improve their own health, finances, and relationships just to make it concrete as a starting point.  And even if these aren't done, making the list improves intention, which is valuable in itself.  

Sure. I agree.

What I'm trying to point is a way to relate to change, transformation or "what should be" in a empowering manner. 

Edited January 8 by CARDOZZO

[Ramasta9]

On 1/8/2026 at 1:04 AM, CARDOZZO said:

I don't know if being present solves the case. Suffering is a conceptual activity. You have to know how to stop suffering and I think that to stop suffering is not the same as being present.

Awareness, Stillness, time/space merge, that is true presence. If you are still suffering you are still within mind projecting presence. 

In such a state all answers come, and you respond accordingly, thus suffering dissolves in awareness / consciousness. 

[CARDOZZO]

12 hours ago, Ramasta9 said:

Awareness, Stillness, time/space merge, that is true presence. If you are still suffering you are still within mind projecting presence. 

In such a state all answers come, and you respond accordingly, thus suffering dissolves in awareness / consciousness. 

I wll contemplate.

[CARDOZZO]

 

[CARDOZZO]

 

[CARDOZZO]

Interesting perspective:

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Stop trying to "fix" your life with more techniques.  If you have a car with square wheels, it doesn't matter how much horsepower you add to the engine. It’s still going to be a struggle to move forward. Most people treat their lives like that car. They try to "push harder" through the friction. They use motivation and discipline to force themselves into action.

 

[CARDOZZO]

Which strategies do you use to complete yourself? 

Learning? Reading? Being Original? Doing Courses? Dressing? Adopting belief systems? 

All of that is unnecessary. No matter your strategy, being complete is not a thing you achieve. It just IS.

[CARDOZZO]

Contemplate why this is true:

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Being complete means nothing is missing or needs to be fixed.

 

[CARDOZZO]

You've been brainwashed by society your whole life. You try to compensate your false sense of worthlesness with more falsehood. You live within inventions and you try to fix yourself adopting new kinds of inventions. Your whole doingness keeps you stuck, unhappy and lost.

[Joseph Maynor]

56 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

You've been brainwashed by society your whole life. You try to compensate your false sense of worthlesness with more falsehood. You live within inventions and you try to fix yourself adopting new kinds of inventions. Your whole doingness keeps you stuck, unhappy and lost.

Are you saying this to you or to others?

[CARDOZZO]

31 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

Are you saying this to you or to others?

All of us. We. The whole society, Humanity.

Edited 4 hours ago by CARDOZZO

[Joseph Maynor]

Just now, CARDOZZO said:

All of us. We. The whole society, Humanity.

You seem to value self-help more than most people on here interestingly.

[CARDOZZO]

39 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

You seem to value self-help more than most people on here interestingly.

This topic of being complete is something that I have a deep interest. 

[Joseph Maynor]

Just now, CARDOZZO said:

This topic of being complete is something that I have a deep interest. 

You think you're already complete?

[CARDOZZO]

29 minutes ago, Joseph Maynor said:

You think you're already complete?

This is a deep topic. What I can say is that thinking and being are different things.

I can think whatever I want. Experience is more profound.

You have to create an experience of being complete or you have to let go of the clouds. 

Being complete is a state. You have to train it into your nervous system. 

Until one day you are complete most of the time or you know how to recognize the experience of not being complete and see it as an illusion.

Being complete is not about feeling good, powerful and satisfied. 

 

[CARDOZZO]

Being incomplete only occurs when you relate your SELF to others things. Incompleteness comes from relationship.

Your sense of being incomplete emerges when you can create what ISN'T the thing you are experiencing.

[CARDOZZO]

You have to understand how your self-view, hierarchy, language, relationships create your humanness. You as an object can't suffer. You have to understand deeply how some activities of mind create your suffering.