NLP & Neurosemantics Mega-Thread

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Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a psychological approach that explores the connections between neurological processes, language and behavioral patterns to influence thoughts and actions. 

Neurosemantics is a model exploring how humans create, embody, and perform meaning through mind-body-emotion states. It examines the interplay between neurology (our physiological states and performances) and semantics (layers of meanings, frames, and beliefs that shape our inner world).

They both breaks down into "neuro" for brain and neurology, "linguistic" for language and communication, and "programming" for patterns of behavior that can be modeled or changed. NLP can be used in therapy, business coaching and self-help for phobias, performance enhancement and relationships.

Neurosematics is NLP on steroids, an evoluiton of NLP's teachings. 

 

 

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They both have tools, skills, linguistic patterns and systems to self-actualization. 

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https://www.neurosemantics.com/thinking-for-humans/

The 15 Thinking Skills

Each of the following set of skills is designed to achieve a specific outcome:

Essential Thinking Skills— to ground your thinking in reality, make it real, authentic, accurate, specific, precise, and factual, the essence of critical thinking.

1) Considering  — To try a Thought on, to keep your mind open

2) Questioning    — To explore for understanding more fully

3) Doubting  — To suspect, to play the skeptic

4) Detailing    — To index or extensionalize into the real world

5) Distinguishing    — To de-confuse, separate confusions

 

Eureka Thinking Skills— to enable your thinking to generate new creative ideas that leads to innovations, insights and higher level understandings.

6) Inferring / Inferential thinking  — To infer what’s implied

7) Organizing / Organizational thinking — To organize your thoughts

8) Creating / Creative thinking   — To create new ideas and solutions

9) Metaphorical thinking   — To use effective comparisons

10) Synergistic (or Systemic) thinking  — To see the whole system

 

Executive Thinking Skills— to let your thinking perform the executive funcitons of the prefrontal cortex, establishing learnings, decisions, intentions, reflexivity, sense of self, sense of the future, and being-cognition.

11) Learning   — To draw effective conclusions

12) Deciding (Intending, Choosing)  — To make smart decisions

13) Discerning (Wisdom)    — To discern distinctions

14) Reflexivity   — To use meta-thinking to manage your thoughts

15) Sacralizing (Being-cognition)    — To be mindful and see the sacred in life

 

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NLP presuppositions are core, empowering beliefs used in Neuro-Linguistic Programming as guiding principles.

The Presuppositions of NLP:

Respect for the other person’s model of the world.
In order to communicate properly it is important that you have an understanding for the other person’s model of the world. All people have different ways of experiencing the world (different beliefs, values, filters, etc.). By understanding and respecting these differences instead of judging, better communication will occur.

Behaviour and change are to be evaluated in terms of context, and ecology. Change is only ‘true’ and sustainable if all the environmental conditions support it!

Resistance in a client is a sign of a lack of rapport. (There are no resistant clients, only inflexible communicators. Effective communicators accept and utilize all communication presented to them.)In NLP, being in rapport with the client is crucial! If you are not in rapport, you will not get the positive outcome that you are working towards. In order to get a different outcome you must alter your communication (If what you’re doing isn’t working, do something different).

People are not their behaviours. (Accept the person, change the behaviour.)
The behaviour a person is acting out is not the person itself, but the person’s response to something in their world. What NLP seeks to do, is to enable the person to have more choice in terms of their behaviour and their responses.

Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available.
Behaviour is geared for adaptation, and present behavior is the best choice available. Every behaviour is motivated by a positive intent.

Calibrate on Behaviour: The most important information about a person is that person’s behaviour.
People’s behaviour is the only thing we as communicators can observe. Anything else is mind reading. We cannot enter the other person’s mind, and it is therefore important to calibrate on behaviour.

The map is not the territory. (The words we use are NOT the event or the item they represent.)
People respond to their experiences, not to reality itself. We do not have access to reality as it is, we do not know reality. We experience reality through our senses, our beliefs, our filter systems, our own personal “map” of reality. NLP works with changing the “maps” that are not working for the client.

You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results (and I am also in charge of my mind and therefore my results).
Every action you take has first been a thought in your mind. For there to be an action, there must first be a thought. Nobody but yourself is in charge of your own thoughts, therefore nobody but yourself is in charge of your own results. You are the only person who can change your own results.

People have all the resources they need to succeed and to achieve their desired outcomes. (There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states.) All people have the ability to create whatever they want in their lives. If another person can do it, so can you. By the process of modeling you can do it even faster than the person who originally did it, because you don’t have to create a strategy as it has already been made for you. It’s all about getting into the right state, the state of excellence.

All procedures should increase wholeness. Parts integration is better than labelling to create separateness. Labels can be good for seeing things more clearly under a microscope, but ultimately a telescope cannot see the whole land.

There is ONLY feedback! (There is no failure, only feedback.)There is no need to label our results as failures. Rather, seeing our results as feedback and information that can enable us to seek improvement is far more powerful.

The meaning of communication is the response you get.
The intention you have for the communication is just as important as the response that you get. The response that you get may be different to the response that you wanted. The response is feedback that you can use in order to alter your communication to get the appropriate response.

The Law of Requisite Variety: (The system/person with the most flexibility of behavior will control the system.)
The more flexible you are, the more opportunities you can take on in your life. If you have boundaries, you restrict yourself. Being open and flexible simply creates more choices in life.

All procedures should be designed to increase choice.
The more choices you have, the freer you are and the more influence you have.

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PROBLEM (Being a Failure/Feeling Like a Failure)

There are some toxic ideas in the following statement. Can you detect them? What are they? What is the external event and what is the internal state? "Whenever I don't succeed, it really bothers me. It makes me feel like. a failure. Not reaching my goals is such a bummer. I get depressed. No wonder I put things off and hesitate about other things. I just hate being a failure.”

 

SOLUTIONS (26 LINGUISTIC PATTERNS)

1) Specificity or “Chunking” Down

So you think you are a “failure,” do you? As you think about something for which you feel like a failure, and define yourself as such, how do you know to do this? If you lost a job once, are you a failure? Twice? Three times? What standard are you using to make this judgment? How do you know to use that standard? When, where, and with whom did this occur? How do you represent this generalization of being a “failure?” What pictures, sounds, feelings, and words do you use to create this meaning? IfI were to get a sneak peak into the mental theater of your mind—what would I see? How would I know to give it the same name that you have, that is, to call it “failure?” How do you represent the action of failing at one thing as "making" you a failure?

2) Sequencing a Strategy

So up until now, you have accepted the idea of viewing and defining yourself as “a failure.” Help me understand this. How specifically do you know that failing at one thing on a particular day makes you “a failure?” What do you see first, then what do you say about that, and so on as you think about this? If I were someone from the Temporary Job Agency and I could take your place so that you could have a vacation from this, teach me how to do this the way you do. What would I have to think, see, hear, and feel?

3) Reframing the External Behavior

Are you sure this means “failure,” could it just mean feedback? Not reaching some important goals really means that you now have some crucial information about how not to get there. So, with that in mind, you can feel free to explore new possible avenues, can you not?

4) Reframing the Internal State

How interesting that you say that. What I really find as a failure, and I mean Failure with a big “F” is when someone who does not reach a goal sits down to wallow in whining and refuses to try again. When the person rolls over in the mud and won't learn or try again, I'd call that a “failure.” If you’re still giving it a go, you are not a failure.

5) Reflexively Applying To Self

Does that mean if you don't reach your goal in presenting this limiting and painful belief to me, that just talking to me will turn you into an even bigger failure? You have to succeed at this communication or it will mean that and that only? So as you think about not reaching a goal and labeling it as making you a "failure," I take it that you do this a lot? You take a specific instance and over-generalize it into a whole category? And you successfully do this, don't you? Would you like to fail at this success?

6) Reflexively Applying to a Listener

So with that way of thinking about things, if I don't succeed in coming up with a good way of responding and helping you with this limiting belief, I will also become a failure? In other words, my success or failure as a human being depends on succeeding in this conversation in just the right way? There’s no room for experimenting, feedback, or dialogue?

7) Counter-Example Framing

When you think about some of your successes—and how good and resourceful you feel about them, you mean if you mispronounce a word, or fail in any aspect of any goal surrounding that goal, that would turn you into a failure? “Success” is that fragile of a thing and “failure” is that solid?

8) Positive Prior Intentional Framing

Reaching the goals that you set for yourself must mean a lot to you. I can imagine that you develop this perspective to protect yourself from messing things up and to push yourself to higher levels. Since you want that, don’t you think that perhaps some other attitudes about failure might help you to really succeed in your goals?

9) Positive Prior Causation Framing

It strikes me that it’s important for you to set and reach goals. So you probably have taken on this limiting belief because you have had some painful experiences in the past and you now want to protect yourself against such. Perhaps it was those experiences that actually seduced you into that limiting belief. What other beliefs could you build that you would find even more effective than this one?

10) First Outcome Framing

What results when you move through life defining experiences and yourself as "failures" just because you don't reach a goal in precisely the way you want to? Does this serve you well in setting and reaching goals or in feeling successful? unresourceful feelings?

11) Outcome of Outcome Framing

Imagine going out, say five or even ten years from now, after you have defined every unsuccessful attempt at reaching a goal as turning you into a “failure,” and then living from that “failure” identity and feeling unresourceful ... what will come out of that? Will you take on many risks? What other outcomes emerge when you feel like a “failure” and take that into your future?

12) Eternity Framing

When I think about this, I wonder what you will think when you look back on this belief about failure when you step over into eternity, and I wonder how you will think and feel about this limiting belief that you used in moving through life?

13) Model of the World Framing

It really is an interesting way to think about events because it overloads them with so much meaning! Do you know where you got this way of mapping about “one un-success equals failing?” Do you know that most people don't use that map to torture themselves?

14) Criteria and Value Framing

When you think about your values of enjoying life, appreciating people, doing your best, experimenting, learning, etc., do you not think of those values as more important than making a "success / failure" judgment about your actions?

15) Allness Framing

So since everybody has failed at something at some time in life, that must make everybody on this planet a “failure,” a complete and absolute “failure,” right?

16) Have-To Framing

So you have to frame your attempts at reaching a goal in this way? What would it feel like for you if you did not evaluate events in terms of success or failure? What would happen if you didn't do that? Suppose you framed attempts as experiments, feedback, or playing around?

17) Identity Framing

What an interesting belief about your self-identity—so totally dependent on your behaviors. Do you always identify people with their behaviors? Do you really consider that people are their behaviors and nothing more than their behaviors?

18) Ecology Framing

How enhancing do you find this belief when learning a new skill, trying a new sport, taking a risk, or practicing a new social behavior? Would you recommend this belief as a way for others to succeed with greater ease and positive feelings? Does it empower or limit your endeavors?

19) Other Abstractions Framing

The idea of “failure” really seems like a distressful and painful idea and yet you say that it really doesn’t serve to enhance your actions or motivate you, so I’m just wondering if maybe this isn’t a faulty map that just needs to evaporate or vanish from the screen of your mind because it isn’t sufficiently real to be useful, but of course, if you allowed it to just fade away so that you focused more on using feedback for success, how would that empower you to get on with things?

20) Metaphoring and Storying Framing

1) So if you brush your hair but do not get every single strand of hair in just the right place, that also makes you a failure?

2) When my daughter Jessica turned nine months, she began the process of learning to walk, but she couldn't walk upon the first attempt—nor upon the first hundred attempts. She constantly fell down and she would sometimes cry. But she would always get up and do it again. As she did, she learned more and she developed more strength in her legs, and more balance and movement, so that eventually she got the hang of it, and had a lot of fun in the process. And I wonder if this says anything that you can take and apply to yourself now.

21) Both/And Framing

It sounds like so much of life is either success or failure and that there’s hardly anything that you notice in-between. It seems like the boundary _ between what you call ‘success’ and ‘failure’ has hardly any distance so that you can step from one to the other in a moment. How useful would you find it to be able to measure the degree of these states? Or, perhaps, even better, to recognize that they can both occur at the same time?

22) Pseudo-Word Framing

So you’re using this term “failure” with a lot of abandon and yet we haven’t been able to actually point to any specific reference, either in the world or even in concept. Perhaps it’s actually a pseudo-word that you’ ve been tricked by the linguistic fraud of the label itself. Since it refers to nothing real or tangible, but only to a mapped construct in your mind, do you really need to use this non-referencing term?

23) Negation Framing

I know this isn’t possible, but I’m just wondering what would it be like for you if you couldn’t compute the meaning of “failure.” As you think about ‘failure’ as a non-existing concept, as an experience you cannot experience, because you always get information and feedback, and discover how not to do something, I’m curious about how much more resourceful that would be.

24) Possibility and “As If” Framing

Since the state and experience of “failure” has been so unproductive and painful, take a moment to imagine the possibility of living in a world where being a “failure” could not occur, because you were so focused on always gathering more data about how to refine your actions ... how just pretend that you are there fully and completely and as you do, show me the face of that state, and the posture, and the breathing, good...

25) Systemic and Probability Framing

What’s the probability that when you start this new project that you will totally and absolutely fail at it 100%, like someone who knew nothing at all about it? To what extent do you think you’ll fail at it within the first 15 minutes? The first day? What about the first month? What are some of the other factors and contributing influences that could improve your odds at making this successful?

26) Decision Framing

Now that you have entertained several new ideas about this whole realm of succeeding and failing, what have you actually decided serves you best? What frame would empower you to get on with life, bounce with the ups and downs, and forever put yourself in a learning orientation? Have you decided to feed and nurture your mind on that idea? What one thing will you do today to begin this new way of moving through the world?

 

There you have it—twenty six ways to play around with meaning and to alter the structure of reality!

YOU CAN UTILIZE THE 26 LINGUISTIC PATTERNS TO WHATEVER ISSUE YOU HAVE. USE IT TO SHARP YOUR THINKING SKILLS, HEAL YOURSELF, HEAL OTHER PEOPLE.

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NLP Meta-Model

 

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Sleight of Mouth

 

 

 

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Milton Erickson Model

 

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Crucial Principle:

Do not let anyone persuade yourself that NLP/Neurosemantics is smart or silly, good or bad, right or wrong. Test for yourself 😜

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Thank you! 

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37 minutes ago, integration journey said:

Thank you! 

You're welcome