my mother's comments upset me in unpredictable ways and i don't know why

[Lord of Darkness]

8 hours ago, Human Mint said:

This dynamic is older than the sumerians

Story Essay on Sariputta

"Once upon a time, in ancient India, there lived a young brahmin boy named Upatissa. He was incredibly intelligent and loved to learn about everything around him. Even as a child, he could understand difficult teachings that puzzled grown-ups!"

From Venerable Sāriputta’s life, we can learn:

1. Keep Learning: Always be curious and ready to learn new things

2. Be Humble: No matter how smart you become, stay modest and kind

3. Help Others: Use your knowledge to help friends and family understand important things

4. Be Loyal: Stand by your teachers and friends who guide you well

5. Honor Your Parents: Always respect and care for your family

6. Speak Gently: Use kind words even when others might be upset

 

 

 

[Carl-Richard]

I think after my awakening, I understood nobody could actually give me advice about anything, because I knew what I wanted, so their misunderstanding doesn't matter. Of course they will misunderstand, they haven't had the same experience. So just getting really firm and connected with the feeling of what you truly want, that will make anybody else's input simply indeed useful suggestions, which do not perturb you existentially.

[Vali2003]

Your emotions are your emotions. It’s really difficult/impossible to get an accurate answer about that from an external source. 

Any answer that comes from the external will be insufficient and unsatisfying in the end. 

I would recommend you to contemplate why you feel this way. This way you can get to them bottom-line of this emotional reaction. Basically the base-beliefs that are creating it. 

For an in-depth explanation of how to do this you’d have to read Peter Ralston’s “The Book of Not Knowing.” But here’s the 80/20 of the technique. 

1. Bring to mind the emotion you’re working on (feeling triggered by your mom). And try to recreate that feeling in your experience. Try to hold it as a constant in your state without getting distracted.
2. Ask yourself why you feel this way. By asking this, you create not-knowing. Be careful not to fill this space up with instinctive mind-chatter. Bathe in the feeling of not-knowing and stay with it, continuously asking why you feel this way. Try to feel into the emotion and penetrate into it to discover the answer. 
3. At some point you will get a deeper realization / a deeper truth of why you feel this way. 
4. Always hold on to your deepest realization and each time, you reach a new level, start asking again and go even deeper. 
5. At some point you will arrive at the bottom-line of the belief. Which is when you’ll have your ultimate answer as to why you feel that way.

[Judy2]

@Vali2003 yeah, true. thank you:)