Communication Skills: The Ultimate Life Purpose Power Tool

[Wisebaxter]

As life purpose is such a fundamental aspect of our path towards self actualisation, I'd like to share a recent insight I've had that has given me a real boost, which is that charisma and communication skills are at the heart of everything. I think this ties in with Leo's great video on marketing. 

I know this seems obvious and rudimentary to some, but like me you may be shocked by how far you can go with it.

I love the Podcast Diary of a CEO as Stephen Bartlett is so good as distilling pure wisdom out of his guests. I especially want to reccommened the following  interviews regarding communication skills and charisma because as I mentioned, they're the most important thing beside actual talent, apparently even more important, as people often see others with less skill getting more opportunities because they know how to market themselves or connect with people, to gain trust and make others feel a certain way. We're all wearing a mask, so why not wear an appealing one and make people feel good whilst getting your needs met.

Here are my top recommends for Charisma training. If you watch these and take notes, work on it..you will see your life change. I've already landed a job using this stuff. Went into that interview glowing, dealing out competencey cues left right and centre, a pause here, a head tilt there, some choice facial expressions, hand movements, slowing down my speech. It's just gold. Please don't disregard this. I say that as I care about my self actualising brethren and I just wish I'd known about this shit sooner. Notice how incredible each of these people are at communicating. Also notice how authentic they are. It's as if the mastering charisma allows you to come across as more natural and authentic. They are almost hypnotic to listen to and watch. 

 

 

 

 

With this one, pay more attention to McConaughey's way of communicating than the content, which is still very interesting and insightful. But really he's a poster child for charisma. 

I saved my favourite until last. Chase Hughes is something else. Look at how calm and controlled he is, whilst also seeming comfortable and relaxed. If you like it, look up his special operations manual. He's written a tome on covert tactics. Use what you can to get ahead as long as you look after people and leave them better off than before you found them. Really by mastering these skills you become more effective, more yourself, and more able to experience love and connection in every area of you life. 

Edited November 26 by Wisebaxter

[LordFall]

It's true. If you come at it from a nondual angle then anything you want in life you can get by just getting better at cooperating with the rest of reality and that's mostly done through communication.

I'm working on nonviolent communication as my next big communication skill. As an INTP I tend to be overly logical and use it as a weapon against people that disagree with me or just have a different perspective and I don't like that in myself and others. It shows up even here on this forum and I apologize to people if I've been rude to you in the past. It serves as to highlight my insecurities usually and my lack of communication skills if anything. 

[Wisebaxter]

20 hours ago, LordFall said:

It's true. If you come at it from a nondual angle then anything you want in life you can get by just getting better at cooperating with the rest of reality and that's mostly done through communication.

I'm working on nonviolent communication as my next big communication skill. As an INTP I tend to be overly logical and use it as a weapon against people that disagree with me or just have a different perspective and I don't like that in myself and others. It shows up even here on this forum and I apologize to people if I've been rude to you in the past. It serves as to highlight my insecurities usually and my lack of communication skills if anything. 

@LordFall How did you develop the self awareness to realise you had this issue? Was there a specific event? It's interesting to me as most people stay very ignorant of this and get stuck being self righteous and blaming other people 

[LordFall]

@Wisebaxter I noticed that I dislike when people are rude to me when they feel bad it feels unjust and like they're dumping their negativity on me. Logically it's not a cool thing to do. I used to do it to people but rationalize it as well I'm being rude but at least I'm right. There's a duality that Leo talked about where you're either in the fear polarity or the love polarity and I notice when I feel the need to logic someone to death it's usually out of insecurity or anger as opposed to actually wanting to have a good conversation or meaning well for the person so I keep catching myself.

It's usually more obvious when I do it to friends and family because I feel bad whereas random people I don't mind dominating to prove a point as much but I'm starting to be more empathetic even to internet strangers. 

[Human Mint]

And I need to work on interesting communication. I have a hard time maintaining the level of appeal even with the things I am passionate about (specially with those things). Basically I want to be better at knowing well how to convey ideas.

I am talking irl of course, internet has nothing to do with it.

Edited Sunday at 01:44 AM by Human Mint

[Wisebaxter]

@Human Mint Having this realisation is powerful. I had the same one recently and started researching and watching those videos I linked. The book 'Cues' by Vanessa Van Edwards is very good. A couple of the interviews I linked are with her. There are some things you can start doing very quickly to get better at conveying ideas and holding people's attention. It's very liberating when you realise it's a skill you can learn..

[Wisebaxter]

On 29/11/2025 at 1:06 AM, LordFall said:

@Wisebaxter I noticed that I dislike when people are rude to me when they feel bad it feels unjust and like they're dumping their negativity on me. Logically it's not a cool thing to do. I used to do it to people but rationalize it as well I'm being rude but at least I'm right. There's a duality that Leo talked about where you're either in the fear polarity or the love polarity and I notice when I feel the need to logic someone to death it's usually out of insecurity or anger as opposed to actually wanting to have a good conversation or meaning well for the person so I keep catching myself.

It's usually more obvious when I do it to friends and family because I feel bad whereas random people I don't mind dominating to prove a point as much but I'm starting to be more empathetic even to internet strangers. 

@LordFall Sounds like it usually gets triggered when people try and impose their opinions into you? Perhaps it gets your back up and you feel the need to put them in their place, or to give them a taste of their own medicine, like saying, if that's the game you want to play then you will lose...but then you end up feeling like actually you lost something too, maybe some composure, or you lost sight of your values etc 

I like what you said about the love polarity. It's harder to remain loving when you feel defensive or have an emotional reaction. I find it feels so good when someone baits me, or behaves arrogantly and I can retain a level of care and consideration for them, but it's very hard. This is a very rare skill I think. Sometimes all I can do is just not respond at all. 

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your experience 

 

Edited Monday at 08:41 PM by Wisebaxter

[Human Mint]

On 11/26/2025 at 5:29 PM, Wisebaxter said:

This is a good talk. I am impressed that someone like her created wealth by just teaching social cues.

Like she said in the video, is very hard to create positive social "cycles" as she calls it, but very easy to scatter negativity through negative facial cues for example, or negative commentaries. Is all about feedback loops.

You could have a million dollar idea but if you comunicate it wrong no one is going to listen.