Hookup and dating apps now and in 2020?

[XXXXXX]

@Kid A

Did you quit or are you still trying to improve? Anyway one should build an Instagram and be active there, posting stories, showing personality and frame.
Do you think if you continued and approached like 2000 women a year you could get successful with native women also or do you hold on to this limiting belief you mentioned earlier?

On 25/11/2025 at 2:05 PM, Kid A said:

cold approaching doesn’t really work on «native» Norwegian women

Always close to Instagram. No numbers, no snapchat. You can get those later if needed, but Instagram is 100x better to close with.

What have you done in your personal life to improve your game, like looksmaxxing, career, gym? Do you have optimal clothing style, physical fitness, passions, hobbies, regular events with your friends where you can invite girls?

I have done both night and daygame, more night game. You can improve alot gaming in clubs because it's more challenging environment. You don’t need to dance, you can lead and have the frame. You don’t have to approach in the dance floor.

I think you and your wingmen have some kind of group psychosis type limiting belief about native woman.
 

On 28/11/2025 at 0:00 PM, Kid A said:

If I ever hit it off with someone and things look promising, you can be 100% sure that one of her friends will think I’m a rapist or a serial killer or something, and drag her the fuck away from me.

What are you saying or doing to get that response?

 

You mentioned that most of your interactions where about boring stuff, did you ever think to talk about something interesting or make the "boring stuff" interesting.

[Kid A]

5 hours ago, XXXXXX said:

@Kid A

Did you quit or are you still trying to improve? Anyway one should build an Instagram and be active there, posting stories, showing personality and frame.
Do you think if you continued and approached like 2000 women a year you could get successful with native women also or do you hold on to this limiting belief you mentioned earlier?

It was only for one year. I quit and I’m never going back. I’m in a relationship now, but if I’m single in the future, it’s online dating and more hopefully social circle ftw. 

5 hours ago, XXXXXX said:

Always close to Instagram. No numbers, no snapchat. You can get those later if needed, but Instagram is 100x better to close with.

I haven’t had Instagram since 2014. I find that and TikTok as toxic as it gets, but no doubt that has hurt my results badly.

5 hours ago, XXXXXX said:

What have you done in your personal life to improve your game, like looksmaxxing, career, gym? Do you have optimal clothing style, physical fitness, passions, hobbies, regular events with your friends where you can invite girls?

I would say I had optimal clothes and a pretty good body (still do). Career wise, I dedicated that year to writing. 

In dating context, my social circle has been shit for many years, so there haven’t been opportunities there for probably 8 years. I guess that’s not unusual when you’re my age (31). 

5 hours ago, XXXXXX said:

What are you saying or doing to get that response?

 

You mentioned that most of your interactions where about boring stuff, did you ever think to talk about something interesting or make the "boring stuff" interesting.

That was daygame. At clubs and bars the interactions were of course much more playful. No idea what I did wrong…

5 hours ago, XXXXXX said:

I think you and your wingmen have some kind of group psychosis type limiting belief about native woman.

No. That’s not the case.

[XXXXXX]

@Kid A Did you find your girlfriend from online?

22 hours ago, Kid A said:

That was daygame. At clubs and bars the interactions were of course much more playful. No idea what I did wrong…

I know you meant daygame. My point was: why didn’t you talk about something that isn’t boring? Also, your attitude toward normal conversation is what makes it boring.

22 hours ago, Kid A said:

No idea what I did wrong…

This was your problem, not native women.

 

22 hours ago, Kid A said:

No. That’s not the case.

Do you have any limiting beliefs about attracting native women?

[Kid A]

14 minutes ago, XXXXXX said:

Did you find your girlfriend from online?

Yes.

14 minutes ago, XXXXXX said:

I know you meant daygame. My point was: why didn’t you talk about something that isn’t boring? Also, your attitude toward normal conversation is what makes it boring.

I sure didn't fint it boring. I did my best. Also, cold approaching during daytime is pretty exciting and not boring in itself, so I don't really see any problem with pretty basic get-to-know-topics in that setting. 

19 minutes ago, XXXXXX said:

23 hours ago, Kid A said:

No idea what I did wrong…

This was your problem, not native women.

 

23 hours ago, Kid A said:

No. That’s not the case.

Do you have any limiting beliefs about attracting native women?

I've approached around 800 women here. Over half of them were natives. I got a date with around 20 of them and none of them were natives. That's simply evidence enough for me that cold approaching is ineffective on native Norwegian women. Especially when other guys with much better game than me have identical results with them. I guess it's a limiting belief now, but I had to go through that process to get it.