How to Behave

[samijiben]

What is the best mode of behavior considering the circumstances? How would you carry yourself, speak, use body language, and make an effort to connect with others?

Let's say you have all the above under control: you can choose how to act. 

Depending on what kind of folk you find yourself with, and considering what goal you have, granted that you have one, you would want to optimize your behavior accordingly. 

Let's say you want to make an impression of being the smartest one in the room, by far? 

So, how would you act? What would you do? How would you use all the communicative tools at your disposal, like the subtelities of body language, tone of speech, and even such specifics as eye contact and blinking frequency... — to achieve your goal?

Let's say the goal is to come across as a respectful, humble person — same questions apply. How would you optimize your behavior to this end?

Let's say the goal is to be seen as confident and mature?

Let's say the goal is to be seen as no-one, that is, not to be seen, to blend into the room, to fit in naturally, to "become one of them?"

I could go on. There are all kinds of different goals you may have considering the circumstances, the people you are with, and how you wish them to perceive you.

So, for each desired outcome, how would one optimize their behavior to achieve it?

There are obviously so many factors at play here such as where you are, who you are with, what they are doing, and much more. 

Still, I want answers, people!

 

Thanks

 

[Yimpa]

“STOP THAT! This is a private institution, and we don’t tolerate that kind of behavior here.”

• someone laughs too loud
• exists too visibly
• breaks some unspoken rule about how bodies should move through space

suddenly, here comes that voice, dripping with the entitlement to police others.

 

“Private institution” - as if property rights trump human dignity. As if someone’s discomfort with difference justifies erasure. I spent years hearing variations of this. Years believing those voices had authority over my existence. Years learning to make myself smaller, quieter, more palatable.

Not anymore.

When you’ve seen through the performance, when you’ve recognized that these declarations are just fear dressed up in official language - they lose their power. They’re revealed as what they always were: desperate attempts to maintain control in the face of what threatens their rigid little worldview.

The irony? 

The most disruptive thing isn’t whatever behavior they’re trying to suppress. It’s refusing to accept their premise that they have any right to suppress it at all.

[Ramasta9]

The most powerful and attractive and magnetic and spiritual and loving and supportive and empowering thing you can ever do is to simply be yourself. If you know how to be who you truly are, how to go directly to your center, and be from there, the whole universe surrenders at your feet, regardless of circumstance or scenario. Its that simple.

 

Edited 19 hours ago by Ramasta9