Thinking about impermanence

[TruthFreedom]

This is how my life is going at the moment - I spend most of my time meditating, but if I'm being honest it could be considered procrastinating. My attempt at being happy is to sit for hours and "let go" of "everything", because I found when I do that I can get to a more peaceful state. This means that I am living life kind of like a monk. 

At one point about 6 months ago I created a goal for myself, and started working towards it. In my mind, I was gonna have a perfect body, perfect girlfriend, perfect house, perfect job. I thought that this is a reasonable life to work towards, and that by working towards it that I would be happy. I found out after a month of working towards these goals that I was more miserable than ever. I was working towards them in a regimented fashion. 

So what happened was that I calmed down and started doing nothing again. I decided that it wasn't worth working towards anything, because nothing lasts anyway, and I look at people such as property developers and they don't actually seem to be happy. Like Leo says in some of his videos, they are confusing success with happiness. Money doesn't bring lasting happiness. 

But also, doing absolutely nothing is making me fat and I think I could be enjoying life more. Maybe I just need to get the balance right between "doing" and being".

Does anyone have any thoughts?

[Natasha Tori Maru]

Do you feel like you are wasting time? 

I have been through phases of this feeling in life.

I got to the point where I realised 'why am I fine wasting time trolling people or gaming, but I am not fine wasting time working?' 

The difference was I couldn't bare the thought of disappointed or not being enough. Not on the time wasted. Not on meaninglessness. 

I decided I was okay with wasting time building shit even if the money meant nothing and I didn't successfully build anything. I just sort of - snapped. 

Anyway I don't have any advice, other than my story. 

❤️🌱

[UnbornTao]

You can focus on taking action toward your goals and creating what you want in a realistic way. But I'd say - don't want happiness. You'll only end up unhappy chasing it. Also, happiness might be different from what you think.

When it comes to perfect things, those are ideals - and they create suffering, not happiness. By definition, an ideal isn't meant to be attained. You'll compare your current experience to an idealized future and find it lacking as a result.

Make your goals more realistic and specific - you could even break them down into smaller, more manageable actions. Instead of "having the perfect body," you could phrase it as a habit: "run 30 minutes daily" or "increase your vegetable intake in this or that way," and so on. Just some examples. Maybe focus your energy on one or two major aspects of your life at a time.

Edited Wednesday at 05:32 PM by UnbornTao

[WonderSeeker]

5 hours ago, TruthFreedom said:

This is how my life is going at the moment - I spend most of my time meditating, but if I'm being honest it could be considered procrastinating. My attempt at being happy is to sit for hours and "let go" of "everything", because I found when I do that I can get to a more peaceful state. This means that I am living life kind of like a monk. 

At one point about 6 months ago I created a goal for myself, and started working towards it. In my mind, I was gonna have a perfect body, perfect girlfriend, perfect house, perfect job. I thought that this is a reasonable life to work towards, and that by working towards it that I would be happy. I found out after a month of working towards these goals that I was more miserable than ever. I was working towards them in a regimented fashion. 

So what happened was that I calmed down and started doing nothing again. I decided that it wasn't worth working towards anything, because nothing lasts anyway, and I look at people such as property developers and they don't actually seem to be happy. Like Leo says in some of his videos, they are confusing success with happiness. Money doesn't bring lasting happiness. 

But also, doing absolutely nothing is making me fat and I think I could be enjoying life more. Maybe I just need to get the balance right between "doing" and being".

Does anyone have any thoughts?

You must balance emptiness with fullness.

You meditate to empty out bullshit and replace it with truth.

But part of the truth is your human condition so you gotta satisfy that too.

You said you visualized having a perfect girl, house, body, and job.

But it made you miserable. Why?

My guess is you might have set too many goals at once, without taking them one at a time. Or going all of them bit by bit slowly (my strategy).

Another reason it might have failed is how do you know what's actually right for you? Have you experimented with different ways of living, dating, working, and so on? If so, great, you know what you want.

Just some things to think about. You got this man~