Femeninity in Men.

[TheGod]

Before we start, I want to leave no room for implicit interpretations or assumptions of what I mean by femininity. I’m definitely not talking about artificial, westernized notion of superior femininity which is spread these days, especially on social media. 80% of the modern women in the west (based on my personal observations and experience) represent this artificial femininity, but I’m not going to dive into this now, neither do I demonize it because we reap what we sow. My definition of femininity goes beyond human understanding and it’s based of my personal mystical experiences in consciousness work. Consciousness is Love and femininity is one side of the duality (and the other is masculinity). Both are Love and although they are expressed differently, they are one. Anyways, femininity is ability to recognize the beauty of consciousness represented in forms and receptivity to be affected by them by feeling deeply into them (empathy and connection). Let me give you a practical example. A few months ago, I saw a girl walking down the street with a small curly black puppy. When she was passing by me, I stopped her, asking for its name. She was a tiny black retriever pup. When I tried to reach out to her with my hand to pet her, she started wiggling with her cute little tail and she got very excited about it. The look in her eyes was pure infinite love behind the form and I was able to recognize it and feel it. I couldn’t help myself and I started crying (just a few drops of tears) because of how pure and adorable she was. This is an example of pure femininity and compare it to an Instagram influencer that gets excited by seeing a new fancy Gucci bag in her reel.

Anyways, I’m 29 and most of my life (until the age of 26-27) I had been repressing strong feminine side in me and what I’ve noticed is that a lot of self-help for men lack holistic understanding of authenticity. Men are taught how to become more masculine but the truth of the matter is that not all of men are equally masculine and a lot of them are very feminine and what they actually need is embracing the feminine, because in most cases they are pushing the masculine part, denying the feminine which in return leads to overexaggerated and unbalanced personality rather than authenticity. Also, the more masculine you become the more needy you get for the feminine and the consequences of it are very well foreseen. You become a chaser, you become dependent on external femininity. What you need to do instead is to internalize and develop your inner femininity. When you do it you will become a whole and healthy, independent man.

 What it takes to integrate a very strong feminine side if you were born in a close-minded and stupid society that shames femininity in men and equals it to weakness? Well, it takes a lot. The more powerful this side is in a man the more difficult it gets, but of course it depends on the society, culture, family. If you are lucky to be born in a first world country, you’ll have it much easier. On the other hand, if you are born in a post soviet country (or something worse) you will face a lot of obstacles.