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Being too attractive, becomes unattractive.

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46 minutes ago, something_else said:

There are also women who are extremely good looking but in a way that's kind of generic. Almost so perfect that they're boring to look at. That's probably a similar dynamic to what we're talking about here with guys that are 'too attractive.'

As humans, we relate most deeply over our shared flaws. If you have no flaws then you become very hard to relate to and you also risk coming across as a bit boring.

In anal sadistic compulsion/regression neurosis, since the phallic position is inhibited, you will use excrement as a substitute for the phallus.

So instead of choosing someone you like like a good vanilla ice cream (the phallus could be called "object a" in Lacan), you will prefer people with certain flaws that remind you of excrement and anal sadistic issues in general.

 


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1 hour ago, meta_male said:

Don't worry, I only commit crimes against modesty.

 

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1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

In anal sadistic compulsion/regression neurosis, since the phallic position is inhibited, you will use excrement as a substitute for the phallus.

So instead of choosing someone you like like a good vanilla ice cream (the phallus could be called "object a" in Lacan), you will prefer people with certain flaws that remind you of excrement and anal sadistic issues in general.

What?

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1 hour ago, something_else said:

What?

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6 hours ago, something_else said:

As humans, we relate most deeply over our shared flaws. If you have no flaws then you become very hard to relate to and you also risk coming across as a bit boring.

I mean I guess this perspective can be valid if we are talking about sexual attraction, but even then its not mostly true I dont think.

This thing about relating deeply to flaws and finding things boring when the individual has no flaws is mostly underdevelopment -- people like drama and like things that validate their drama.

If we were to analyse this outside the lens of sexual attraction it wouldn't apply at all. Because the individuals that influenced, that people cry about, and admire were perfect or near perfect individuals with no flaws: Buddha, Jesus, Mahavira, Muhammad, Rumi, Adi Shankara etc.

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Well, most women won't be interested in a guy that's a lot more physically attractive than she is. Women tend to like to seek their match looks-wise... or perhaps even a guy who's a little less attractive than her. This is speaking generally, of course.

My experience is that I tend to feel just as neutrally about guys who look like male models as I do about men who are significantly less attractive than me. They just feel like, "Okay, they exist. But nothing computes romantically or sexually."

But to say that being too attractive makes you less attractive isn't really true.

It just means that more attractive women will be more attracted to you... while less attractive women will be less attracted to you as they will see you more neutrally.

Like, if a guy is a 6... women who are 6s and 7s will be attracted to them. But women who are 8s and above and women who are 5s and below will be less attracted to them.

If a guy is an 8... women who are 8s and 9s will be attracted to them. But women who are 10s and women who are 7s and below will be less attracted to them.

So, it won't make you less attractive in general. About the same number of women will be attracted to you in terms of amount. The range will stay similar in breadth but will move up the scale if you're more attractive or down the scale if you're less attractive.


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@Spiral One time a girl in high-school came up to me to ask me out her friend brought her over and it was like she was having a panic attack. I couldn't do anything but look at her I got scared cause she was shaking. And then I said ok and left cause she couldn't say anything.

It has something to do with male-female relationships. A woman ask me to have sex over text then she said when she gets there I have to make the first move because she couldn't cause she was to nervous. I'm like you are doing it right now. But I guess in person a man has dominance over a woman just by being a man.

The answer to this is something I've previously stated. Womans survival is beauty if they find something beautiful and it rejects them they will literally die. Their identity to beauty will die and thats them.

Its like taking psychedelics ego death.

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