How to not put yourself in dangerous situation.

[Rishabh R]

How to approach a girl whom you genuinely like and how to know weather she is single without asking explicitly? Otherwise you would land in trouble by approaching a girl who is already in a relationship. 

Is scanning for pre-approach signals the solution ?

[Artsy]

Asking ~ "Are you single?" Is perfectly fine. 

 

As you practice socialising you'll get a better intuitive sense of when to ask as you become more socially callibrated. 

[Rishabh R]

2 minutes ago, Artsy said:

Asking ~ "Are you single?" Is perfectly fine. 

 

As you practice socialising you'll get a better intuitive sense of when to ask as you become more socially callibrated. 

Ok thanks.

[Princess Arabia]

Why would you get in trouble with someone by just approaching. Yes, some lunatic men are out there and will respond harshly if they witness a man hitting on their gf, but it's up to her to say, she's with someone or as soon as you find out, apologize and exit the situation. 

If she's taken but her man isn't around, it's still up to her to tell you she's taken without you even having to ask. Asking is OK, but it doesn't guarantee it either way, because females lie about this all the time. Approach, feel her mood, if she's receptive that's all needed for now until a bit later on then maybe ask just for added insurance that she's not putting you in harm's way. No guarantee either way and there's no full-proof method for scanning if she does or not. Unfortunately, it's a chance you take because some women may not be upfront either way and for no valid reason.

Edited September 11 by Princess Arabia

[Rishabh R]

@Princess Arabia Ok. Thanks for the nuanced reply.

[Yimpa]

On 9/11/2025 at 9:09 AM, Rishabh R said:

you would land in trouble by approaching a girl who is already in a relationship. 

It’s assumed by most that “single/taken” are the only two categories. But that framework doesn’t capture everyone’s reality.

My own relationship dynamics go beyond that binary. I have multiple partners now—but that only became possible because I first learned monogamy well: trust, communication, respect. From there I transitioned into polyamory/ethical non-monogamy, which simply means having more than one relationship, but always with honesty and consent. And it’s not just dating separately—I also have partners who are in relationship with me simultaneously.