Reflection/mirrowing re other people?

[theleelajoker]

11 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Of course you can have what you want; I want a glass of water and I'll get it soon.
But I don't have the glass of water because I wanted it; I have it because there isn't much resistance to shifting attention to the state of having/experiencing it.
It's a subtle game of shifting the state of wanting to the state of having.

I was not talking about a glass of water. As said above, two relationships evolved out of me really wanting to be with this woman. Jobs is another example, and when I found them I was definitely not in a "having" state. Same with a flat for instance. 

Where you get me more is this part : 

14 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I have it because there isn't much resistance to shifting attention to the state of having/experiencing it.

It's a subtle game of shifting the state of wanting to the state of having.

The resistance.... that's something I can actually feel. How much resistance do I have towards something. That makes much more sense to me then the "having" mindset. I can seek, but I don't have resistance towards not having it right now

Thanks will let that sink in..

[Hojo]

@theleelajoker just something to think about and play with i have been doing it it is fun.

[theleelajoker]

16 hours ago, Hojo said:

@theleelajoker just something to think about and play with i have been doing it it is fun.

Sounds like a good approach