How to get laid after a date and avoid the friendzone?

[LordFall]

Invite her to your place/move it to her place. Different strategies work with different people, it is true that in general if you're attracted to eachother and connecting it'll move forward but that can also not work. Practically though sex happens when you make moves to bring her to your place and then to your bedroom and then try and kiss her and that should either seal the deal or you'll get some cold feet. In that case don't pressure her, deflect the tension do something else for a bit and then try again 15 mins later and if she's not down then I would verbally ask her what's up and if she wants to do more and she'll tell you herself. 

[integration journey]

Nevermind guys, she seems kinda flaky now.

she’s not responding like she was before the first date. 
I’m just texting about how she is and to hangout next weekend.

the first date was really nice though but  I don’t understand women sometimes. Why do they do that? So flaky. 
I’ll get over it if she ghosts me. 

I was being non needy but oh well.
 

Edited May 1 by integration journey

[Hojo]

A line women use on me is 'so what do you want to do now'. After the date in the car,The first thought that comes to mind is sex and if they are not interested they will just say they want to go home. If they are interested they will say I dont know.

Edited May 1 by Hojo

[integration journey]

Yeah so she reached back and said she didn’t feel a connection and would prefer not to keep in touch but she wishes me all the best and she hopes that I find a good match in the future. 

I honestly feel so much respect for her for being so honest. 
A little bit bummed out since I really liked her after the date but I accept it now. 

Edited May 1 by integration journey

[Lauro Chapa]

I get your frustration. Something similar happened to me, but in my case we even had sex twice, so it kinda hurts even more, I was more attached and excited about her. Later she told me that she didn't have a real sexual attraction towards me. I don't have a lot of sexual experience, so I suppose she noticed that when we had sex, and she didn't like it. I don't think it's about romantic connection, we had that, the problem is all about lack of sexual tension and attraction. I'm just not good enough yet in this context to generate that specific feeling. You just have to not take it personal and keep trying with more women and accumulate more experience. Oh, and of course, grow as a man and focus more in your life purpose than in dating.

Edited May 2 by Lauro Chapa

[integration journey]

1 hour ago, Lauro Chapa said:

I get your frustration. Something similar happened to me, but in my case we even had sex twice, so it kinda hurts even more, I was more attached and excited about her. Later she told me that she didn't have a real sexual attraction towards me. I don't have a lot of sexual experience, so I suppose she noticed that when we had sex, and she didn't like it. I don't think it's about romantic connection, we had that, the problem is all about lack of sexual tension and attraction. I'm just not good enough yet in this context to generate that specific feeling. You just have to not take it personal and keep trying with more women and accumulate more experience. Oh, and of course, grow as a man and focus more in your life purpose than in dating.

Thank you!