Aquarius

Experiment, see what works for you, don't get lost in your head. Try to follow practical advice, something you can try out. If you remain open, nothing and no one can take your openness away. Don't stress about becoming dogmatic. You just won't. And everything changes anyway so you can reverse the belief if you see it is hurting you (just a thought, not necessarily it will hurt you). Listen to your gut instinct.

As soon as I left my bf he got enlightened or something (wow, what a rekt xD). So yeah, good for him... Anywayyy, most of the info out there is for guys and how GUYS are supposed to approach GIRLS, not the other way around. So what do I do as a girl to meet a guy? Heck, I don't even feel comfortable talking online, let alone irl. Some tips please?

It's my birthday this Sunday and it sucks that I have no one to celebrate with. I will be turning 20. I finished school 2 years ago and I'm unemployed, about to get my diploma this year (struggling to motivate myself). I have a wide interest list, I'm basically interested in everything, I also make lots of art and crafts, I'm a music addict and could recommend a song to anyone. In general when I talk to old friends or internet friends via Facebook they seem to really like me, they say I'm their best friend etc., but somehow everyone is busy with life and I'm left alone. I mean I'm not the type to go to parties every day n stuff (never even been to a real party), but like literally never going outside?? It's a shame. I have a boyfriend, but he is 10 years older than me and we have difficulties in our relationship. I think it's the age gap. I need "lots" of care as he would say, but honestly wouldn't any girl my age? Besides, all I want is just a walk in the park or doing something interesting once a month at least, but all we do is that I visit him like twice a week then go home in the morning. He doesn't make any effort, he doesn't even care about himself. So I'm lonely again. How could I make more friends? Any advice would help.

Let's say I'm working a lot on myself. I am pretty awakened to certain existential truths, I read self-help materials, I research my diet and fitness stuff, I plan my life and career, I take care of my look and I do my best to be a good girlfriend. Can I build a successful relationship with someone who probably doesn't even know or care about these things and just is the way he is? Not to mean he is dumb or unworthy of my love. Sure he can be caring, sexy, funny, charming and all the stuff some guys cannot achieve even with self-help books and courses... But we don't always connect. So I have a few questions: 1. What is the biggest obstacle in a relationship between an ordinary person and someone doing self-development? 2. Can it be a successful relationship? If so, what is necessary for this to happen? 3. Is it worth a shot? What experiences can one gain, if any? 4. What if both are in love with each other, but don't always connect? 5. Is it possible to get him involved into self-development for the sake of the relationship? If so, how?

Haha, I love you guys.

Well, first of all women can feel your intentions. As someone mentioned earlier, the women who said "yes" to you were women who chose you already, so they had the same intention as you (to fuck with someone). Secondly, please remember that not all women are looking for one night with a random stranger. To spot those kinds of women who want sex asap, learn the non-verbal clues (that of a horny woman I mean). As before mentioned, longer eye contact for example or an open posture. So I guess you can do two things: Change your intention. Instead of looking for someone to fuck, look for someone to connect with on a deeper level (because you mentioned you want someone amazing for setteling down). Or Make sure you choose the women who want the same thing as you. If you're looking just to have sex, look for clues like girls smiling at you, looking in your eyes, open posture, sexy clothing... I'm not expert on pickup, but these are just some basic things that pop up in my mind that might not be obvious for some. But who knows, maybe you already knew these. Good luck!

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@Shin Yeah, I could ask my dad to take me in this nearby town for cool events (parents live separately and I don't really talk to dad). You know guys, since I posted this thread I evolved a lot, many of the problems listed above were solved, I realised how gifted I am and now I try to be more grateful for everything I have in life, both material and immaterial, and I also realised I actually DON'T EVEN HAVE TIME FOR FRIENDS! At least not right now. I am very busy with studying, I started taking classes and have a busy schedule, me and my boyfriend broke up, etc.. I have a couple of friends whom I meet occasionally like once a week or once a month, and like 2-3 internet friends too for having meaningful conversations. I have all the time in the world for studying because no one pushes me to work. Life is good. @Max_V How does one work on their shadow self? Can you give me some details? Maybe some sources too? And where do I start with unwiring? Sounds big indeed! I'm now laser-focusing on getting my diploma and that's it for now. After I get my diploma I will try to create a business out of my art and with the earned money I will buy books which I will study in my free time. I mean after I finish the other hundreds of books I own (I told ya guys I'm gifted ). Books like classic literature, spirituality, philosophy, art... And meanwhile maybe going to some events with my dad, strenghtening our father-daughter relationship, travel, culture, nature... Another thing I work on is understanding politics. I just watch/read random news and try to form an opinion. And since I'm a "music addict" I'm also interested in getting cultured in music, knowing a thing or two, not just listening to random stuff. It all has history, meaning, etc. So I'm studying music too. I know many of you are going to disagree with me with these last two things (politics and music), but for me they're important. @Dan Arnautu I'm pretty open-minded, empathic, and a good listener. I'm willing to give, yes. Your response was very helpful, and thanks for the book recommendation! @Rob06 Thanks a lot.

@Nahm I know. I need to center myself!

@Shin It would be a SIN to touch such perfection. No edits.

@Shin Better stay safe haha

@Shin haha you should see it it's a cool Rammstein t-shirt But I think I'm removing the pic cause might be violating the rules

@Max_V Thanks for your empathy. How is your journey so far?

@Leo Gura Thanks Leo, it certainly is a crutch for me!

It is considered addiction, right? What can I do about it?

@BobbyLowell True, I realised the same thing recently. @pluto Thanks. <3 So good to be in my 20's finally.

@Hardkill Thanks @SFRL Lool @Socrates Thanks. <3 @Shin Thanks. @Vinnie No, why do you ask that??

@Jacobsrw Thank you, this is some amazing stuff! Bookmarked @Shin Yeah you're right, sorry. Just wanted to say I'm very distant from both the female and male example.

@Shin Lol he isn't really the soccer stereotype.. He is also spiritual in his own way, but kinda hesitant to develop himself further... And yoga?? Eh... Not for me. I'm just this deep meta philosophic occultism-oriented person who likes to crack a cold one with the crew (assuming that whatever's cracked doesn't contain alcohol, so it can range from cocoa milk to iced green tea). Here's a picture of me:

What does he mean by "Better to die than live in a sleep"?

I agree with Vingger. You really have to ask yourself how much of that overthinking leads to results. Besides that, I would recommend having a thought journal, or just having a few blank print papers to fill up with thoughts, then throw them away if you want. But the best is having a note-taking app, and every time you have a need to overthink, just write, and write, and write... Write your heart out. And see what conclusions you got. That, combined with 10-30 minutes of meditation daily can be helpful. Good luck to you!

What about carnivore animals? Specifically carnivore pets? Just a thought/question. I agree that fast food and grains damage our bodies, and I loved Leo's video about how to shop for food. I will never look at food the same way again! But I think meat is needed sometimes. Although I'm also very new to this. However, I have read pro-meat articles about vegetarian studies, and all of them seem to be conducted by animal rights promoters or something (thus might be biased), I can't remember the exact informations written there, read it long time ago. I think the site was called "Let them eat meat" or "My plate". Look up these terms if you want, and I do admit I have to do my research. Also, I'm not attacking anyone with my initial question, as I myself am also considering to try out the vegan diet for at least a month - after reading up on it ofc. If anyone could recommend a list of books to me, that would be great.

You just need a stronger vision. Also try accepting your feelings, everything is how it should be. Just do what feels right to you, even if it's not something you would hear from, say, a zen master or whatever. Be our own master and live by your own terms. Create your own life and live it by your own rules. Follow your heart. Good luck to you!

Do you expect to get any book for free from the book store? No. Then why do you expect other people to work hard on courses and other material just to give it away for free? Would you work for free on various projects? The materials presented here are the results of a life-long investment, both financial and energy. Do you think this comes for free? Not to mention most of the materials presented here are free (the videos, etc.). Maybe you should stop considering business a "bad" thing, and grow up. Besides, people following Leo blindly is the result of THEM being atached to ideals, and THEM thinking Leo is omnipotent. He never claimed to be. He is just a young man making videos, no one forced you to watch his stuff, let alone buy his stuff. Jeez. What made you create this post?? Sounds like you're dogmatic.