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If we are in a big dream, if we are an idea, why should we master this dream, this idea? (I'm not depressed, I don't have any suicidal thoughts or anything. I'm just curious to drop this bomb on the forum and see what happen ahaha)

Actually, I never used the word "real" cause I can't define it.

But if I have pain, and this pain is caused by a disease, then is it resistance when I try to treat that disease in order to stop the pain?

I'm sorry, it seems quite complex to me. What comes prior in your opinion?

That's the key I was missing. For me, pain implies physical suffering

I think each of us experiences suffering at some point. But if you never suffer then good for you bro ahaha

Why did you state that so confidently? I'm an ordinary guy with ordinary sufferings.

20 years old here vision: goal oriented and sex driven

The best teacher is your own experience. Study the theory (there are lots of free good materials around) but never forget to actually GO OUT and practice. See what works and what doesn't work through your own successes and failures.

Lamp Sea Paper Key Team Are you able to find 5 random words without any direct connection between them within 10 seconds? p.s.: apple, banana, cherry, melon, orange --> aren't worth because they are all fruits.

@ajasatya @Devi Shanti Wow, husband and wife on the same forum! You are amazing! I would have a slightly uncomfortable question. Sometimes love just fade away. Sometimes that initial passion ends no matter how you try. You feel impotent. Do you fear this possibility? How would an enlightened couple deal with that?

Yes, it's very helpful to create new connections, new paths between neurons. You can. Practice it a few times and you'll find out Because it recalls when, as a child, I randomly combined different LEGO. (and ultimately just to attract attention)

Looking vulnerable and showing your weaknesses seems a feminine trait. Being aware of your weaknesses without denying them seems a masculine trait.

Yes, probably, subconsciously, I feel better with this "revenge", but I have done all my best not to hurt her. I told her I won't forget hour moments, I told her I still love her, but we are too young and too immature to keep a long distance relationship right now... let's have our experiences and maybe in the future... who knows...

Solo inner work, integrity, no contacts, having fun with others and... she came back. But I don't want her anymore so I kindly left her. It feels like a little revenge, nice how it works this role reversal game.

Basically, I started this thread to analyze what could have caused my breakup. The fact is that following the book's teaching, I was too sure about the future of my relationship. I thought something like "yes, I can handle it because I'm far more conscious than many other guys out there". But, obviously, reality hit me in the ass ??? Maybe is not about love, maybe is that I became needy, with time, without even knowing. Now I'm realizing: the more the relationship goes, the more I become attached to it. Next time I'll try to be more detached and aware that everything could end instantly.

Yes, you got it ahaha I used to do the second one, but now I think you have to find the right balance. Probably the truth lies in the middle.

I don't have enough data to process a statistical trend, I've been just in one serious relationship. Anyway, after five months of the relationship, she loses the mental attraction. Not the physical one, by the way. She was still quite available as a fuckbuddy, but I preferred to cut contact.

I think you become really confident when you can handle rejection.

We met a few days ago. We talked, we talked a lot. She said “I no longer feel the same...I don’t think I can go on”. She has loved me, but now that love seems faded away. I was shocked, but I kept calm, I kept listening to her carefully, and then I hug her while expressing my feelings “I love you and I will love you forever, but I must accept and respect your choice” Long kiss “goodbye”. It’s so hard, I’ve cried a lot these days, but I feel it was the right thing to do.

Background: I am in a long distance relationship. When we are together, face to face, no problem. But when we are far from each other, sometimes I really want to text her back with " fuck off " Anyway, I have never done that. When it happens to me, I use to wait for some hours, or even some days, until my anger is gone. I think it's a matter of pride. I don't want to be the one who always says "good morning" first or be the one who always asks for a video call, so there could be times when we don't communicate for a whole week. Then one of us comes forward and we restart to text like nothing happened, but I feel really frustrated inside.

Wow! Amazing! You are always really helpful, thank you

I'm looking for some ideas and cool stuff to do with my gf. We are still pretty young so we like to try a lot We like to feel different range of emotions, from the romantic ones to the risky ones (like having sex at her/my place while our parents are out, or having sex at night on the near beach, or using ropes, bandages etc)

What expression do you see? I'm curious because, actually, my brother has Asperger so he sees something different than me.