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Wow there is so much to unpack here ... im overwhelmed here and not even in your shoes ?

@Emerald I once had integrated masculine and feminine it was like neither of them were shining it created more struggle inside and seeing relationship as equal seems really weak and repelling to me.. In Vikings Vallhala series one guy could lead men to battle and was equal in relationship with a woman, looked really off to me...even tho its more concious way...

@Emerald When the humanity is recognized..then what changes in power dynamics... how does relationship works if there is no someone above or under, how is polarity spark created then?

@Emerald So what do you think is the alternative to power struggle: " man being above and woman under him " what is the problem of that dynamic why does it look mysoginistic? You said make her feel shame and inferior how does he do that?

There are many points ,but main point that drives all others of being a good man is :being in control and influence of himself, not being influenced and controled by outside forces...from there comes understanding of yourself your path etc. This is a deeper topic of its own, its not just the normie advice control your emotions and yourself ,you dont have foundation for it , so in the end it will turn into passive agression and boiled up emotions etc.

@supremeyingyang Iq tests in my opinion just shows how good you are at solving iq tests, life is not that simple that iq tests will determine how you gonna go in it...

@supremeyingyang Yeah actually smart person rejects Iq tests, because for them is just braging rights that they see as stupid....

@supremeyingyang Because that individual is not looking at society or someone else to guide or show him who he is ,hes on his own. He is not following norms... thats the difference between alfa male(top dog but follows social norms hyearchy) and sigma(also alfa type that creates his own thing to follow)

Because you dont know yourself

Yeah,dont do things you dont want to do, just to get resaults thats a losing mentality...

Not even a sigma if you need test to say you are some type of man...the irony ?

@Something Funny Yeah you are bullshiting yourself ,because you dont make anything a problem because you are the problem, same thing also you trying to not masturbate thinking you are growing you really not, its for self development noobies starting out..it wont turn you into a man or something...nobody is forsing you to do it and calling it an addiction is bs, because you are choosing to spent all that time on it...

Bottom line is you are the problem from not consuming porn responsibly like anything else...

Congratulations you got saved by a friend!

If you come with that kind of judgment from the title no wonder...

@something_else You both have a low self esteem and would drag eachother down..

Why being friend with a loser?

@StarStruck You dont know what game is, your game is weak so you cant handle it ,you think shes valuable because she looks good sign of a weak game...Game fixes everything

Learn Game

@Leo Gura Ohh now i get it its totally different angle than i was looking at,that's how i was acting as a kid you love yourself but you want everyone else to love you to, if not you are mean to them.

@Jannes There is so much confusion here,why are you going with her on this "dates",why would she be explicit when shes getting free attention and you probably buying her stuff,its you not knowing what you are doing and making stuff happen then blaming her for that...you are like playing hope game...

@Jannes Dont expect anything from her btw, you rejected her moves whats the issue here,whats this real talk with someone you dont know?

You are expecting her to act like a guy and she seems young,immature playing games, probably also because she has a bf, that is not doing great but good enough to keep her until she finds replacement...and you think too much about someone that is not even worthy of it, probably because shes cute and you started to like her from all the games shes playing and you thinking about her...

@Leo Gura I dont know why would then someone who loves himself need to put someone down all the time,making themselves appear important? I always thought self hate comes from being insecure in who you are, which causes low self belief and low self belief causes negative self talk and view of yourself... then self hate... you must then get external validation to love yourself(pseudo love) because you cant self reflect(as a narc) mybe im wrong in all this...

Narcissists are full of shame and insecurity,thats why they lash out to not see it and have to have a great sense of self, so they dont see the deep rooted trauma....they actually dont love themselves its a compensation...they are addicted to validation,compliments and attention to feed their ego so it appears they love themselves...there is a difference between personality disorter and someone actually loving themselves that looks like narcissism... Difference is narcissist feeds of enviroment and is insecure full of shame vs someone feeding of himself and love for himself that comes from him that could look the same..