NoSelfSelf

@AJBrew There is only a need to be more awesome you,there is no need somewhere outside,so everything you doing is immidietly winning and is not determined by some kind of resault...

When understood that you can only do the action for the sake of action, without expectation of the end resault(which is a distraction) you know the response is not up to you,expectation before action kills the interaction...

When are you guys start to become men and stop looking what other men are doing and study yourself, its honestly ridicioulous...?

As far as i know asexual gets aroused only if hes in emotional attachment with someone.... I have few points on the list but im not asexual...

@Vrubel i dont get the point you are making ,like there should be no wars no world hunger but its happening and here is the forum to get the info...

@Vrubel Its natural for people to bully you if you show any kind of weakness they will attack its super normal...if hes in a process it will happen...

Yeah i know that it sucks...mind is making sure for you to stay in comfort zone and not ever do that again or soon after...if you are grateful for the good moments you had and keep answering to that negative voice with i dont care,i did what i wanted to do, no regrets it will slowly stop... There is a whole process beforehand(the nights out) to keep destroying the negative expectations and replacing with what you gonna do and say etc.with no expectations..

@mr_engineer it self destructed because you were doing it for her and not 100% yourself, thats why everything self destruct if you are not doing it for yourself but to get her (here her approval or something). Real asshole do it for himself and it doesnt self destruct and it works..

@CARDOZZO Nice post ?

@Myioko ??

@Myioko elaborate what you trying to say?

@Judy2 Feel free to pm @vindicated erudite im assuming you are saying that social circle is better to get girls if so then thinking that way its better lets say but its not for personal growth which i put beyond girls...

@vindicated erudite In growing not even comparable..

Good man makes a good woman, shes in a long run reflextion of a man...

@Chives99 Ofcourse im selfish just like you ;),my job is to do what im set up to do, its not my job to care if shes gonna give me attention or not,im allowed to apporach, shes allowed to say no...but this attitude like omg shes so precious that i need to take care of her before myself is weak,and saying good luck having girlfriend: i would rather have my rights to put my needs and what i want first ,than to put her above me and do things for her just so she can be with me jikes ?

@Chives99 Why do you care about what she wants and not what you want...do you see you just made her more important than yourself?

You think like a female,you care too much about everyone but yourself... Its all about influence,impact,direction and thinking like this,how are you doing it in social setting, i dont get it...waiting for it to fall into place by situational happening? Im attacking the mentality because i dont get it so want an explanation...

@koyadr3 I see basically every point that you lacking, its not something shallow its deep rooted and it impacts every part of your life not just dating...but to answer it all here will take like 10 hours ?

Wow there is so much to unpack here ... im overwhelmed here and not even in your shoes ?

There are many points ,but main point that drives all others of being a good man is :being in control and influence of himself, not being influenced and controled by outside forces...from there comes understanding of yourself your path etc. This is a deeper topic of its own, its not just the normie advice control your emotions and yourself ,you dont have foundation for it , so in the end it will turn into passive agression and boiled up emotions etc.

@supremeyingyang Iq tests in my opinion just shows how good you are at solving iq tests, life is not that simple that iq tests will determine how you gonna go in it...

@supremeyingyang Yeah actually smart person rejects Iq tests, because for them is just braging rights that they see as stupid....

@supremeyingyang Because that individual is not looking at society or someone else to guide or show him who he is ,hes on his own. He is not following norms... thats the difference between alfa male(top dog but follows social norms hyearchy) and sigma(also alfa type that creates his own thing to follow)

Because you dont know yourself

Yeah,dont do things you dont want to do, just to get resaults thats a losing mentality...