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You should have leave the situation sooner is what you could have done differently

@illusory thats the problem you have to be willing to lose her at any moment even be happy to lose her thats next level stuff...

@illusory my bad with using clingy in wrong context what im saying is you thinking about her and trying to figure it out really bad shes in your mind 24/7 probably... its checkmate basically? so you becoming clingy(Needy better word) by trying to give her what she wants and what should i do to keep her instead what should i do to move her...but you did great whatever you did at that point or she just wanted to fuck...

@illusory with clingy i meant doing aloot of stuff this early... What do you want she offered sex again ? you have some big expectations of them...

@illusory Its all good making yourself priority number 1 and her number 5 is whats the lesson here imo... Not doing what she wants but where you want it to go number 2 Number 3 Dont become clingy because you got little bit of action

Do you realize your anxiety comes from pedestelizing situation and her? Just food for thought@Someone here treating her like your spouse?! Saying i like you are you serious ??

I mean whats obvious to me is that you dont understand that woman are changing minds all the time based on her mood so its weird to her when you didnt want to meet and you going for what she wanted which you never do ...and spenting too much time is true because she needs time to think about you two but if shes offering you what you want why pass on that ?

Because you are still in mental prison but view is better You dont see how it works thats prison keeping you in prison...

@Roy Yeah taking a gun to a bank do gets you resaults ?

Why do you care about other men?

I have spent almost a decade deconstructing ego and basically everything in between ?... That left me with not very developed identity which makes you not have a real compas in your life so having solid one is really important... Tough to present yourself to others so they can see who you are etc. My queastion is for people who found themselves as ego.... How did you find who you are? What components does identity structure has? Any pointers for information or how to go about building an identity? If someone has big picture overview would be awesome! Where to start from? the self image or what? it feels like overwhelming task to map or create ?

Its sad that people get more invested in others lives but their own...

@A Fellow Lighter First thanks for adressing my queastions... Well i learned alot from last typing here.. I figured that identity is so important to define because it shows you how to respond to situations how to behave and stay on course to what you want! I dont speak much yes if im not with phylosophicaly minded individuals.... First have to define myself before i can look to grow in self actualizing way? Im defining myself then standing behinde that with appropriate actions thats identity basically imo...

Thats ego reaction to change in conciousness you just described... His face is contentment not meaninglesness

By becoming independent thinker who stands on his own principles,laws values his own relationship with yourself... You dont have a weak personality you have a weak programming...

@Nilsi dont talk to me again ?

@Nilsi Thats the whole point of this thread,you want me to think like you and you dont want to give the answers i told you to give me by answering my queastions in the thread...you are not helping me because your advice is for you not for me...it seems you dont see this trap thats why grounding myself in my identity i can pick the advice for my journey and not just taking others povs and not having my own so in the end i end up nowhere because im not growing on my individual path! There is no one fit all advice and one journey one way ! And you just said i dont have positive outlook on life like you know me ?

@Nilsi dont see where i asked you for your opinion on that?you are just spitting your agenda from your identity hope it works for you i dont even wanna go in whats healthy relationship with enviroment ? being spineless and walked all over by being selfless im not on that level of development...

@Rob06 True to make it, i want to know the structure of its design so i can backwards engeneer it... I was arrogant, loud,outspoken child that got in many trouble with authority not really smart ?

@Razard86 i want my own identity so i dont talk about absolute truths in everything its weird...i could ask about how to make a tea and 10 people here will tell me tea? Tea is just an extencion of you you have already made it because you are infinity i mean its like brainwashed cult member speaking...

@puporingBeing a shapeshifter means you are a follwer,you will end up doing and believing in things based on which situation you are in just having existence for existence sake i dont see point in it...

@StarStruck how that has anything to do with my post ?? @Brittany can you give an example of your i am and how it helps you in the world and why you chose or have it? @undeather how can doing things make me form an identity thats what i would be doing not what i am...?

@Nilsi thing is i dont want to have normal life but dont yet know what life im looking for...dont want a gf and helping humanity means you are developed in your identity if you want to have bigger impact like me because i know that im idealist but dont know in what? Great life doesnt come spontaniously thats why i made this thread what will come next is more of the same you had in my experience..

@Salvijus Great found my identity ? @Nilsi you are saying it from pov like someone who has identity if you know your dreams and what experience you should have you have placed an identity before it...

@Salvijus i get it but its like i need more depth than that ? @Nilsi thats the thing how can a girl see who i am show her depth of me when i dont have sense of myself? When i cant see clearly who i am i could show her anything and seeing if something sticks thats horrible ?