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I’ve found that men and women literally cannot be friends unless you play sports together or something.

Totally. When men are young and horny it’s like you’re out with a bunch of animals. I’m 32 and I feel like I’m losing that drive to socialise and get laid. I don’t really care about people in general these days. The more people I meet the more I want to isolate. What do people possibly want to talk about? Now being 32 I’d rather be with one girlfriend who isn’t into drama or gossip or celebrities.

I’m with you on that. Plenty of friends over the years but not many girlfriends. In my opinion having lots of male friends can hold you back from getting good with girls. Too much competition and ‘testosterone’. I say go out on your own.

Yep. I live in a small town in the UK. I’d have to move to London and change my entire way of life in order to do it properly. That’s where people are, cities. I talk to people all day long at the moment but it’s never in a flirtatious way, it’s purely logical.

I’m 32 and considering socialising my ass off to get it over and done with. I can see that not socialising enough will come back to bite me later. I’ve had lots of friends and was very popular. But these last few years I’ve been isolating myself.

Is pick-up optional? That’s the question I’d love to know the answer to. Is pick-up optional???

I hate reading threads like this. I’m in a small town. Was good with girls when I was younger. Started working from 18 and had a few girlfriends since then but not many. Wish I could move to a big city to get better with women but the cost is outrageous and I’d have to work low paid jobs to have the energy to go out all the time. Really stuck. This sucks. I can see with wisdom that if I don’t nail this part of my life I’ll regret it. 32 years old now. Can’t tell if that’s even young anymore?

@Leo Gura your old way of teaching was brutal. Hitting so many pain points in the mind! But I liked it, because that’s the only way we’ll learn I guess.

And also I honestly think it’s a bit weird to move to an expensive city purely to date. It’s like you need something else to focus on - with dating on the side. That being said, I’ve got to the point now where I probably would move to London purely to date? Just to get it out of my system.

I’m in exactly the same boat. I’m living in a small town in the UK and I really want to go all out with dating, but moving to London would mean me paying £2000 a month for a room in a house share. I’m still tempted to actually do it because in a small town where everyone knows everyone it’s not good for dating. I know I need to nail this part of my life because if I don’t I will regret it. It’s just the cost of it is ridiculous…

He’s absolutely brilliant. He makes it sound so ridiculously simple too, which helps. I’ve listened to a few of his podcasts and the way he talks about everything so casually but it’s so deep at the same time is amazing. He can laugh at stuff normal people cannot.

I might have to. It’s got to the point where I have to change my entire life. Living in a town in England isn’t getting me anywhere. Everyone knows each other. There isn’t anyone new to meet. I can see that if I don’t do something, I’ll end up seriously regretting it.

I’m 31. Too late to talk to thousands of women?

Right… so who is going to approach 100,000 women? It seems like the whole pick-up and game stuff is purely for successful entrepreneurs who have the time to actually do that. Or can a normal dude go all out and do it?

Green tea is a great alternative to water, and it’s healthy too. I’m on the same path. I’m drinking coffee and Pepsi all day along with water but I know that the only liquid we need is water. Anything other than water causes problems. Even green tea has caffeine which isn’t great. Think of an animal. They only drink water. We should be doing exactly the same.

Surely the content he has already put out is enough for years?

I’m in the UK and I’m thinking of moving to London purely to meet more people and date. I’m currently in a small town and there isn’t anyone new to meet. But at the same time I do think it is a bit desperate. If I told anyone I was going purely to date then it does sound a bit silly. I would say I was going for more job opportunities.

I’m in the exact same position. Literally just working a job I kind of like but am a bit bored of, with a lot of money saved. I was originally saving for a house, but now I think a mortgage is a terrible idea. I’d love to need new people and do other stuff but my job takes a lot of energy out of my weekdays and even weekends. Now I feel stuck and I don’t really know what to do. Tempted to go travelling or change jobs. I get the regular suicidal thoughts too but they always fade away. It sucks, and the future doesn’t look good especially here in the UK. The worst feeling in the world is feeling stuck but also having freedom to do something about it. I’ve asked for help on here before for the exact same question you have so you could give that a look if you want, it could help.

There’s a lot of group think on this forum. I’m guilty of that. And is anyone actually doing the work? I highly doubt it. If you’re working a job or career then I can guarantee nobody is sitting there meditating or doing psychedelics.

I feel the same way sometimes. I always wonder if I was fine as I was before I found ‘self help’.

I know people aren’t gonna like this but… most people are born by accident. The parents didn’t plan it at all. And you can tell who the people are that are born by accident. If you do the family thing then you MUST plan it, especially in this day and age. And there are some guys out there that are made to be fathers. They have the father instinct in them built in to their DNA. Other men do not have this in them, and they probably shouldn’t be fathers. But what do I know? Life is so complicated that there isn’t a size fits all.

We only need a few friends. It’s really important to set boundaries though, because if you don’t know how or when to say no - people can just walk all over you. Friends that can understand that are the best friends ever. And being available all the time is not good. You definitely need parts of your day on your own to gather your thoughts.

If you do marriage with the right person - absolutely fine. Nothing wrong with it. If you do it with the wrong person - then God bless you.

@Schizophonia maybe not overanalyse everything dude.

I was thinking that. Deconstructing music isn’t even worth it. Deconstruct anything else but not music. lol!