Carl-Richard

You should probably avoid associating with psychopaths, yes ? And if they're hurting those around them, the onus is on them to change.

I've thought about recording myself every time I sit down to play guitar (I basically spend 90% of the time just improvising over some basic chord progressions that I have on loop) on my shitty laptop webcam like I did on that one guitar cover, and then maybe after a week, I'll find a selection of moments where I enter that state and post it The main hurdle is what Gavin Harrison (drummer) once put so eloquently of "mentally undressing", which is harder when you know you're being watched. So my plan is that if I get used to recording every time I sit down, that problem will be solved.

Quote from Fredrik Thordendal's "Sol Niger Within": It's a pretty cringe spoken word, but it leads into a jazz fusion orgasm, Holdsworthian solo improvisation (actually on-topic): 9:23

Yes, he is being perfectly logically consistent and is acting perfectly reasonable given his premise of not dialing down even 1% of his addiction to internet crazies. It's Destiny we're talking about here, the guy who concedes to stomping puppies to death in vegan debates. But is it a good premise have? Does he "oUgHt" to value internet crazies over his wife's emotional well-being? If he was a wise man, probably not, but he is a psycho-weirdo, so yeah.

The man is a seduction machine, intentional or not. And no, she did not know what kind of monsters he would be inviting into their life. Maybe not even he knew. So yeah, he trapped himself However, the real issue is not whether he willfully set the trap. It's that he has the choice to diffuse it, but he refuses. That is why I asked for a better hypothetical Apparent transparency aside, MrGirl has a point when he points out the power differential and how he has a lazer beam of harassment that follows wherever he puts his eyes. He can mouth half a word "rapi-" and that person is over with. And by the way, the problem is not mainly overt malice. It's more like a structural problem. Destiny's problem is his unwillingness to address that problem. It's like if the government refuses to do anything to solve structural racism, hence perpetuating racism: "the government isn't racist; real racism is when somebody is being directly racist towards you".

Yeah. He trapped himself in that situation. What a genius But let's be real: if you're in top 1% in terms of psycho-weirdo shit and you trap someone who is just a normal person; if anyone should change, it's you. Let's say I seduce a woman, and I tell her after she has become absolutely obsessed by my psycho-charm that I like to do weird stuff in the basement by myself which I find extremely exciting, and she says that's ok, and then she finds out I'm raping kids and is absolutely horrified by this; legality aside, maybe I'm the one who should change? (Please make me a better hypothetical ) In other words, he has a pathological level of sensation seeking which he can fix, while she just wants to live a good life like any person. What could she change about herself? (And the child example is actually analogous, because his sensation seeking actually hurts other people as well; don't let me cite the 50 manifestos in the last year).

You can tell a 20 year old a lot of things. That doesn't mean they'll understand it. It was not a trap in the sense of intentionally withholding information, rather he was not able to give full information. He also probably didn't tell her that on the first date. It was probably only after she was decently hooked and secured (after he felt it was going somewhere). So in that case, she was never in a neutral position. It was always a double-bind. You can't. The solution is personal development and therapy. He needs desire to stop causing the hurt. To come to that place will be hard for him, just like the therapy process. The real problem is not the manipulation. It's how he chooses to act in general.

...yeah... he only invented psychotherapy...

Yep, he was very good at trapping her "Hey by the way, if you're ever hurt by how much I don't care about you, that's on you, remember that . I only say this because I care about you Love you btw "

Might go for a lighter shade of green in the spring, then full green again in the summer, then amber-ish in autumn.

@Arthogaan Leaving is not a neutral option in a 4 year relationship. She also had no idea what she was getting into. She is stuck in a double-bind: her only choices are to either continue getting hurt, or get very hurt by leaving. Destiny has the choice to stop hurting her, but he won't. He gets to have his cake and eat it too, and she gets nothing. It's not even an all or nothing deal. She said "maybe dial it back to 80%?". And by the way, "you can leave, I don't care" is of course manipulative, because he obviously cares, but by saying that, he removes the leverage that she has by threatening to leave. What he is really saying is "I don't care that you're hurting".

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It didn't.

It's just not true that all psychologists use his theory.

If it's something you're going to use every day, you might as well get the best version of it if you can. Life is short. I did that with my phone, my PC and YouTube premium. I don't spend money on anything else anyway. That said, I don't buy the newest version every year. Every piece of electronics I've ever bought I've used until it basically broke apart.

David Hawkins is fringe. It would be more correct to say "no psychologists in the world".

Empirical research as in doing science using a structured methodology and a sample from a population. With some effort, you can learn what the creators of the model were trying to communicate.

I feel I need to be a bit more critical of Destiny, because he is on top in terms of his media influence. If you really want to give Destiny the same psychoanalysis treatment that he gives Max, his approach to relationships is really fucking weird. He basically trapped Melina in a double-bind where she needs to put up with all his streamer BS (which he says he thrives on), and despite saying repeatedly how it negatively affects her life, he won't even sacrifice 1% of that for her emotional well-being; the only options being either to suck it up or leave. The reason he thrives on that type of life is the same reason he won't compromise on it: he has low empathy and a high desire for stimulation (psychopath). 1:21:01 - 1:31:05 Try to watch it without cringing. The Dark Triad traits consists of narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism (manipulation, etc.). Now, who is more likely to be manipulative: a narcissist or a psychopath? Maybe they're the same, maybe they're expressed in different ways, but tell me if this doesn't fit Destiny 100%: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Machiavellianism_(psychology) Also, notice how basically all of them pushed back on him calling Max a rapist earlier in the video. Just generally, look at what he has started calling Max lately: "narcissist", "rapist", "manipulator". And what more tools does he have?: the planned media blackout for one, and of course, "debate". I don't doubt Max is crazy, but I don't doubt he is too.

In theory yes, but atheists use their worldview to arrive at that position. There is no such thing as a neutral position.

@Heart of Space Cats are so perceptive ?

Ahhh ?

Hancock has a Netflix series out called "Ancient Apocalypse" where he lays down his life's work. I'm going to watch it, and there are a few observations I'll make before I watch it: 1. I want there to have existed an ancient civilization before the Ice Age that was technologically advanced. It's mysterious and exciting. That already makes me prone to bias. 2. The very thing that makes it exciting is that there is not much conclusive evidence (or else it would not be this fringe). There is some evidence which gets intermixed with some far-fetched narratives which could be true and which sound internally consistent, but they're not necessarily the fact of the matter. This is also just a general problem with archaeology as a field. 3. It's all couched in an anti-establishment "they don't want you to know" frame, which makes it more exciting that it needs to be. Every discovery will be presented in this overly dramatized way, like "wow, this is insane", etc. It won't be like "here is a theory", but rather "here is the truth they're trying to hide from you!". 4. Someone who makes this kind of thing their life's work (the laymen contrarian who challenges the mainstream paradigm) has to possess a certain level of narcissism which puts into question their intentions, awareness of the limitations of their abilities, etc. Regardless, I'll probably love it

Do you also get the sense that they're trying very hard to sell you something? Lost technology is an interesting concept, but this is not very convincing.

I'm not following it very intensely. Max said he'll have a video out in about a month with interviews with some of the alleged victims.

Ask yourself a question and stick to it. I remember doing a spontaneous contemplation once when I was around 18 while high on weed. I asked myself "what causes the perception of time?", and eventually, I arrived at something which is actually very accurate: it's caused by the access to your memories. What I didn't know is that it's the same answer to "what causes the ego?".