Charlotte

Last night I made a lovely meal... Red Thai curry (vegetarian) (with my own twist) Ingredients: Red and yellow pepper Onion Red and green chilli Sweet potato (chopped) Red Thai curry paste Coriander Ginger Garlic Serve on Organic brown rice Looked a little something like this before cooking, very vibrant and turned out to be extremely tasty and flavoursome ? (excuse my little Yoda in the background ?)

Thank you. All sorts of different herbals, mints, ginger, cinnamon, green just to name a few. I began drinking coffee because I watched my mum have 1 from an early age, I joined in and it's now a habit. I suppose my comment "fish is brain food" is just a belief on blind faith ? although I can't give up my Sushi ? I did read that too much liquorice is bad for you in many ways. Yes I'm definitely still interested, thank you very much ♥️

Love that quote, Yoda is my buddy ? I have him as a figure on my car keys, he comes everywhere with me ? Cheers @Shroomdoctor! You too ? @Shin what makes you think he's abusive? Is that what you've picked up from my posts? (Genuinely interested)

Okay, here we go... My partner has an anger issue. Today, I told him he starts to take action to gain some control or I'm off. He agrees. He doesn't practice consciousness, enlightenment, self actualisation work. He does suffer with PTSD and is on the waiting list for EMDR. He's asked me to post this on his behalf for any help you guys could possibly offer. Any techniques? Any help? Thanks for reading ♥️

Fair enough, good for you ♥️ glad you made the right decision for you. @Shin I'm contemplating the idea, tactfully ?

I did mushrooms when I was 15, still to this day it was the one experience I will never forget. I reached some mad level of consciousness

Why so? (Out of interest)

This is how I feel. I feel he plays too 'victim mentality' sometimes. I understand he can't change what has happened in the past but he has control in the present and for his future. I've suggested different techniques and ideas and It's usually replied with a "hmm maybe" ? I have issues myself and I want to change, I'm currently working very hard on myself, seeking advice and suggestions from other people, applying them into my life. This is an example (in my opinion) of someone that wants to change, someone who's actively looking for answers themselves. If he doesn't change, I'll be leaving. End of, unfortunately. Thanks for your input @Shroomdoctor ♥️

Thank you so much for this @Faceless very insightful. Thank you for sharing ♥️ I do have a sense from him, like yourself had, that he lives in this way... "The feeling of aloneness/seperatness was a prison in which I remained for a lot of my life." I can see this in him, he says comment's (in arguments) such as "I don't need you, I've never needed ANYBODY!" This tells me he lives from a place of loneliness and separation. He's had to though, he had an incredibly rough childhood/teenage years. I feel deeply saddened at how shut off (in him mind) he is from himself and reality. I love them quotes! I'll show them to him, thank you. I've tried all that you have mentioned in the a) b) c) list. Unfortunately my efforts to communicate and sympathise with him go unnoticed. I once read a passage in "The power of now" book my Eckhart tolle, I remember it saying something about suffering becomes part of the persons identity so they fear to lose it. This rang true to me. I asked him... "Do you in someway or another enjoy your suffering?" He replied "Yes". The reason I assume he replied yes is because he knows nothing else, he's suffered all his life, this is the identity in which he associates with his 'self'. Hope that makes sense. "This would have to be very subtly convieghed though. Slowly sensitively of course. Communication would have to be by physical communication being how you conduct yourself non verbally around him and also every now and then verbal communication. But nothing to abrupt of confrontational. Think indirect?" Could you please give me some examples of how I would go about this please? Because clearly my verbal communications aren't having any effect. I wonder sometimes if I come off a little 'preachy' to him and therefore he zones out, so I'm interested in your "indirect" approach. Very useful faceless, thank you deeply ♥️♥️

Interesting, thank you for your detailed response. What I seem to have gathered from this is I need to work more on the practice of mindfulness because clearly I'm going wrong somewhere. Thank you ♥️ Thank you for this. I need to work more on observation. Can you recommend a particular type of meditation? ♥️ Well done for helping your friend! That's lovely to read. I wish him all the best ♥️ Erm... Physically? ? I eat well (I hope)... I've radically transformed my eating habits over past 6 month's. I decided to become a pescatarian in the beginning of January (over night) and I've stuck to it, I eat plenty of organic vegetables, I eat the smallest amounts of sugars I possibly can (if I do I have organic honey), I eat fish (brain food), organic nut milks, no dairy, every morning for breakfast I have organic oats with seeds and a few berries, one cup of coffee a morning (used be two), I switched to flouride free natural toothpaste, I spent a little fortune on the best cook wear to cook with (regular pots and pans can be toxic), I don't smoke tobacco (although I vape), I don't drink or do drugs, I take good organic supplements and I drink plenty of organic herbal tea daily. I also use organic household cleaners around the house and in my skin/hair care routine. There's my life story for you ? Could you recommend I do anything else maybe? ♥️

Fair enough ??

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Random! I was going to ask your advice on something if you have some spare time to share for little old me ?? Would you mind if I PM'd you later on? Cheeeeeeeeeeers

Ignore that⬆️ @Shin we had one argument and I totally forgot to use the safe word so not sure yet. I'll keep you update though. Tell me more about your dream ?

@egoeimai in what way do you feel you could tackle this thought of repression? ♥️

Couldn't agree more. Thank goodness I'm not the only one. I am practicing observation through my meditation practice which is frustrating at times but I have to accept that. The mind is so used to being the centre of attention it will take a lot of awareness and practice to perfect mindfulness (or mindlessness in my experience). I have found that mindfulness isn't needed in some situations throughout day to day life because I forget things, I lose things, I think it's about striking the right balance in everyday life.

I honestly don't have the answer at this moment in time, I wish I did. From my personal experience I think I have to work towards more observation than this feeling of repression but I'm also confused with observation. Is observation still being pulled in by the thought content and then observing you've been pulled in or is it like awareness watching the thoughts whilst the thoughts are happening.

I genuinely try to stay mindful all day BUT by doing so I feel like I'm, in a way, repressing thoughts.

When you notice sweaty palms or feet, pop your hand on your tummy, lightly, look down, watch and feel yourself for breathing slowly and deeply. Observe yourself breathing. Stay there for 10 minutes.

@keepgiving Good to be honest I don't give much thought about the age range around me, in going there for me, not them.

I've made a solid decision to go back to college this year and begin what I feel (at the moment) is my LP (Psychology). I've been out of education for a while and I have to say I'm quite nervous but really enthusiastic and excited. Because I've been out of the education system for a while I thought I'd ask you guys as a heads up what equipment I may need? I don't own a portable laptop or a computer, I'm sure I'll need one, could you guys recommend any? (I'm really quite useless with technology). Will I need other things? Any advice/guidance would be very much appreciated. Thank you ♥️

I understand. I can grasp this with any other problems I seem to face, I shrug them off and laugh at them. I need professional help (which I'm in the process of getting) with these insecurity issues I've been facing for 14 years.

You've judged me from a picture and where I live. Looks can be deceiving. For the record, money means absolutely nothing to me. I don't measure my life, success, hierarchy or status by the digits in my or anyone else's bank account. My true success in my life lies in how far I can "jailbreak my mind". All I strive for everyday is more and deeper inner work. With regards to my "challenges" yes, they are an illusion I agree BUT that doesn't make them any less of an issue right now unfortunately. I'm suffering with OCD with thoughts, paranoia, anxiety, depression, complete and utter inner turmoil. At this moment in my life I'm working very hard on getting some kind of control over these issues because they are ruining me, my life and my mental health. This "illusion" has gotten to a place where it seems like it is no longer an illusion and with the hard work I'm doing comes a lot of hard emotional labor and what feels like suffering to an extent I've never imagined.

Interesting. What you said has crossed my mind with regards to the course. Thanks for sharing ♥️