Charlotte

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  1. Stopped posting on my old journal because I wanted to post so much but then I remembered it's a public forum. So this one is gonna be less about personal shit but just life, the journey and all the minutia that is involved. I will be starting the University journey next week so that will be interesting. Currently dealing with a tendon flare up and learning how to power lift. Microdosing regularly, attending further therapy, meditating and as always, wondering "Why?" Last year got so hectic that I barely had time to come on here, and I hated not being able to, it grinded at the front of my mind regularly. My partner moved in, covid started, I started EMDR which was unbelievable, but, to be honest, it was also one of the hardest times of my life thus far. I was doing therapy and studying at such high demand that the EMDR made studying 20X as hard. After much deliberation and stalling and crying (didn't want to 'be' weak, but counterintuitively I knew to surrender to the idea was to be 'strong') I decided to opt for a small course of anti-anxiety medication, which to my surprise, helped tremendously. I continued with the strength training at home during all lockdowns, I showed up every day and made it work. Exercise, especially strength training has been one of my greatest 'anchors' and teachers along this journey. Ego, or mind, however you wanna frame it, is constantly tested and placed within the uncomfortable position during exercise and it truly is phenomenal to observe how the mind creates not only boundaries, but the limitations you 'think' you can do. I recently started at a competitive powerlifting gym, I am being coached 1-1 and he has observed how I tend to 'think' my way through mechanical movements, he told me (most probably due to the injuries I have sustained), he notices I am very analytical when it comes to something as simple as a squat movement. This was somewhat disheartening but I accepted it. I have had to let go (I am self-taught) of the mind and completely hand over trust not only to a stranger but to my body, trust it knows what's best. Feeling the movements instead of thinking them. I am within my early days of learning, I hope to compete, but I have to take it slower than the average person due to tendon issues (which I sustained most probably in my early days of intermittent fasting and a lack of nutritional knowledge). Anyhow, enough of the rambling. I hope to post some cool things here I discover, cool videos about physical chronic pain (again another great teacher), microdosing journey (week 3 using Golden Teacher), and other random shit such as healing, love, connection, strangers, friends, university etc.
  2. @RickyFitts Life is unbelievably beautiful isn't it
  3. Been wondering lately, been contemplating death and regret. I am more afraid of regret than death itself, why? Because I don't know what death really is. I just buried a squirrel in my back garden. I cried, I felt deep sadness, not suffering per se, but more like a 'love' cry. I realised I cry because life is lost, but then I thought, am I crying for the 'form'?, am I crying for the form of this animal?. When as a matter of fact, I don't know what will happen, or where he may go. But I know he will live on through the plants and the earth. I go through a phase of Nihilism when it comes to death, but it keeps me on my toes ><
  4. Amazing https://youtu.be/5Y6iQz3vuM8
  5. Only thing that I find works for me (at those times when you're rolling around from the pain) is Feminax. Ibuprofen Lysine seems to be the main active ingredient.
  6. I've found that the green individuals in those places seem to also be encompassed in ideology. Don't get me wrong, I also fall prey to this but they don't even see it. Any type of challenge and they quickly turn back into the close mindedness of orange.
  7. The questions are so broad and vague and reek of determinism, absolute horse shite I'm afraid ๐Ÿ’ฉ (jk btw)
  8. https://youtu.be/wLLFho-ea6E
  9. I have been in education (started with zero qualifications) for almost 3 years already, working my way up to university. As proud and elated as I am for getting this far, I am feeling somewhat fatigued of academic work. It's been non stop graft for 3 years already. Managed to secure myself a place at University studying psychology. However, the course I did last year (fast track to university course) was so demanding, pressure some and fast paced (I was also doing therapy alongside this which wouldn't of helped with the regular stresses of the course) it's knackered me for what I am about to endure. I feel so tired from it. And scared, scared to have no life like I did with the last course. It drained me and zapped me of any free time whatsoever. Anyway, enough of my ramblings. Could you provide me with some motivation? Some of your key ๐Ÿ—๏ธ advice for University starters? Trying to motivate myself. Muito apreciado Merci bien Sehr geschรคtzt ะžั‡ะตะฝัŒ ั†ะตะฝะธั‚ัั เคฌเคนเฅเคค เคธเคฐเคพเคนเคจเคพ เค•เฅ€ ๐Ÿ˜™๐ŸŒท
  10. I am going to tell you guys something and this for me, is an act of vulnerability. Please, be sensitive in your responses. In lockdown I found myself in the most scariest position I have ever been in within this physical realm. My dog got his head stuck in some netting and was choking to death, in front of me, myself or him unable to break him free due to the strength of the cord/netting. Screaming for help and in the most horrifying panic I have ever felt to date, a man heard my screams and came running to try and free him. For the most part of the longest 5 minute's of my entire life, he couldn't do it. He was suffocating before my eyes. After struggling and pulling and tearing his fingers apart he finally broke him free. From this event, it has now manifested itself into a huge fear of choking/suffocating (myself, others and even wild animals) and overprotective behaviour from myself to the dogs. I have just started reading the beginnings of a book called 'Feel the Fear and do it anyway' - By Susan Jeffers, and she says that the reason we fear is because we distrust ourselves, and our ability to handle whatever arises. It then hit me... The reason this situation was so bad was because I was completely helpless toward saving his life and the situation as a whole. I cried. I was helpless and he was dying and I couldn't do shit. I have to accept this vulnerability that I *was* helpless and I had *zero* control. This is so hard to accept. Anyone any advice? I have had one EMDR session on this but I need more (I have been referred to a psychologist for further help). Could you guys provide a spiritual or other perspective on this for me? Thank you ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿ„
  11. @Marcel this is really interesting and insightful, thank you so much. I started the practice and already had a small but growing reaction. Looks to be very promising, I don't know in what way exactly, but I will keep you posted. @RickyFitts you have the most beautiful words, thoughts and feelings. Thank you so much for your support on the forum. @Alysssa Thank you for your reply. Enjoy the time you have with your dog. Animals are absolutely profound โ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿฎ
  12. This is beautiful. Thank you for this. I will write a letter, love the idea. ๐Ÿ’š Absolutely. Thank you ๐Ÿ’š๐ŸŒฑ @catcat69123 thank you for replying. I agree exposure to the situation would help. Like I mentioned I have undergone one EMDR session, in which shame did surface. There was a feeling of guilt underlying as I was helpless toward him. That's why I feel I need to accept the fact that I did have no control and I was myself helpless. Yes, to a degree and no. This is the first time a traumatic event has happened to somerhi I love deeply which I have bore witness to, the previous time it was myself. I was the victim. @Nahm as per, evoking deep contemplation, thank you for replying ๐Ÿงก @Surfingthewave yes, I have an overarching feeling to control in some areas. I experience OCD symptoms and have done for year's (I'm some areas) I am starting to see this may simply be a byproduct of overthinking. I am allowing myself to enter into environments in which I have to surrender and give over control and trust more. This has been so hard but unbelievably rewarding and insightful.
  13. Notice this has been a theme that has occurred as an adult for myself, feeling overwhelmed at appointments or minor commitments (no I don't feel threatened or overwhelmed at big commitment such as relationships etc). E.g. an appointment, a date to have tea at a friend's house. Something small. I am scared to commit (as in agree to the appointment or friend date) in case, when the time arrives I can't make it and have to rearrange, or, rush because something cropped up. Anyone else? Any opinion advice? ๐Ÿงก
  14. I'm approximately 10 pages into this book and you know when something is so good you have to go back and read the page again because it's unbelievably insightful. Well, that X10. Highly recommended. Changing my life already. 'Feel the fear and do it anyway'- Susan Jeffers
  15. I have faced fears in the past but they gave returned for the same action. Would that indicate I have not actually faced the fear?
  16. @Thought Art What would you say you have learnt so far from Oshos book? Will definitely check that out thanks. @Seed Enjoy and hold tight for the journey.๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ’š @RickyFitts More than welcome brother โ™ฅ๏ธ
  17. @Flowerfaeiry @RickyFitts thank you so much guys. Ricky, really appreciate the compassion. So beautiful. Thank you, love you to โ™ฅ๏ธ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿ„
  18. Not sure if I am on board with this anymore as I tried a self experiment. I wanted myself to become more noticeable with the colour red, and so I did, I saw red everywhere. Because I had given it prioritisation in my mind. What I look for I found.
  19. https://youtu.be/HiDel4dzPKw
  20. Hey Mrs. I am sorry to hear you are going through this. If it makes you feel better, I seemed to of developed this pattern after lockdown as well. Whereas, prior I was fine. I can't say I have the answer sweet because I don't, I will say a few things however. 1. Be mindful of a narrative that may seed (get it ๐Ÿคญ) and sprout ๐ŸŒฑ, all of a sudden you have this narrative of, 'I suffer with social anxiety'. You will then embody this within an identity level embodiment and before you know it, you will 'have' social anxiety. 2. Have you observed what is happening in the mind in these situations? The content/speed/tone etc? With me I found it is an avoidance of silent (moments) so I go 'blah blah blah blah'. So I am now challenging this and sitting inside the silence's, as fucking uncomfortable as that is ๐Ÿ˜. 3. Keep meeting with people, talking being in social situations, don't stop. When the nerves arise, observe, accept, breath and continue. Exposure. Could just be because of the lockdown, an adverse reaction possibly? Which you are now a little rusty with. ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿ„
  21. Yeah I understand what you mean. Although I think that the obesity epidemic is much much more complex and multi faceted than what you say. When I say that simple, I mean the fundamentals of it. As compared to living is as simple as just breathing, shitting, and eating! It's obviously much more complex than that Yeah the different ways people can get into caloric deficit depends on which would suit them best for that time in their lives
  22. 'Important information and tip for people who want to lose weight' Calorie deficit. All 'diets' have the same principle just different flavour.
  23. I know ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜† I think it's because when the time arrives, what if I don't wanna do it. I wanna be freEeEe! ๐Ÿ˜„ Yes. Because of the commitment thing. @mandyjw thank you very much for your insight, very interesting and helpful. I sat and contemplated whether it's the same theme, I'm not sure if it is. I will however stop being a lazy sob and sit and think through this shit.
  24. Yep, don't know why, haven't really looked into it as I am not too bothered. Yep, self experimentation is her best bet โ˜บ๏ธ
  25. How do you feel when you eat these? Not think.