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You should take a look into a full structured dating course, search for RSD stuff, it could be the program "Boss", or "Pimp", or "Ten Game", or "Daygame", or "Foundations". You can easily find those on Google. A basic structure of game is: 1. Open: introduce yourself, establish a sexual frame from the beginning, make sure the girl feels safe and knows that you are not crazy or creepy. 2. Hook: talk, talk, talk until she starts to invest in the interaction (the hook point). Assume all the burden of the conversation, don't ask anything from the girl until she starts to get interested in you. 3. Vibe: flirt, make some jokes, touch her (high-five, hugs etc), lead the interaction, change venues with her, establish familiarity. Explore a full range of emotions, push-pull. 4. Close: when she is super invested, maybe kiss her but don't kiss too much or make something huge about it, make it seem as natural as a high-five. Now it is time to move her to a more private location. "Hey, let's get some drinks at my place, it's five minutes from here." Logistics is super important here, most of your questions depend on logistics, both the girls and yours. It is way easier to take a girl home when it is 5 minutes away than it is if is 1h away. This is where your "pre-game" phase should be, plan shit out. Also, the girls logistics is super important. Is she free? Does she have to work soon or is she with a friend? This is where you have to be creative and solve her problems, this will also make her like you more. The frame the girl should be in is: "there is zero reasons why i wouldn't go to this guy's house". Instead of showing her all the benefits she would get from going with you to your place, REMOVE all her objections (could be simply being judged by he peers or you, or she doesn't feel safe enough with you). Make it sound and look like a no-brainer adventure.

Watch out to not demonize them too much, if you met them in other circumstances you would probably find that most are actually cool people. Yeah, they are acting out low consciousness stuff inside them, traumas, anger, maybe some insecurity, need for validation etc. Don't underestimate the power of drugs and alcohol, it can literally possess people, maybe even make them susceptible to evil spirits manipulating them. I can relate with this, not long time a ago, if I drunk too much and, for some reason started to get annoyed by something, maybe an gf nagging me, this low vibration took over and I could act pretty nasty, almost like another person took over my body and mind. I noticed the same with a lot of people, including a few girlfriends which could act nasty, almost possessed. But in other situations, they could be the sweetest people ever.

Bitch, after the third rejection you will realize it is actually fun as hell. Soon you will be like that even on your first approach. Pick one easy target, just put yourself in front of her, try to speak non-stop and self-amuse the hell out of it. MAKE the "rejection" as fun as possible and you will be a lot freer when the interaction end.

Cocaine makes people aggressive too. What is the mystery here? Bunch of young dudes with high testo, drunk, probably using drugs, possibly steroids also, in crowds, they act dumb and aggressive and people are surprised?

I was sarcastic, used his own words.

A true high-value male with a perfect lifestyle would never get mad like that.

@Gesundheit Yes, you are VERY naive. You can't just love the shit out of someone who is in a low stage (red or something), they will simply take advantage of that. Homeless people and sex workers are mostly stage red/orange or lower, you being conscious and showering them with love won't do much, they have to evolve from each stage, this takes time.

Filling your cup first, before entering a relationship. Meditation, self-love practices, life purpose and all of that stuff. The thing i people feel shitty (don't even know about it), look for relationships to feel better, end up backfiring, act surprised, and than they repeat. When you feel good, you don't need much from the other person and have the openness to be more empathetic and all of that. On the other hand, people like that usually have good boundaries and don't stray away from their purpose that much. They can act in ways that low self-esteem people interpret as selfish, so, you also have to watch your partner. I always had weak boundaries and when i tried to set them properly, i was met with manipulative behavior from others in order to make me feel guilty and selfish to serve their agendas.

No. Those are pretty broad questions, please be more specific, elaborate on your perspective.

Calm down, Mr. Evolved.

Yeah, because it works.

@ColeMC01 Stop listening to women for dating advice. They are extremely biased.

Nah, far from it. I am actually pretty much a celibate, sex isn't a priority at all to me, but this is a dating section to discuss dating strategies and yours is just a bad one. Look, you are not the first person to have this genius idea, in fact, this is way more common than you would think, a lot of guys that are frustrated with women have this idea: OOOHHH What if i just focus on myself, maximize my attractiveness (status, money, social circle, life purpose, business, career, body shape etc), i won't ever have to approach again and women will approach ME Yeah, most guys take this exact approach, only to find out a decade later that it was an awful passive strategy and they actually still suck with women as many successful guys do. As i said, all this is just fear of rejection with extra steps.

It depends on a looot of factors, very hard to say. It is like asking how many hours should you meditate to get enlightened. Could be 1 or 50.000, but usually, a lot. In theory, you could even to that on you first approach, maybe you were drunk and confident, maybe she was horny and receptive. But i guarantee you that this "how many approaches" mindset is already wrong because you are assuming that approaches are some sort of chore you have to do to get to the good stuff. In reality, approaches are fun as hell, it is not uncommon to have more fun doing game than actually having sex.

Nah. Maybe 1% of men actually do cold approaches, not for the weak ones. As i said, do BOTH. Nah. Wat? Doesn't mean he is right, see all Leo's video about self-bias and self-deception. Again, doesn't mean he is right, see all Leo's video about self-bias and self-deception. Yes, he is. ahahahahahahahaha nah...

As i said, if you are a celebrity, you probably don't need to do cold approaches. But even then, there are lots of famous successful guys that SUCK at dating and have shitty relationships.

Freedom, abundance, choosing out of a bigger pool of women, not into lack of options or shitty relationships. DO BOTH. Yeah, that's just wrong. Probably in a shitty marriage or dating shitty women also.

I am already attractive as fuck. Do both.

Dude, just go approach.

Not lucky, experience + right beliefs + highly conscious = good relationships. Most people aren't conscious enough even to choose the right partner, they let their neediness speak louder than all the red flags and are surprised when things go south. See this topic for instance: People are actually defending dating women that are highly dysfunctional, they are simply blind to all the red flags. It is like women dating drug dealers, criminals or stage red/blue guys and acts surprised when they turned out to be a bad choice.

Yeah, bad idea to wait to get approached like a girl. Of course, that's what you want with this horrible mindset. Fear of rejection? Hmm what could you do about it? I don't know, it's a mystery. Maybe ignore it and turn completely passive, that will solve it. I am very attractive but it is VERY rare that a high-quality woman approaches me. It is a skill, not luck. Do it, but also approach. Not by itself, unless you are a celebrity, promoter or something like that. Attraction takes time, it is not a binary thing, stop assuming women think like men. Only if you lack skill. Again, attraction takes time, it is not a binary thing, stop assuming women think like men. Not necessarily. If you want the approval of an attractive female, she won't like you Yeah, like 10% of what you could get or less. Some women suck at flirting, some put a bitchy face, some just don't notice you, it is just bad strategy to wait for them to give you signals first. Let's say that you are an 9 in the attractive scale. Maybe a 7 will approach you, an 8 will give you signals and a 9 will play hard to get, a 10 maybe won't even look at you. In order for a 10 approach you, you have to be like a 12 (celebrity, superstar or something). Good luck turning into a 12. Why are you afraid of shit tests? They are FUN! It's part of flirting, stop wanting women to throw themselves at you, this is disrespectful at best. Yeah, of course, but approach anyway, there is no substitute to approaching. All i see in your posts is: I AM TERRIBLE AFRAID OF NOT BEING ENOUGH AND BEING REJECTED. This just shows a pitiful lack of masculine energy. Imagine a super alpha male with this passive approach to life, waiting to get approached by women in order to not get rejected to protect his little weak ego. Just approach, stop whining.

You have to approach, this lifestyle thing only really works if you are a celebrity or do some kind of work that naturally attracts hordes of women all the time like promoters. To most guys, you will have to approach if you want true abundance. Otherwise you will have to settle with what the universe brings to you and, chances are, this will not be enough. Stop with the racionalization and just approach, there is no way around it.

It depends a lot, most people take the hint when you avoid them a few times or act cold.