Hardkill

I really believe that I've been coming off as a kind of guy who girls really love to talk to and I have been able to make strong connections with them. Besides, it shouldn't be this hard. This is not rocket science at all. This process of seduction is not even supposed to be as difficult as if I were to say run for governor of some big state like California or run for some office in Congress, let alone run for the office of the President of the Unites States of America. I don't ever expect to be the next Bill Clinton or Barack Obama or Ronald Reagan or Donald Trump or even be as savvy and appealing as someone like Gavin Newsom. Hell, I don't even think I'll ever be able to have the skill to relate to and connect with most people in general as well as someone like Joe Biden can. Not gonna happen.

I've already cold and warm approached hundreds of girls in real life, that I actually lost count of how many I met and even madeout with in bars, clubs, meetups, streets during the day and night time, alleys between pubs and restaurants during night. I even got my very first girlfriend ever from cold approaching an attractive woman on the sidewalk during the daytime. We were in a serious relationship together for almost 3 years. Although, I will admit that I still don't nearly the amount of experience and skill with cold approaching and dating that someone like Leo does, let alone that of an official dating coach/expert like Owen Cook or Julien Blanc or Locario or Alan Roger Currie (may he rest in peace). So, I no doubt absolutely need to to approach 5 to 25 new girls a day everyday every week. Yet, I still don't live in or near a big city that would provide me such an opportunity for that. Also, yeah online dating is mostly shitty and most girls on online social media are attention whores. However, to be fair, I still got most of my lays from online dating. In fact all of the girls I slept with from online dating were about a 6 to 8 in terms of what I found to be attractive.

What has been said by guys like NoSelfSelf was unfair and disrespectful. They don't even really have the facts about what's going on with me. They are just spouting out all kinds of blanket statements and cliches about what I am not doing right instead of giving some solid no-nonsense practical tips on why I am having a hard time seducing girls at school who are just young kids who are by no means female celebrities of any kind. Furthermore, don't tolerate that kind of toxic attitude. That's why I am standing up for myself. Not being very emotionally expressive is a form of stoicism. That's masculine, whereas being flamboyant is more feminine. Btw, almost all of the girls at the college I was at haven't accomplished anywhere near what I have throughout my whole life. These are nothing special. In any case, no one is answering why dating girls from school isn't easier than from cold approach or online dating. Most guys meet their significant other either from work or school or social circle. Therefore, it still doesn't add up to me.

Then, why does Leo vouch for RSD, especially Owen?

Today, The U.S. House Ways and Means Committee, finally released the whole rest of Trump's tax returns: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/30/us/politics/trump-tax-returns-takeaways.html

Yes to all of the above.

I've never been entirely sold on the idea of 'compromise is king.' I mean when you're in a serious relationship with a woman, then you are going to have to make a minor amount of compromises, but I believe that for the most part that a man should never compromise his own principles, values, desires, etc. Locario explains it well here:

How would fixing my inner-child work fix my compatability? I don't have something like PTSD or daddy or mommy issues or any kind of addiction to drugs/alcohol/tobacco. I always validate women when they deserve it.

I tried that too and only got laid twice and each time I got laid with them, they never contacted me back again.

I am working on getting ready for Doctor of Physical Therapy graduate school next summer.

I’ve tried finding women at that level but they are either taken or weren’t compatible with me.

That’s true with regard to western women. They don’t know how to become compliant like women used in the good old days. That’s more and more men are meeting women in Eastern European and other 2nd or 3rd world countries. Most women in those countries more feminine and know how to appreciate masculinity because they used to behaving in a more submissive and cooperative manner with men.

Neither of you have even seen me in person. You don’t know what I look like. You guys both are both sounding very toxic and condescending. You have no idea the kind of hell I’ve been to. Maybe if you two knew how to relate better to people like who have Asperger’s and have tried like hell to improve into being a charismatic hero then maybe you guys would succeed in convincing me that you know what you’re saying.

I don’t believe you. Why should I?

Prove to me how that was boring.

In terms of physical type I am really into fit girls who have a good amount of thickness to their legs, ass, with a small enough waist, and big tits as a bonus. In terms of personality I like girls who are smart, but also are not self-centered and are respectful and compliant. She definitely has to know how to cook and clean and must prove that she is willing work hard on supporting my goals in life.

I am physically good looking and fit, highly educated, ambitious and fairly accomplished, funny, polite, bold, and magnetic.

What if he has a huge Alabama Snake downstairs?

I am incline to agree with you that China has probably become more hesitant about invading Taiwan because of how the War in Ukraine has been playing out. You're also right about how it does take a year or more for any country to get ready to seriously invade a country or start a conventional war with another country. But what should we do if China's invasion of Taiwan does cause a major global recession or unprecedented global economic depression?

This is why I am getting very worried about China. I wonder what any of the mods have to say about this.

@Eyowey What human can live forever? What are you talking about?

*I made this thread on the Society, Politics, Government, Environment, Current Events by mistake. If someone could delete that one in that section, I would appreciate it. I meant have this thread only in this section of the forum. If I fail at something once or even few times, then that's not a big deal to me. but I often get easily discouraged or feel hopeless when things aren't going the way I had hoped after constant failure, particularly when I truly tried my very hardest at something. I either have a meltdown or get very depressed or feel hopeless or pessimistic or become nihilistic or feel suicidal when this happens. I've tried visualization before but unfortunately it only made me feel even more disappointed and shocked every time something didn't turn out the way that I expected or hoped it would. It's now as if every time I fail at something I am like "I guess I really deluded myself into thinking that this really would workout.....What was I thinking?......I feel really stupid and embarrassed with myself." If any of you here know what are really the most effective methods to really learning not to feel the pain of despair after constant failure I would appreciate it.

I've been using Wakie for over 4 year nows, which is an app that lets you talk to strangers (from anywhere around the world) and can help you find someone on there to help you wake up. It also provide a function for making phone calls with strangers. You can also send DMs to anybody you like on there, just like how you can DM anyone on Instagram. I've been able to successfully have some phone sex talk with some girls on there after talking to them in a more regular manner. Some of the girls on there have gotten really dirty and kinky with me on there. But many of those same girls end up blocking me permanently for no apparent reason, even when the conversation was great and was fun for both of us. I don't really get why this has happened to me? Could it be because a lot of them feel ashamed of themselves afterwards?

If I fail at something once or even few times, then that's not a big deal to me. but I often get easily discouraged or feel hopeless when things aren't going the way I had hoped after constant failure, particularly when I truly tried my very hardest at something. I either have a meltdown or get very depressed or feel hopeless or pessimistic or become nihilistic or feel suicidal when this happens. I've tried visualization before but unfortunately it only made me feel even more disappointed and shocked every time something didn't turn out the way that I expected or hoped it would. It's now as if every time I fail at something I am like "I guess I really deluded myself into thinking that this really would workout.....What was I thinking?......I feel really stupid and embarrassed with myself." If any of you here know what are really the most effective methods to really learning not to feel the pain of despair after constant failure I would appreciate it.

I know that Leo has mentioned a number of times before that consistent practice of cold approaching and dating doesn't just build your confidence, social skills, flirting skills, charisma, being able to converse with people more easily, etc. He also said that if you start out as a hardcase newbie who has always struggled socially and sexually/romantically with women, then your journey to becoming a socially adept and seductive man will lead to growth outside the domain of sex and social life. He has told guys to watch Owen Cook's videos because his videos don't just teach you how to really develop your social skills and become successful with women. They also teach guys how to become more of a man internally and evolve into a highly developed human with regard to every other area of your life. No doubt can cold approaching, dating, and socializing with others can really get you laid and a girlfriend if you approach, interact with, and date hundreds and hundreds of girls. I also definitely believe that my pickup and dating journey has considerably improved my social skills, dating skills, and sex/romance skills. I started out as a hardcase newbie who has about the same level of Asperger's that Owen Cook has. Now, I've become a sort of late bloomer with people and women. I do believe that constant rejection does help to eliminate your social anxiety and helps you get used to moving on to other girls or to other people socially who you might have a better chance with, but I still don't really see how going through constant painful rejections necessarily helps you to completely cope with failure. In fact, despite having already approached hundreds of attractive women myself, dated and madeout with several of them, got laid with a couple of them, got a girlfriend from one of them, got laid with even more girls through online dating, etc. I still don't feel like I am able to easily cope with loss or failure of anything that ever happens in your life like a superhero or stoic soldier trained for combat. In many respects, I actually feel even more neurotic about myself and more pessimistic about what I can and cannot do as a person. I feel even more cynical about people than I was before I got into pickup, as realize more and more that women and humans in general really care more about what's best for themselves than what about the well-being of others. Particularly with regard to coping with failure, I really haven't much of an improvement in being able to cope with failure in other areas of my life compared to when I started out with pickup. I still get easily discouraged or demoralized every time I fail in something at school, work, sports/fitness results, or what have you. Not to mention that I am still struggling in my battle with depression and generalized anxiety. In some ways, I feel like my ability to deal with depression and anxiety has gotten worse because of the COVID the pandemic, anxiety over the war in Ukraine, the constant threat of right-wing extremism in our country in recent years, economic uncertainty, and having become increasingly of many other sad current events that go in this world.