Hardkill

I know, it seems very nuts, but I just wanted to desensitize myself to rejection and learn to feel like I am taking control of my own emotions and outcome. what about on the streets or bars?

I see. So, do u think that trying out this idea would get me into any trouble with women legally regardless of where I approached them?

Yes it is quite a balance to maintain. Society did not set good examples on how to properly maintain such a balance.

I believe that we must always embrace our dark side as much as our light side. You can't have one without the other to function well. Both sides are also necessary to reach your full potential. If you solely rely on your dark side then even if you succeed in acquiring what you want, you will pay the price by living a despicable life and will eventually face disastrous consequences to your life in the long-run. However, if you only depend on your light side then although you will be recognized as an honorable being with a pure-heart, you will never be able to unleash your true power from within you and you will never get as far as you desire in life in the long-run because you keep holding yourself back unnecessarily.

Yeah what do u do when you've tried everything else to no avail and u don't have a lot of options?

It doesn't matter as much as the fact that most people fail to change their habits as they grow old.

I am 29 years old and turning 30 in a few months. I am still financially dependent on my parents and my mom has always had to manage and schedule my life ever since I was born. Don't get me wrong, I have become increasingly independent from my parents as I've grown older; however, I am now at a point where I've so f***ing had it with my mom managing my g*d d**n life. Also, my mom is getting increasingly tired of supporting me and making sure that I get through school; however, she can trust that I can be completely independent because I hardly initiate any of my responsibilities including school, work, managing my time I spent throughout the week with all of my hobbies, etc. I've seen therapists and psychiatrists for all sorts of consultation on how to gain my full independence from them, but I am never able to stick with applying any of their suggestions for long because they are so mentally taxing on me that they decrease quality of my life such as having get up by myself in the morning everyday and going to sleep relatively early everyday, keeping a list and schedule of things I need to do each day, etc. Also, I don't have a job of my own other than working for my parents. It's been hard for me to get a job because of how competitive everything is today. Please help!

Well then I'll hold you to it as a promise, mister. I don't have much youth left. Also, to be honest I don't know how much longer I have left to live.

Guys, my parents and psychiatry believe that I have a slight degree of asperger's. What's my genetic potential for improving my social skills? Be brutally honest with me guys. I need to know the answer so that I can make an informed decision on whether or not I should ever DEVOTE my life to improving my social skills dramatic. Otherwise, I could end up hurting my own self-confidence and self-esteem in the long-run and constantly and frustratingly bang my head against a f*cking wall.

I want sex and I want good friends to hangout with constantly.

You have a point that I will buy for the most part. I don't ever expect to a social super star by any means, but perhaps I could become a fairly competent in it if I sacrificed my whole life for it. However, I've already failed with over a thousand women I've approached, which much more than 90% of the men in the world have ever done. Also, I've variety a of venues from clubs, meetups, school, gym, etc. to making friends with people I can connect with well. However, I failed with all of those venues.

Yeah, but what are the chances that a paralyzed dude will be able to regain full mobility of his entire body?

Well this sucks. Nobody has an answer to this? How come there's an answer to the genetic potential of people building muscle or other physical abilities, but not for social skills?

I know, but sadly this is reality. Just as it is reality that we cannot just fly by ourselves or cast a magic spell.

So much for the stupid cliche statement "anything is possible as long as you put your mind to it." It a big fat lie that has allowed everyone to deceive themselves into thinking that they can be guaranteed to achieve any dreams they have with hard work and dedication. The longer you live the more you will realize that most of this world is filled with misery, pain, and futility. The work needed to achieve any dream is extremely energy draining and time-consuming and even if that didn't matter to you, most things in this world never go according to plan. Where there are victors, there will always be the vanquished. Where someone lives someone else dies. Where someone's life is saved, another's was sacrificed in the process. Where someone wins, another loses. Where there is light, there will always be darkness. Where some people live long lives, others live short lives. Where some are healthy, others are suffering debilitating or life-threatening diseases. These are the inevitable nexuses that can never be separated from each other in this world. What's the point of accepting anything in this accursed world when you can live in a virtual reality or play video games or watch tv and movies?

If you're not good with girls from the start then it's going to be almost impossible to get noticeably no matter how hard u try or analyze your situation. I know hard work is not supposed to betray you in general, but I believe that it sadly does with women. In my honest opinion, like singing, It's a talent that you either have you or you don't. That's another reason why this world is mostly filled with suffering, hopelessness, and futility

The only effective sources for getting better at socializing are: 1. a competent mentor or coach who is truly skilled at teaching socially deficient losers how to be normal and possibly cool. 2. A large city to troll and talk to an infinite amount of strangers until u hopefully get good at conversing and network. 3. Gene therapy for enhancing your genetic ability to effectively become a normal and possibly cool. Although this therapy hasn't come to fruition yet with regard to improving your social skills. Online books and sources suck. I've tried them and they didn't really do much to improve my social skills substantially.

Society is screwed up so badly. There has not be enough people and educational resources to educated and train children and teens on how to socialize successfully. Even adults who still struggle to have a happy social and dating life aren't able to be guided well unless they pay a ridiculously hefty fee. The system is really f*cked.

Username, can we talk on PM about this?

I've tried social meetups and they never worked. I already have positive things going in my life. I am going for my 3rd degree black belt in Hapkido, I worked up to squatting 360 lbs. below parallel, deadlifting 480 lbs., benching almost 275 lbs. I can run a mile in 6:30 min. and can run 6-8 miles at a 7:30 min./mile. I just starting training for half marathon and marathons 2 months ago. I am going to grad school for teaching. Also, I don't mean to sound arrogant, but many people throughout my life have told me that I look like a model. None of it helped me enough to be successful with women. Also, I have no talent for creating large social circles. So after trying almost everything possible, what proof is there that I have any REAL genetic latent ability for success with women?

I know, but I am struggle to manage these demons. How can I when the evidence has proven that I am a failure at pickup? my approaches have been varied since I've tried so many things. Sometimes I wait for the girl look at me and smile before I walk up to her. Other times I cold approach her without her noticing me first. It's so hard to explain everything and I don't have enough time to explain each kind of approach I do with each girl.

Well, I've done about 1,000 of approaches and I rarely see it as being anything, but funny. It's like I have a voice in the back of my head that says, "Look man, u've already failed over a thousand times with women. This isn't for you. I know that pickup isn't rocket science, but not everyone has talent for this just like not everyone has a talent for singing or being athletic at a certain sport. It's sad, but hopefully u'll learn to live with it someday." I've gotten kicked out of a university that I was in grad school for, permanently kicked out of a gym that I was a member of, kicked out of a mall, kicked out of a bar, kicked out of a club. I am hurting inside. Society is as fucked up as I am.

Yeah, but how does getting rejected most of the time completely beneficial for your confidence?

I know this has nothing to do with healing and I know that I am probably making a very ridiculous reference to an anime show, but I was just wondering if anything mentioned in Naruto with regard to Chakra happens to be true.

There must be another way. I don't want to live in a salvation army organization for the homeless. Also, I don't really like camping and don't think that that's smart thing to do when it comes to possibly being surrounded by all sorts of wild animals and nasty bugs.