Tyler Robinson

Why is cheating okay? It's not. It impacts the psyche. It causes trauma. A lot of men I interact with make flippant jokes about seeing other women or wandering around like it's no big deal. But it's a big deal. People do lots of wrong things in a relationship like not caring enough, bad habits, addiction, emotional neglect. But cheating is the worst form of betrayal. Would you as a guy like a woman who cheats on you with another man and you figure out later? Then why do you justify cheating on your girlfriend? Why is it okay or harmless in your mind or something you just expect your girlfriend to deal with? Why so many men expect women to even provide room for cheating in a relationship? Why can't they understand that it's very unhealthy? A woman is deeply impacted by cheating. Why is it okay for a man to see multiple women when it's not okay if women do it.

No way! This idea goes against the base concept of relationships. It's terrible to even suggest such a dynamic. I mostly agree with the takes of @no_name

I'm not saying it's ok. I'm asking why it's considered okay. I just want men to be more sensitive to how women feel. It seems a lot of men are too vague and flippant around this topic. I just want to know their mentality. And I want them to take it seriously. I want them to know that women are hurt by cheating, much more than they realize. I want to know their underlying psychology. It's no longer about one man. I just see too many men making it look like it's okay to see multiple women. But I'm not okay to accept it.

@Something Funny it's ok if @no_nameattacks me. She is not trying to attack me exactly. She is just angry that I don't have strong boundaries, that I don't stand up for myself. I don't mind her being pissed at me. She is trying to show me tough love. She is concerned that I might get into trouble. That's okay. She is coming from a genuine place and I appreciate her criticism of me In fact i like people like her. They attack me for my own good. They care about me more than people who are nice and stab me in the back later. Honestly I'm tired of inauthentic fake people. I might get a Beating and I'll be happy to receive it if that person showed me genuine concern for my well being. Let her say what she wants. I'm not offended by it.

I do value your opinion in this regard. I have low self esteem I agree. But the situation in my life seems to be much more beyond just low self esteem. I seem to be extremely confused while dealing with people. It takes me an awful lot of time to figure out things. I like to give people as much space as possible and not jump to the worst conclusions about them. Part of the reason why I do this could be that I don't want to live in a 24/7 fearful state where I'm just thinking the absolute worst about people who are nice to me. You see this is a logistics problem. Most people are rude and could care less about someone's feelings, much less fall in love and maintain integrity. How many people do you think are really interested in spreading love in this world. You will see selfish assholes everywhere who wouldn't lose a single opportunity to slice you with a knife. I came from a broken family, a traumatized background, I always had to deal with the shittiest people, the worst kind, I had to deal with men who gave me death threats, the trailer trash types. It was difficult for me to meet half decent people. Because I came from poverty. I already got used to having the least expectations out of humans. With this backdrop, even people who were remotely polite to me appeared extremely pleasant and high value to me. Now I could have easily said no to them on petty things. But I didn't have the luxury to simply turn guys away on a whim. I'm not a stunner in appearance and I never had a large volume of men to adore me. I had to make a pick out of the meagre bunch of men who took some interest in me. Turning them away would mean that I would have to be alone and being alone, especially given my childhood wounds was simply too much to deal with. You don't have a hard time being alone when you come a healthy support because there's always someone to fall back on. But when you come from an abusive family, it's 10 times hard being alone, you want someone to give you that value and space that your family never provided you. So yea in some ways men made me feel confident. Some men who were nice made me feel good. It was a boost to my self esteem and a source of emotional support. I can't accept cheating even if my standards are fairly low. This guy is really good in terms of compatibility. My second last guy was verbally abusive. In terms of all the guys I have dated, this guy is very polite and decent. So far no other abusive red flags. But he made being around other women seem okay. So I don't know what to do..

You'll need to provide her emotional and sexual stimulation. Men are all about romance. Most nerdy guys are unsuccessful in getting a woman because they can't get her turned on. I guess this is basic. A woman is basically looking for a man who can turn her on but also comes with some wholesomeness in his EQ. Being attractive will land you the woman you want. Being attractive and being faithful and being emotionally diligent will land you a sturdy relationship. Choice is yours.

Oh yes sir. You're right. Should have asked before. But I thought it would be too much to ask right away. I like to keep it polite and simple in the beginning. I don't like to intimidate a man. And this was something I wasn't even planning to do. It happened by accident.

I don't even know where you could possibly meet guys who talk such horseshit?! I can actually screenshot a text conversation right now to you to show you that even the noblest gentlest educated and respected men out there say those things. In fact the guys who have the clean cut image are the ones who are more notorious in making a woman believe that it's in her best interests to let him do what he wants.

I just left the guy. Game over. I didn't give into his "be open minded" bullshit..

Well glad to know that you don't think that way. What a relief.

No. I get angry when I'm put in the shoes of a man who has been cheated on. Because they get to whine meanwhile I don't. If a woman whines about how a man cheated on her, she is bad because she wasn't open minded enough .. Blah blah blah. The hypocrisy.

@Ulax by the way I asked "why is cheating considered okay?" I did not ask "why is cheating desirable for men?"

Lmao nice justification there.

Curious why you would get into relationships at all if you thought they were a jail?

Agreed.

Either way it's hurtful? Would you agree? Imagine if you're a young girl emotionally invested in a guy and the next thing you know is that he is looking at the woman across the street and how is that going to make you feel as a girl?

So they cheated on you?

Could you explain this statement a bit?

LOL. Either way she will know..

And how do you deal with it?

Who told you it's okay? Men get enraged as hell when a woman cheats on them. But they are relaxed when they themselves do it.

@Liebestraum okeeee. That's a lot to work on.

Have some empathy for Leo He is sharing his journey and that must be respected.

@lostingenosmaze yea. Haterz gonna hate

These channels. Don't know what to say. One is called Actualized Notes. And the other is Parodized Clips.