Joseph Maynor

Start a daily routine. Make a mission statement. Start a meditation practice. Practice mindfulness. Eliminate addictions. Increase positive motivation.

When you get your inner game right the action starts to take care of itself. When the resistance disappears we get auto-correction. If you think about it you are working all the time already. The key is to re-program that "natural working" you're already doing to different tasks. But it's a gradual transition. Make it a labor of love that even the lower-you could learn to grudgingly accept.

Both are important and should be cultivated. I've gotten huge results from cultivating both. Enlightenment is big and life changing. Self love is more subtle. Sort of like realizing that spanking doesn't work as a great source of motivation. You do better when all of you is on board with the hero's journey, even that sinning part of you. Love your sins to death.

I find this to be healthy practice. Record yourself often and get your thoughts and ideas out. This is how you will start to see what you have and then you can build from there. I have done this massively myself. And listen to them afterward and take notes. Make lists.

Get out of the paradigm of beating yourself up. Until you learn to be kinder to yourself and love yourself, a part of you will continue to self-sabotage. Work on cultivating positive motivation. When you pull the reins too tight the horse will buck. Give yourself more love. Work on self acceptance. Leo has a vid on this. Do the exercise in his vid. Paradoxically this will cause you to shape yourself up.

Eliminating addictions, loving myself, nurturing positive motivation, actually doing my scheduled tasks, constant mindfulness.

Do this exercise: Make 3 lists on 3 pieces of paper: 1. "things I'll get", 2. "things I've given up", and 3. a list of "ground rules". Start there. Go somewhere like the park to do this work. Stay for a few hours. Do some soul searching and visualization there.

Yes. But you should be ridding yourself of all addictions as a long term goal. I agree that it can provide ability to focus, among other benefits. But it also provides pleasure, and it is very addictive, or can be. At some point, you gotta drop it, as well as all addictions. Addictions ruin your life. Ridding myself of addictions is where I got a lot of personal development growth. It is huge.