Joseph Maynor

How about fragmentation AND no fragmentation? You like paradox? Most people don't yet like paradox. Most people are stuck in the Paradigm of Belief. Paradox keeps the Mind from locking and blocking you within beliefs by keeping your Mind open and in its place. Paradoxes are not beliefs, they're tools to keep the Mind from assuming its beliefs are Being. The Tao that can be Named is Not the Eternal Tao.

Isn't this kind of a dick-measuring contest re-framed as "I'm more loving than you are"? This is an Ego boost, no? This is Virtue Signaling. This is what the Ego-Mind does when it wants to elevate itself relative to other Egos. I call this positioning yourself near the top of the Totem Pole of Egos. The Ego-Mind routinely uses Knowledge Signaling and Virtue Signaling for this purpose. The Ego always wants to think, "I've got a bigger dick than you!" See? The Egoic dick-measuring contest/system plays itself out in so many, and even paradoxical, ways. I call this the Totem Pole of Egos where your Ego is positioning itself to be as high up as you can on that pole.

Doesn't it make strategic sense for you to worry about removing your own ignorance before trying to remove other people's ignorance? Why impose yourself in that way on other people's lives if you're busily designing and building your own life? This is like not driving your own car well yet worrying about correcting the driving of all the drivers on the road. If you're standing around worrying about what other people are doing, you're not busy enough with your own work.

When you have it, you don't need to talk about it, and you don't need to feel triggered that someone thinks differently from you about it. You have it! There's no insecurity there about it. Now you can go live your life and focus on the next thing you want but don't yet have. You're not obsessed with things you have, you're obsessed with things you want but don't yet have. You can always tell what people don't yet have but want because it's what they're currently obsessed about and yammering about and trying to be right about.

What about worrying about what you need? I'm fine. You need me to be like you. See? This stuff is tricky! Tricky tricky! The Ego-Mind wants everybody to be like me so I get to feel right, safe and secure, and feel more comfortable in the world.

You gotta re-program yourself to learn to love the process.

Wake up from what?

What's wrong with this? The Ego-Mind is imposing a block and lock. A self-imposed limitation.

Yes, but I was just making a point to unblock a certain kind of trap. Indeed. The Ego-Mind's hard-lines blur when love is present and abundant.

If Ego and Projection are like a gun shots, Relativity is like a nuclear bomb.

There's no one-size-fits-all Enlightenment. There's only your Enlightenment. And there's my Enlightenment. And there's his Enlightenment. And there's her Enlightenment. The Ego-HeartBodyMind neurotically wants to make my perspective the perspective. It gives the Ego-HeartBodyMind a feeling like it knows and a feeling of security and stability in a reality full of change that might disturb its preferences.

Interpersonal Development is like Calculus and Personal Development is like Algebra. You need Algebra for Calculus, but Calculus is way more advanced than Algebra is. Interpersonal Development work, like Calculus, is really sweet when you're ready for it, but it's a horror when you're not ready for it. You will fail your ass off in Calculus brutally and with no mercy given if you haven't mastered Algebra. That's what people are afraid of with relationships is failing their ass off, because we've all been there many times. But when you're prepared for Calculus, you've met all the prerequisites for Calculus -- studying Calculus is amazing! It's a new, exciting venture.

This is how people get blocked and locked by the Mind on the Path. The Mind can help you but it can also lock and block you into your own self-created prison, your own self-created set of limitations. The Mind is a double-edged sword if you don't know how to put the Mind in its place.

You still have a lot of time in your life left to explore social life. No need to rush. I'm only just now getting into building up my social life and I'm 41 years old. It's almost like you gotta be ready. It's like a new chapter. A new field to explore as an explorer. You probably still have other more interesting fields to explore before you find that one particularly interesting. Nothing interests me more than social life right now because I've basically done almost everything but social life as a chapter in my life so far. Well, not really, but you see what I'm saying. Social life has a lot of challenges, interesting system issues/problems, and amazing rewards. Social life is actually quite fascinating when you look at it from the perspective of a creator, explorer, and scientist. I get fascinated by the interpersonal system dynamics and mechanics I'm formulating and attempting to optimize. There's a logic/logos to interpersonal systems just like other systems if you can find it.

The ways you present is often aligned with solving your parents' most deficient blocks/limitations. You fixed your parents' problems and your kids will fix you and your spouse's problems. It's an interesting insight I had. Of course each person comes with their own set of ideosycratic challenges as well like a dose of randomness added into each person/system.

I cured alcoholism in myself by realizing in a very detailed way how it was blocking me from living my life in the way that want to be doing so. I found that alcohol is not only bad for my health, I can tick off exactly (very specifically) how it's an obstacle to me going after my most sought-after objectives. It's all about getting down to the nitty-gritty details of knowing yourself and knowing what you want. Then you can notice blocks including alcoholism very easily. You will not continue to knowingly do something that is blocking you from attaining your most sought-after objectives when you see exactly how it's blocking you. That's a deal-breaker for the alcohol. That's where you want to get to to sustainably quit alcohol or any other distraction for that matter.

I've grown! I grew myself, see. Very systematically. You can design your own life and be enlightened simultaneously. There's no contradiction there besides what the Mind erroneously throws up like it's a feature of reality rather than just a thought about Being.

When you're pursuing your own life, you don't have time to worry about what other people are doing. Video on point to watch:

When you're pursuing your own life you're not really concerned with what other people are doing.

Psychedelics are a useful tool on the Path if you're fortunate enough to be able to experiment with them. I'm not sure of the risks of over doing them though. I only trip like once every 6 months.

See, your intention is to make your perspective the perspective. You still need reinforcement that you're right. You can't tolerate tangential ways of being to your own yet. Ask yourself this -- what is that which needs to be right? Is a chipmunk running around thinking every other perspective needs to be like his? And yes, chipmunks have individual perspectives and personalities too. What is that which needs to have everything be like me? I think one of the great places to arrive on the path is appreciation of and toleration for the diversity of enlightened being.

Turn your life into art if you choose to. There's no one right way to live your life. You can do whatever you want with your time.

You're at a different part of the Path than I am. We're Mars and Venus to each other. I'm not saying I'm superior to you or you me. We prefer different lenses to look at Being through right now in our respective journeys, that's all. Celebrate diversity!

@possibilities You might think authenticity is the end, but it's really just the beginning. Authenticity is the mere starting place for advanced Personal/ Interpersonal Development work.

I accept the fact that no two people are at the same place in their Path. You might be speaking Chinese and I might be speaking English. You might live in China and I might live in Australia. You might be at Stage X of life and I might be at Stage Y of life. Maybe you're a woman and I'm a man. Maybe your personality type is the opposite of mine. Maybe your most sought-after objectives in life differ from mine. Maybe your grab-bag of useful theory differs from my grab-bag of useful theory. Maybe your life trajectory is tangential to my life trajectory.