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@Preety_India Have you found a balance around that? or Is this something you continue to contemplate about yourself and how you can breakthrough to keep improving?

Hey, self actualizes, I am almost 23 years old, working at a job and also from home selling online, and have been living alone for the last 2 years moving out from my parents. I've been into personal development since 2014 when I had to decide what career I wanted after graduating high school in 2015 and got into it when I was obese at that time and wanted to get better with girls. My life has been completely reinvented from the personal development journey. There are times where I go several weeks where I randomly do a 1-2 day water fast, stay in my house watch lectures and read books all day, meditate, and go without masturbating or having sex. I also go into isolation where I rarely talk to anyone for a couple of days and focus on myself and my work. Then almost 3 weeks after I stick with this routine I become robotic-like, monotone in my voice and my emotions are rigid. When I communicate with people this way especially girls I tend to not have an interest in talking to them or if I do my conversation skills really suck. I want to know if any of you are relating to this feeling of being this way after working on yourselves? For example, have also observed in Leo's newest videos through his body language including his voice that he's more monotone, and he doesn't show a lot of facial expressions. Has it impacted your relationships, professional life or friendships?

Dear Self Actualizers. Since my last year of high school in 2015, I very got serious about my career and income. I decided to enter the world of eCommerce in 2016 and at one point supported my self with that business. I discovered my purpose in July 2017 but for some reason, I can not connect with it anymore. The reason is that I got stuck in my comfort zone and then growing up in life with all the hardships I have faced including jobs, the interest in starting relationships with people, buying a house, living on my own trying to survive typically what happens when you become an adult had unconscious moulding of who I am now. I have become an incredible person through this process of living my values, knowing what my strengths are and learning about my personality with it constantly changing. I have had trouble starting a new business and I love business my life purpose statement is actually about creating a conscious business that is efficient and limits how much resources it consumes and helping people who do business with us internal and external customers live a more prosperous life. It has been modified because it is a complex thing I am trying peel away at. I can explain my intentions with it but embodying it is what I have trouble doing. Another point on how far off I am from it is I prioritize learning about a variety of topics, to an extent, I am a jack of all trades. And also I have been trying to understand myself what kind of leader I am and have been learning non-stop for years and not taking initiative. It has been as if I consume information as hoarding. I am really lost as to how I have such a wide knowledge base but can not become creative enough to understand the real root of who I am trying to become with my career and life purpose. I would appreciate any feedback. And learn your perspective or approach. Alberto

I have seen texting as a way to send information and getting someone out on a date. Not to have conversations and trying to have a circus. It blows my mind how guys text girls for hours and have conversations in the guys attempt to get her out on the date and it works for them. Can someone describe to me how they use texting to pick up girls? And why do you spend your time behind a screen chatting with her, couldn't you just call or set the date up in just a couple of text? I want to understand how guys can build rapport with a girl through text and entice her to flirt with you, send you pictures of her and invite you to events. How do you do it? Can you give me your mindset or how you have such texting success with girls? If I did flirting or texting for long hours I would end up being her best friend or be labeled as a weirdo which I am not. Would love to hear your thoughts. Alberto

I'm a young entrepreneur (20 Years). Here are some of the most powerful and positive things that having a life purpose has done to my life. (3 Months after completing the course 7/24/17) I am more confident and internally motivated Have discovered my top 5 emotions and experience them almost weekly (Deep inner fulfillment) I have a become a better communicator assertive, way more authentic (This point can't be any truer) Aligned with my career by practicing my top skills that is designed to ace my life purpose Live by my values every day Downsides This is the hardest shit I've ever done. My vision is big for the business I want to build Independently doing all the work, stressful (The rules don't magically change once you know your passion in life) You are responsible for being creative and bringing value to the world with your life purpose. (That shit's challenging) It takes 1,000s of hours of developing the skills (NO you can't slack off) Sometimes you lose momentum (The energy) I have fallen off track with my life purpose a couple of times. What's your Life purpose looking like? Please share! I rarely have these kinds of conversations!

Never get upset when something you think is "bad" Always be independent-minded, there is no one that can do it for you Get rid of all shity friends and eliminate junk food Put in strong habits, get good sleep I think it's more personally fulfilling and doing the things that will help you self-actualized, not spending your time on time wasters. Think about being 100% responsibility as personal leadership for that vision you want to achieve.

@egoeimai That well could be a reason, i accually do carry some form of anxiety with me to new sistuations. Thanks for your replay this is good stuff.

I have seen some post about this topic. However what is your thinking on my situation. I started PD when I was 16 in high school, I'm 19 now and finally starting to see and experience some real personal development after practicing most of what is seen on Acualized.org. And i also have my own online retailing business which is all self funded. The list is large but I live by the work I have done and continue to grow my self. I expect great success in my life, and I have invested 1000s+ hours learning, business and personal development, etc For anyone who is really focused on finding their life purpose you will understand grinding every day. But I did make this goal to date or to be in a relationship. Here I am going 2 months into no fap and on every online dating channel. I am so confused like I am a nice guy and great at small talk and building relationships. But sexually I think girls vomit, i am just the man that I am all the time, as authentic and straightforward to be. I am well rounded developed guy emotionally, physically, and spiritual. Has anyone found their partner by being who you are? I don't think I should say who I am as a person, but through my lenses I am always thinking strategically and focused. It has nothing to do with dating, when I do go for a date I'm not the best flirter, but I do talk a lot with the date I have And have a flawless fun time together. This happend twice at the end of the date I am rejected going in for the kiss. Wtf?