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Thank you. I’ll try it. ? I feel okay atm but that’s cause I am working / interacting . I get it when I am alone

@Leo Gura I think the root of my anxiety is related to repressed childhood trauma. Because the more I try to release it, the worse it gets and there is no getting through. I’ve tried a lot of things.... It started when I started psychotherapy 18 months ago. The closest I’ve got to releasing was when I did transformational breathwork and I just lay there shaking and trembling but without a conscious recollection of anything. And since then, it’s like my protective mechanisms have adapted to that type of therapy so now it doesn’t work.

@DIDego maybe this is the case. It could be my my mind and body telling me to slow down.... Interesting ?

@Nahm thank you. I find when I keep myself busy, it all goes away. Meditation and introspection seems to bring it on. I understand that this May be necessary purging, but for over a year now, I’ve allowed these emotions and thoughts to just ‘be’ I suppose I can’t help but find myself frustrated when after all that time and patience, a year on and it’s only got worse and more persistent. Its like something in me is telling to back off and get on with living (e.g no more inner work) this has manifested into that gut wrenching pain feeling. Although there is no thought attached. It’s just that’s what I intuitively feel that the pain is trying to indicate.

@bejapuskas I find it happens when I’m on my own. If I am interacting with others that hold my presence enough.... work or good friends then it goes away. The issues I have are coming up when I am alone...

@Leo Gura I’ve had psychedelics in the past but since all this ‘work’... I don’t feel mentally stable enough to have them now. And therein lies the irony.... ? I suppose I just want to be less in my head and more in the moment. I seem to have developed this horrible gut wrenching anxiety, however this is not related to anything I am consciously thinking about. I couldn’t sleep last night cause of it. I’ve tried meditation and all sorts, it remains throughout the meditation. I want to live a better a quality of life than what I currently am.... more energy, more vitality, more confidence. Not ‘happy’ but just more resilient I guess. Like I used to be. Thanks for the suggestions.

To grow and develop. That’s why I do the work... the gain awareness and evolve. Except the opposite is happening.

@Nahm HAHA.. very sharp! I have corrected it now. It isn't him.

Gotta love ? a paradox

But we don’t know if he’s ALL masculine, the same as I am not All feminine. So all I am suggesting is him thinking about what’s best for himself as an individual based his on his own balance of feminine and masculine energy ? Rather than project our own thoughts onto him and tell him what to do...: I’m just suggesting that he uses his own wisdom and intuition that’s all. We’ve never met him or her. This is all just a very basic outline of a situation... so any advise is going to be completely subjective anyway.

So men don’t want to have more enjoyable sex with someone they trust? They’d rather have fast food sex ? I think some of you may be missing the bigger picture. yes if he’s just looking for a hole to put his dick inside then I guess your method works. But let’s at least see what he wants first before making presumptions based on our own experiences as a desperately horny teen. Young people now, are far more aware than they ever been. And (of course) evolving .... as far as I can see (I maybe wrong) but he just wants to know if she’s Interested in him... not a 123 method for fast food sex. Maybe he wants a relationship with her ? We don’t know yet as we haven’t asked.

As opposed to what ? Isn’t this egoic experience all fantasies and games... ?

Lol. Really.... Put it this way. If you want a preticable, generic girlfriend and relationship, then yes. Do all of this. If you want an authentic, spontaneous girlfriend and relationship. Then get to know her and feel into your intuition. If she runs off, then she wasn't right for you anyway. Just my tuppence worth... ;-)

The universe seems to have lined me up with a distance energy healer... I have to admit I am very skeptical However I am open minded and like to give everything a go. She is also a phychotherapist (retired) but keen to work with me regularly after I shared a little of my situation. She’s got no website and is only known through people. I am not sure whether I want to work with someone who believes they can clear energy in the house and see auras from France to UK. How is this possible ? Does anyone do this themselves or have experience or knowledge of this ability ? ?

No. That’s ridiculous.... I know many girls including myself that also jerk off to porn. It’s just a weird human weakness...

@Nahm makes sense ?

Okay. What did you mean by the women’s before? This one...

@Nahm Maya. Anyway. What do you mean then by that comment? Sorry. I don’t understand.. ?

You mean it’s all part of the illusion anyway? I suppose you could say that about anything though ?

Hello all! I have recently statrted seeing a new therapist. He is a male Jungian analyst. This is my first time with a Jungian and also with a male. Although I wouldnt have expected the gender makes much of a difference, but, who knows!? We have had 5 sessions so far and by the 4th session I became very frustrated and upset because he spends long periods of the session in silence. If I talk, he often holds his hand up to pause me. Which I feel ruins our flow. When he pauses his eyes go up to his head and he holds his face. These pauses go on for a good few minutes. And I just sit there until he comes back to me. I often ask him questions and he doesnt answer straight away, he does that instead. I thought this may be because I am new and he just needed a few sessions to get used to me. But as I said, by the 4th session, when I came out. I realised how upset and frustrated I was! I felt like I wasnt listened to or acknowledged. I then brought it up with him the very next session which was on Friday and he said (after a 3 minute pause) that the reason he does this is because he is 'checking in' with himself, to see what is arising. What thoughts and feelings are present. A bit like when we meditate. He says he does this to make sure he is remaining impartial. Whlst this does make sense, it seems like it takes a lot of time for him to do this, I would of thought, as a skilled therapist (over 30 years experience) he could do both. Remain present with me, looking at me, be emotionally available at the same time as remaining impartial. But maybe I am expecting too much? He also said that he does this because he has noticed I am very, very senstive. So he wants to ensure he chooses the right words to say to me. Again - makes sense. But also creates a lot of discomfort, disturbs the flow and puts my mind into overdrive whilst I try to fill in the blanks. By him focussing on himself and what to say next, It makes me focus on him too. And my own thoughts. He also says that he pauses as an example, to show me what I should be doing. To pause, reflect and check in with myself, during the session. He is indicating I should do the same. I will happily do this - but does this need to happen for so long and after almost every question or sharing of intimate detais. It takes me a while to get going as I can be quite reserved. So it's hard to then just sit there whilst he goes into himself. I can go into myself outside the session, why do it there when I am paying so much money? However, I don't want to just stop going because of a different approach when it might be just what I need. t's just the lack of eye contact and pausing for sooooo long really unsettles me. Anyone else experienced this? Thank you!

Now I really don’t know what to do. I guess it was all part of a bigger plan and we were not seeing the bigger picture. I guess he was in the middle of a process. I feel for him to be honest... always frustrating when you can’t finish a project ?

So having taken on board your comments and spoken to other therapists, as well as my own gut instinct. I’ve called off the rest of the sessions.... his response - Hello Natalie, I’m sorry to her this. It’s not a good idea to stop psychotherapy suddenly. I suggest we keep the sessions we have arranged prior to my break and I won’t charge you for these. I’ll invoice you for sessions to date, let me know if you need time to pay this. James Is it a good idea to have the final three sessions for free? Again, is it odd that he is offering me for free? He usually charges £80 an hour? Atm, I am so lost, so please don’t say ‘go with your heart’ as the recent year has eroding my self trust, which is the reason I am in therapy. Thoughts on continuing to tie up loose ends? sorry. I know I am pathetic to ask such basic questions to a forum. But this is where I am at. The only way is up ?

I don’t know if I have that much control but I’ll def give it a go tonight...

@black_math49 I am often concious in my dreams too.. it's annoying, as I would rather switch off.

She charged me £20 to cleanse my house and she cleared a negative thought form that had attached itself to me. That was all that was meant to happen as I didn't approach her for pychotherapy. All of this was done with her husband from France whilst we werent even on a call. She just tuned in pychically. . But she says she feels that I could do with regular healing energy work alongside the therapy. Obviously, she was not pushy, just stating what had come to her. She is in her seventies so looking to have less work than more. She said my aura is very open and could do with grounding and that she can help with my childhood traumas that I carry. She described very accutely the feeling that I have most of the time, which is that i am floating above my body.. SHe just intuitively picked that up. She charges £50 per session, which can be weekly or fortnightly. In this session she does an hour of pychotherapy and 30 mins mindfulness and energy healing.