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@Shin Ye it is not something controllable. Still suprising to see though, that judging oneself and judging others are really two sides of the same coin.

@Natasha Wow that's actually a deep insight. Thanks.

This morning I was searching for my sweater for a good 40 minutes. Turns out I was already wearing the sweater under my hoodie all along...

@Leo Gura Awesome, I really like your booklist. Will check it out.

@Marco_the_Ape Ye that's true. Exactly why I joined a Zen meditation group and am regularly on the forum

Ye when I just started personal development and meditation, there was this deep urge within me to tell everyone about it. After all, what you are doing here is very profound and life-changing. Turns out it is not worth the trouble and discussion to convince someone to throw their life around. They'd have to experience for themselves how amazing this is, otherwise their minds will stay closed to the concept. If people are interested into what you are doing and see that you are changing in a good way, they will come to you eventually. Just let it happen Edit: Oh ye, and like Arnold says, there will be a lot of people telling you that what you are doing is stupid and invaluable. Don't listen to the naysayers. Do you. "Discover yourself, Otherwise you have to depend on other people's opinions who don't know themselves." -Osho

@ajasatya I like how you are always about just opening up and sharing what you feel. That's very important indeed and makes for better communication and your bond deepening

Thanks Leo. This kind of topic has probably been one here countless of times, but that's fine with me. I just want to express how grateful and happy I am to have come across your content and learn about personal development and spirituality. I was in a very dark place before this and you really helped me become inspired and look forward to what I can accomplish as a human being before my time is over and I die. So thank you, for everything.

@Marco_the_Ape lol never thought about it like that hahaha. Ye I'm quite insecure about this topic, that's why I wanted some light shone on it

@abgespaced No I mean if I am not exploring my own sexuality anymore, how will I be able to make a girl feel good? And because I become so sensitive to touch, will I not ejaculate prematurely?

@Shin I’m at day 24 now. Determined to complete my november challenge. The only thing that can make me relapse now is this thought or belief “ If I stop masturbating all together, how will I be able to please a girl, and will I not cum prematurely?” If you could shine some light on this I would be ever grateful to you. I love nofap and the ability it gives me to explore my inautheticity deeper but this belief I have really fucks with my head.

@Ether We are 'not a thing' but not nothing.

@Ether Ye but I am definetly something. Even being nothing is something.

I just want to know what I am.

@David S It might be different but the idea stays the same. Believing that you won't exist is nothing like experiencing that you don't exist. If something has not been a direct experience for you it is belief. For me doing Neti-Neti meditation helped me expose the way I belief in the self. Maybe this could help you as well. Video that might help you understand:

@Ether My thoughts are part of reality, otherwise how could they exist? How can something exist outside of reality?

@Ether True, but that doesn’t make it any less real if that’s my experience.

@Shiva Interesting, you are one of the few haha. I started because of suffering and using meditation as a way to 'overcome' suffering. Now after a couple of deep meditative states and seeing for myself that 'I' cannot be located, I started becoming genuinely curious like yourself. But being that from the get go is pretty rare

I know that Rupert Spira and Peter Ralston were both just very interested in exploring their experience. Ofcourse suffering can be a big motivator to find freedom but some people are just genuinly intersted in reality

Also, don't do yourself short. Instead of opening every girl you see, open a girl you would genuinely like to talk to. Maybe go to an event that you are authentically interested in, you could find girls there that share the same interests as yourself. This will probably make the interaction easier and more effortless

@Ether Ye the barrier between meditation and my normal every day life is starting to fade. I switched to the Do Nothing technique and in between all the shit that is coming out, there are periods were my mind gets slower and just stops all together. That's hard for my ego to grasp though, it instantly wants to control, keep the silence, etc.

@Shin Ye when I asked you a while back if I should meditate less because I was in some existential crisis at the time you gave me the same tip I went from 40 minutes to 90 minutes per day so I guess it worked haha

@Leo Gura Well then Actualized.org is like the ultimate way of idea-planting

@Nullref I'm in the same kind of situation you are at. I've cut ties with friends I had on my other High school because they were all about drinking, roasting people, toxic humour, etc. But there is one friend that I have had since middle school. His name is Colin, he is my best friend. We used to play a lot of video games together as we are both kind of more shy introverted guys. Now that I'm cleaning up my diet, quit video games and cut back a lot with watching Anime, We are both on very different paths, which makes it very hard to relate in any way. I kinda love the guy though, he is one of my best friends I've ever had and we've been through tough times together, which makes it even harder to see the contact we have decreasing.

@Shin Waaaaaaait, how did you add a kappa to your comment