Ananta

@Feel Good See my post above? Btw, thanks for the report, for name calling/swearing. Been on forums for 9 years and never a single point. Now I got ..2! I feel like a badass, yeah! ?

@Feel Good You got me 2 points for saying a swear word!!! Lmao ??? You're too much dude, lol Its comic relief around here. I swear.?

I hardly post anymore dude, so nice try, but there's nothing to report. Gain some perspective, by getting away from forum posting and reading, for a bit, it will help not to take yourself so seriously on here.

If u stop taking yourself so seriously, you'll be much happier. ? Peace ?

@Ingit ? What does that mean?

So, the cliff notes version- @Feel Good got his big ass ego bruised by @who chit when he called Feel Good out by saying he was speaking from theory and not experience. Feel Good then quickly lost his shit, spiraling downhill at lightening speed and somehow ultimately blamed it all on @Faceless, then stated he was leaving this forum for a Krishnamurti forum. ? It's been quite entertaining ! ?

@Faceless @robdl Hehe...found this meme a while ago and been waiting to use it! ???

@Lynnel There are people who have open marriages. It may sound absurd to you, but it happens, for various reasons. Of course, they can try the obvious, which is counseling, but that will not increase her sex drive, if that's the problem, which she says it is. She could follow up medically, which she didn't do, but he can't force her. Btw, its the OP who brought up cheating, the other posters, including myself, are commenting on that option and it IS an option. Even if you don't like it.

All of you saying he should just leave her alone is the worst advice possible...lol. He will never get any, ever again and she will be thrilled to be left alone. I do sorta agree (as long as there's no medical reason) about letting her know you are contimplating sex outside the marriage, for her convenience, of course. If you can't come to some sort of arrangement. She would probably at least give it up, even if she's not "in the mood". Like I did with the dreaded "schedule". However, if u say you will look for sex outside the marriage, you have to mean it and be willing to face whatever she may throw at you- tears, anger, objects! It may not, most likely wont, be pretty. But tell her, if left in a sex-less marriage, she's left you with no choice and you don't want to lie and cheat behind her back.

@Ar_Senses It seems you have a lot of problems with her, not just sexually or her libido. Perhaps, you aren't meant for each other? I really dont have relationship advice. Sorry

I really dont want to use myself as an example in this..ugh, but to help the OP, if that's possible, I will. I was "exactly" like your wife for many, many years, EXCEPT I knew if my husband and I didn't have some sex he would leave or cheat. So, after years of fighting about and him begging for....sex. I came up with a schedule I could live with, he hated being put on a shedule! Twice a week (usually Monday and Wednesday) my husband got a lifeless, passionless quickie, then on Saturday the full deal with oral included. So, we had this "schedule", he got off, but there was no passion. I felt nothing usually, except on Saturdays, sometimes with the oral. For years I didn't know why I felt no desire, no urge for sex, ever. I had when I was younger, then it just stopped. Welllllll, I now know what happened. I was put on antidepressants in my mid 20's, stayed on them for many years. I was taken off them about a year ago... and wow! I have a high to normal libido now. So, it wasnt my husband, it wasnt him at all. It was what I had said over the years a million times. I just had zero sex drive. Now I know it was medication related. For others, maybe it's hormones and they should get them checked. I have a very happy hubby now ?. He calls me his new wife.

@Deutsche22 Is she on any SSRI antidepressants? Seriously, they are not good for the sex drive. They can make it non-existent.

@Sbilko I agree!

As I stated, its an observation. Btw, in case youre interested, there are forums dedicated to discussing Krishnamurti- Kinfonet.org comes to mind and people there dont copy his speech and lingo.

YES! You do have to take into account the perspective. Spot on!

See the "my" I put in bold? That's the problem, that's the "self" (lower case "s"). That's the parasite. The self that thinks "it" has an ego.

So, then, you're taking what u think "might" be true and projecting it, as truth itself. Perhaps it's not true? I'm not saying it is or isnt, but just saying you personally don't really know.

@MarkusSweden So, u contradicted yourself from Thursday to Saturday. Perhaps your posts aren't well thought out? Or they don't come from true insight? Actually, per your own post above, you would say, you're projecting your very own poor awareness onto the world. Think about that before responding.

But Markus, you wrote this-

Omg, this is hilarious ?, thanks for the end of the workday laugh! TGIF!!

? I can't tell you the countless times my husband has said right after sex, "uh, think I'll go to bed now".....me: "but hun, it's only 8pm?...lol"

@calibrate ? Of course!

@Recursoinominado "Is it just me or online spiritual communities are full of mental cases?" Yes, I do think this is a fair statement. However, one often comes to spirituality after a good deal of suffering, that can/does often lead to depression, anxiety, addictions and other neurosis, so you're really suprised? Even Eckhart Tolle was deeply depressed and suicidal.

@Jack River sorry, I got busy today and really haven't been able to participate anymore.