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@DrewNows thank you!?

For those that dont know it's quite common, I've been told, to get what's called the "death rattle" when one is in the process of dying. I've just never heard it before, until today. Ive been in home care as a RN for 12 years, but never had a patient actively dying upon my arrival. A sweet little old lady 88 yrs young who has "angel like" clear blue eyes you can see her kind soul in. ..Not sure why her son didnt call me sooner, but he reported to me that she had not eaten or drank much since my visit last week and yesterday refused to get out of bed any longer. During my visit she fell asleep and then I heard it, the death rattle. Her son said, shes had this phlegm build up sound in her throat. I didnt put two and two together until I heard it. I then changed gears and knew I had to convince him to call in hospice (end of life nursing). That is if she lives through the night. Oddly enough, there was this calm, peaceful vibe in the room and he didnt take much convincing at all and called hospice after I left. I feel honored to have been allowed to be a part of her life ..and death. Perhaps I'll be a hospice nurse someday?

Awe, yeah, it's tough to deal with this crap. Especially at a young age. Everyone deals with it differently. Some might want to listen to sad music and just cry, others want to get back to talking to the opposite sex and distract themselves. Some might play sports or video games for hours. Guess it depends on your personality and what works for you. Hope you feel better soon.

Oic, yeah, that whole shy thing is tough. You can get over it though. My sister was a shy kid with 1 friend growing up. She went into the air force at 21 and came out of it at 24 a completely different person, not shy at all, with tons of friends. Not saying to join the armed forces, just saying ppl can change. I think seeing a therapist is a great idea for ppl who feel stuck, for whatever reason, so good for you! Well, I think it's good practice for shy guys that need to work on some things regarding their approach to women. A guy genuinely looking for a date or eventually a relationship. However, the cocky dude just trying to put a notch in their belt of how many chicks they can bang disgusts me to no end. If a girl is smart they can see right through that bullshit.. or I can. So, just dont be or become a cocky asshole and you'll be fine.?

Can you do this diet partially? or does it have to be 100% in? Like could you eat mainly fruit, but have small heated dinners or not so much..lol. It's interesting, I just know I couldn't follow it 100%

This wasnt my point though. Of course, it plays a part, but if it's the whole part, then it's just stupid. Like you said- This I personally think is the healthy attitude. Unfortunately, some guys now a days, just want "hot" eye candy, even if they're dumb as a box of rocks or ugly inside.

Well, I actually agree with what @Leo Gura said on here... He said- >>>>Fear of being rejected, fear of blowing the chance. The hotter the girl, the more you put her on a pedestal, the more you feel you need to impress her.<<< ...and, it really boils down to self-esteem and self confidence. If a guy is confident then he can walk right up to any girl and start talking. If he gets rejected, he just moves on to the next without beating himself up. Maybe he just wasnt that girls type, but maybe he will be the next girls type. So, questions to ask yourself. Do you have a healthy self esteem? If not, why is that? (Looks, clothes, style, intelligence, personality, etc.) As far as it stemming from childhood. Maybe? Only in so far as it pertaining directly to confidence and self esteem as that's where I think the issue is.

Haha, suck is right! If it's not flu-like symptoms, then its large lumps under the skin.

@DrewNows Dang, that diet is super strict. No heated, cooked or seasoned foods. Do you do it?

I remember you have it also.. I'm glad you're no worse and treatmentis helping. For me, all treatment (Avonex 12 yrs, then 2 other injections) gave me side effects and effected my quality of life. So, I stopped.

I had the opposite experience. After smoking for many decades, I switched to vaping and vaped for 5 years straight. I vaped a lot too. My lungs cleared. I had no cough or secretions from vaping, but I didnt like being addicted to nicotine, so 3 years ago I quit vaping too. * but the vape I used was locally made and pure, with only 3 ingredients, plus flavoring. Not sure if that's the difference?

So, I watched about 1/2...I think I got the gist tho. So, he thinks humans should just eat fruits, yes? I also get what hes saying about acidosis, not sure I fully agree, but I dont feel the need to debate it A bit about me, I was diagnosed at 21 with an autoimmune disease called M.S. it gave me problems for years, but has been in remission for awhile now. My last MRI about 3 yrs ago showed that the brain lesions were shrinking, why?? I have no freaking clue! Didnt change my diet, just starved the disease of attention, basically, that's it. Finally, after years of injections I refused all treatment and barely speak of it, except here and there. So, if the doctor is correct what's reversing my autoimmune disease if my diet hasn't changed? I dunno.

Awe, thank you! Oh god, no hijack or overshare at all, no worries. Thanks for your replies

Yeah, it was a buildup actually in the throat from what I could tell. Maybe also very upper bronchial passages. Terminal secretions they are called I think...

Sure, ty for your interest. Some patients you never forget. She will be one of them. I've not heard this, but I'm not an animal expert either, hehe. In the case of many older or sick humans though...not eating and drinking can be a sign of impending death, depending on age and diagnosis. Such was the case with my patient in my post. Hospice uses this criteria as well, as a sign of body shut down.

The “death rattle,” occurs when mucous and saliva build up in the patient's throat due to the respiratory system slowly shutting down. It's a crackling, wet sound that is heard with each breath, usually when sleeping. Theres really no sound like it. Ppl have described it to me many times and when I heard it, I just knew thats what it was. Patients aren't usually bothered by the build up of secretions that caused the rattle, for some reason, including this patient. It was her son that was concerned. So, no, they dont need to clear it. Unless, they do become distressed. They can try to cough some up, but it will just return.

Yup, I was a freak since I was a kid about scrubbing my teeth, back and forth, hard, to clean them. Well, in my early 30's I had to have upper and lower gum surgery from slowly eroding my gums solely by brushing my teeth too hard and in the wrong manner. Thank goodness I dont have a gummy smile and the top isn't noticable anyway because of how the surgery was done, but one of the most painful things I've ever had to go through. Anyways, use a soft bristle toothbrush (with flouride- prevents cavities), in an up/down and circular motion (never back and forth), twice a day.

@RawJudah @CultivateLove Ok, so, here's the real reason I wrote what I wrote. I feel very badly for girls now a days. Most men just wanting a "hot" girl and after reading thread after thread on this forum basically saying the same thing- "I want a hot girl". It just irritated me. How about wanting someone you personally are attracted to who is smart, kind, funny and caring? Why is just "hot" the golden ticket. I just dont get it. So many girls getting plastic surgeries and have eating disorders trying to be a perfect "hot" girl, so they can get a BF. It's ridiculous. ... having good chemistry with someone beats out anything else in my book! ? Anyways, OP good luck with it all, really. Sorry you got my wrath.

Also, if your main dating game is going to be online stuff, then get a good face/profile pic. Get it professionally done even, if you can afford it. That will help get through some of the competition.

@DrewNows thanks,

hilarious!

It's okay. I understand. Most would just call someone an asshole (you might as well have) and been done with it, but you came back to apologize, even if it took 3 days..., but late is better than never.

Well, it doesnt seem like theres much more you can do regarding it at this point. When I'm at the end of my rope about something and theres no where left to go or nothing more that can be done I just say "fuck it" and call it a day. Smile with your lips closed!

So, have you looked into either Crest white strips or whitening trays available at the dentist? And/or getting braces, if your teeth are crooked? Teeth can also get capped from my understanding. Fixing the whiting and crookedness issue. Perhaps a trip to the dentist is in order?