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Perfect!?

I'm sure it's all useful, but I prefer to go straight for the jugular, lol! Yes, who is the suffer? Or is there just pain? Or negative thoughts that are witnessed? Is there a thinker? Are you actually planning out all your thoughts, feelings, emotions? ...then, if you aren't the doer/thinker/feeler, then doing/thinking/feeling is just happening and has always just happened. You just imagined there was a "you" (ego) doing it.

True freedom is realizing there is no free will. Who would have it?

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Perfect, then you can hopefully recognize this "gap" in time, is you, awareness. As awareness, you can never be out of the present moment. You "are" the present moment. It only "seems" like you are not in the moment when thoughts are about the past or future. So, what is really meant is to rid oneself of believing "psychological time", which causes suffering and makes you think you aren't "in the moment". I don't think this can be done. You can see that the ego is illusory, that the little "me" is false, but it will continue to do it's thing. The thing is to see through it and then life won't seem as burdensome. To rest as awareness, being aware of your true nature and play your role as the action figure, that's the goal, imo. Its an ignorance problem we have, it causes suffering. It is when we believe that one is a separate, volitional entity, instead of our true nature, which is whole, complete awareness/consciousness. I found that Self-inquiry and neti-neti was very helpful in the beginning. I would recommend doing that if you aren't already.

@SoonHei awwww

@SoonHei Yes!❤

@Preety_India Wow. That's really too bad. Imo, all "people" can behave badly. It's not necessarily a gender thing.

Yes, if you want to keep what you came into the marriage with and not split it if a divorce happens then you need a prenup. I've not heard this from any man, irl. Only men I've heard say this are on this forum. Sometimes the one that gets to have main custody of the kids, also gets the house and dog, because it is what's best for the kids, but not always. Divorce with kids is never totally fair for both ppl, how could it be? If both want main custody, only one will get it or they do joint custody. If both want the house only one will get it or they sell it and take 1/2 the profit. That's your opinion. I live here and I disagree.

@Arcangelo Then don't marry.

I've been married since 1991, that is 28 years. Also, my son is 27 years old and he is in a happy relationship.

You should not marry then, its probably a bad idea for you.

I've not been divorced, but here in the West the women and men are entitled to 1/2 of all assets, a judge doesn't allow a women to just strip away all assets. Also, the judge awards a custody arrangement, if either party does not abide by this arrangement. They can be brought back to court and held accountable, they may even lose their own rights if they break the arrangement. Men can even get full custody if the women are an unfit parent. I know this because my father was awarded full custody of me and my sister, but he allowed my mother visitation regardless.

Oh well, thanks so much for "letting" me work sir.

@Highest your post goes back to the other thread about, real or not real and I made my pov crystal clear on that thread already. I don't wish to continue discussing the same topic. We can agree to disagree.

Ha, well be careful, you got yourself into some trouble not too long ago. Maybe you had some drinky-poo's that night too.

Sounds like you are speaking from the "apparent" person's pov? Which is not the fundamental reality. Therefore, whether one has had a shift in consciousness or not doesn't affect fundamental reality. It only affects the mind of the apparent person.

Good example!

Yes, awakening is "from" the apparent person, not "for" it. Once you Self realize that you never were the ego or body/mind, then all you could ever do again is to "play" the character of the action figure. Sometimes you may believe what's going on a bit more then other times, but you can never fully believe it again.

Lol! I was recently given a promotion to clinical manager and I didn't even ask for the job. They came to me and offered it. So much for your theory. @Parththakkar12 Too many men having your attitude is what prompted the feminist movement to begin.

“You don’t have problems; you are the problem.” – Swami Chinmayananda

@Nightwise No problem, you could have PM'd me instead of posting it here at all, but you didn't

@abundance ❤

I dont normally discuss mod actions on forum, but you pretty much asked for one account to be banned, so I'm shocked you have issue with it? We would have found out eventually by IP address anyways. Having 2 accounts is against forum guidelines...always. You seemed to know that. So, if you didn't tell us, you could've had a warning and points against this new account, but you did not, because we didn't have to discover it, you told us.