Amadeusz

Yeah I get it. There were many times when I let go and embraced my laziness. Then I started playing computer games, fapping every day to porn, stopped almost every good habit I had. Ok there was more passion, and my authentic motivation kicked in but the amound of healthy motivation was too little... The streak in that paradigm lasted 3 months, then I moved to my whipping paradigm again. Maybe I need to smoothly transition? Maybe I'm not ready for stage green. So you know, surrender to this success motivation, but at the same time give myself more and more freedom and free time? Sorry if I made it dificult to understand.

So I know that there's this video about getting rid of toxic people. But sometimes it's really hard to find out who's my friend and who's not. Moreover sometimes the problem isn't the friend but the ego trying to defend itself. There is a lot of 'grey area' here. Some deep insights would be very helpful to a lot of people. So many people stuck in toxic relationships because they 'should'.

@Shin Sure, but results are so light that sometimes it's hard to know if there are any. But I believe that my meditation gave me much. At least I hope so.

I meditate 90min of Vipassana daily although I feel that I will explore other techniques soon. I have decent results although feel like results could be better. I suck at mindfulness during the day.

So I decided to move to another city. I did it because I lived with my parents now for some time. So I decided to do it but my motivation was kinda neurotic. I did it out of fear that I won't develop my career efficently here... So how do you tell if this feeling is fear of unknown aka resistance or maybe it's my guidance that tells me that it was a bad decision? I really struggle with this one...

So today I was in my local church because there was the mass for my deceased grandfather. And I noticed how priest was traditionalistic and righteous. Actually the teachings were good and I agreed with him most of the time. But it got me thinking... According to spiral dynamics D.Trump seems like he's probably at orange stage; He was and probably is highly success oriented and very egotistical. An average priest is at stage blue - he is very traditionalistic, righteous etc. So is D.Trump more conscious? That's interesting to me. So can you have little ego and be lower in consciousness than someone with bigger ego?

That's the thing I noticed on this forum. Maybe I'm wrong, just saying. I know it's hard not to mimic Leo, but that's very important for us to self actualize IMO. What do you think?

Slade Please tell us that you're trolling us

Maybe just keep sitting in this mud and continue to clean it? First step has been made - you are aware Maybe just rise in consciousness will resolve these problems? Maybe psychodelics? Maybe you're avoiding the hard work and you're too lazy with yourself? Maybe not? That's a hard question to answer whatsoever

Nahm what do you mean? That's true that judgement renders anger but are you saying that it's simultaneously an indicator for him to move on?

Distancing from them, changing environment seems like a good idea..?

I'm brainwashed. FInally I managed to meditate ~90 minutes for like 2 months now and this guy tells me that this could be ego. But maybe that's the case. The time I dropped all shoulds in the past I became happier actually. I have only 2 such things: meditation and singing. I want to master these things therefore I do them religiously. But maybe that's an ego huh?

So throughout last few years I've been building up my intrinsic motivation. It's getting better, but still, if I dropped negative motivation totally I would become a lazy slug (tried it multiple times, had 3 month lazy streak, ended playing computer games for 3h daily). So I have to whip myself here and there to get stuff done. How it with you guys? Maybe you have some tips how to raise intrinsic motivation? Maybe I should drop these shoulds totally and go full in and embrace this laziness?

Ok, hey I'm hope I'm not that lazy, I meditate Vipassana about 90 minutes a day and I have my small business running ;). Also working on my LP slowly. But maybe you're right who knows. It's a tough balance to decide when I'm lazy and when I'm not ... Hmm I think I want to be a musician so the motivation is there. OF course fear is the obstacle and low self esteem. But the problem is that now when I have my Life Purpose I don't let myself do other hobbies and other stuff that I feel motivation towards. I noticed that when I let myself do this other shit then after some time I will gravitate towards music again. But when I have this rigid discipline, rutines THEN my passion fades away and with it my intrinsic motivation. So maybe I should drop this external motivation and let myself be lazy for some time again? Or it's a trap what do you think? Or maybe I should use my external motivation to build my vision? And until I won't whip myself to build this vision I will have to use external otherwise I will be lazy?

+ Thanks for the responses Mighty Mouse: Exactly maybe 'revealed' would be a better word. I mean I don't know if you can rely totally on intrinsic motivation, or you have to whip yourself sometimes? I mean for example it is not so easy for me to start meditation as opposed to other activities as for example bike riding. I can ride bicycle effortless and that's pure intrinsic motivation. But for meditation I have to whip myself a little (not so hard though). Leo: I've already bought it, done it and have a LP ;p Will do it again to deepen my LP foundation. Yeah sure, my vision is kinda there i have CLEAR vision what I want. But it doesn't solve the problem of my whipping habit does it? I whip myself because of fear that I will be lazy. That's the funny thing about it. But maybe I'm on a stage in life where I have to smooth transision from whipping and that's the solution?

Seems that you want to be mainly an actor, You know you could work for yourself as an actor. Maybe you try to approach it in too generic way, find your style?

Thanks for reply. Hmm actually I find this position quite peaceful. Of course there is this negative emotion coming back. But maybe it's some kind of ego backlash? Leo proposed strategy to question an intuition. If it's fake intuition it will come with justifications, if it's true it will be silent. But I don't resonate with this advice, I can't hear if there is justification or not. How to distinguish 'shoulds' from my intuition? Do you have some strategies?

Hey guys I've been living with my parents now for like over a year. I came back to them after living in a big city because of some project. Now when the project is over I've been feeling painful sensation in my chest telling me to move to the big city again as I am a musician and you know it's helpful to live in a big city with my vocation. But at the same time I feel huge resistance to do it. I don't know if it's my intuition and I became too lazy so I feel this resistance or maybe that's my ego whipping me to do more and to do what I SHOULD do. I even rent a flat again but resigned from it quickly. I noticed that this itch is negative motivation based i.e. it wants me to move because otherwise I will become lazy couch potato and settle in my parents house forever. It's basically fear oriented. Living here I have my job, practice everyday, meditate and sometimes write songs, even perform at local venues so it's not like I'm rotting here ? Thanks for reading! Do you have some ideas how to overcome this obstacle? Maybe it's not about moving to another city but it's some nasty ego backlash? It comes in spells.

I didn't read other books but Rich Dad Poor Dad was very good in my opinion. Unfortunately Kiyosaki seems like a filthy guy but the book was in my opinion good.

Disable everything you mentioned, as well as post count. Screw thumbs up, it will motivate ego to get as much thumbs up as possible distorting the discussion.

I was about to post a topic when I saw that many people have the same question. So why bother with life purpose if the fastest way to happiness is spiritual path? It's not only because Leo said so, he only triggered it in me. I can see it myself, that success (life purpose) don't equal happiness. This knowledge robs me of my motivation and now I feel like I'm wasting my time when doing Life Purpose. What are your thoughts about this guys? I know I have to work it out myself but maybe some discuss will help a little.

This book inspired me to pursue passive income and here I am, getting small but steady streams of cash.

In Poland we have very known coach. He wrote book, I consider his material high, 'true growthy' stuff. In one of his articles he writes an idea that many people live under the pressure (external motivation) and that it blocks internal motivation and passion in life. So basically he encourages to shed all your pressure in life and then the internal motivation will start kicking in. He says that people are afraid to drop pressure because they are afraid of being complacent. Similar stuff was told by Leo in "Why youre not happy and you don't want to be" video. I tested it year ago and whoa! it worked I dropped my 'shoulds' totally and said that I'll do what I only want for 5 days. These 5 days became a month, a very good and peaceful month. I made fantastic art about nutrition that was breakthrough for my life purpose. Then I moved to live with my parents (some projects that required living in my home town) and everything collapsed, pressure came back I couldn't get rid of it. I mean it's not high pressure, so I'm living with it and I still have plenty of internal motivation, but I could sustain full internal like I had year ago. So my question is what are your thoughts about it, can one drop pressure tottaly? I tested it for 3 last months again but couldn't get rid of pressure, but instead I became frustrated and complacent, so now I'm back to my light self-discipline mode mixed with little rewards for no reason. Hope that explained the issue clearly.

Thank you for your help! Unfortunately I'm not sure exactly what do you mean... Could you explain in diffrent way? So I have to 'see where my thoughts arise from'. So thoughts about what? Thoughts when feeling the pressure?