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Hahah, yeahhhh he's pretty cool

@Ulax I don't have any books to recommend.. but find what you love and you'll find your people. And... they'll still come and go but more chance of a deeper connection

Not sure, perhaps the difference is less for a man, but for a woman, I find that there is a world of difference. I couldn't realistically be an individual in an Asian country/culture and not be ridiculously feminized to survive, or maybe expect to be sexually harrassed as an exchange for employment (which in Japan there don't seem to exist many jobs for women except for sex work). Not to put down sex work just pointing out the limited options and ways of being.

Oh yeah I love Gabor Mate. Recommend all of his books.

@Husseinisdoingfine I would describe the dominant theme in these countries as being highly dissociated and people tend to relate based on superficiality/"what looks good" over "what's real". There's dissociation everywhere but more so in Japan, Korea, and China. Vancouver has a similar kind of feeling to how Japan seems to be... Also we need an UBI .

Don't know about others, I was doing pretty well/getting better for awhile until a recent visit to my parents'. It's like a memory the body keeps or something. Even though I've moved on and consider myself 90% healed psychologically, the long term health effects are still there and has been debilitating at times. Hope one day I can get to the point where the body can be at its optimal again.

It's all up to you and what you want in the moment . I don't really suppress myself but sometimes find it bothersome/distracting so I just mentally drop it and I've gotten to a point where I can turn myself on and off at will (mostly...), so I find that kind of ability helps you not feel so at the whims of your body chemistry and can be liberating. But it is not suppression, just dropping the desire like hitting a pause button. And I embrace it when I want to again LoL.

Someone could be somewhat "spiritual" without labeling it as such or consciously knowing it as such until maybe later introduced to it. I guess being open-minded more than anything. And then there are many who can be quite dogmatic/non-spiritual but do psychedelics/other drugs for example...

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Nothing wrong with skipping what others do (marriage, kids) altogether if it doesn't speak to you. Seems like you've had your fill of the "caregiver" role. Yes it's very possible to be exhausted by taking care of your family from a young age (mentally/emotionally and/or financially) and only find the opportunity to live your life once you are older (pretty common in traditional hierarchical cultures where the child is expected to take care of/soothe the parents). I to this day feel like my parents and most so called adults I interact with are "toddlers" from a developmental standpoint... And that's enough for me .

I wouldn't want to live there at your level of development. One could argue that it is more "grist for the mill" but it's also not something pleasurable to deal with in the relative. You can have compassion towards something but don't have to force yourself into an incompatible situation long term. Not sure what is keeping you there many people leave after awhile.

Sounds like you just didn't find the right match in that regard and overall it depends on how important sharing this is with you. If you're more open minded about something that's pretty important and day to day and not something you would want to just hide/repress forever then you'd want your partner to be about the same with where you're at or it'll most likely not going to pan out. Yes maybe it'll be harder to find a more open minded partner but does the alternative (repression/hiding) appeal to you more than being single?

Mmmm hard to explain but if you just decide to drop it all you really can, say you're wanting to focus on something else for the next while. But don't guilt yourself if you do go back and enjoy whatever pleases you. It becomes easier to drop it when you want to if you also embrace your desires fully when you want to.

This answer could sound just as fitting for 'femininity' rofl. ???

Well it 'sucks' while you're going through the process, but you kind of just have to accept it and move on and make the most of what you do have. Accept that somehow you ended up on a hard mode. You could think of it as extra fire for the purification process so to speak. "If you have suffered, your life has been forged in fire. If you are still suffering, it is because you do not fully see what the fire has forged, only what it has taken from you." - Teal Swan

Someone misses Leo. Careful not to put him on a pedestal, in the end we all have to drop any "teachers", "gurus".

Sorry Joseph ? He/she honestly seems like the biggest fan... (whomever it was) in a weird roundabout way though. (I'm thinking about the wiki one not the original OP one).

Or dark angels.

Uhh, curious about this too, I sleep around midnight/1am and randomly wakes up around 4-5am almost everyday. Then half the time I go back to another nap or I don't and start going through the day. Then may need another short nap later in the day. Don't get it but it doesn't affect me currently so it's fine.

LOL, it may be the more likely scenario tbh. Life can be weird as hell.

LOL. Wonder if that would be enough for him. Maybe he could've been a pro starcraft player in this/another lifetime.

Obv you just have to pleasure yourself in that case and keep looking, unless you found someone mutually interested in just having a good time (which you can't really count on finding quickly). I mean even if you had a gf it may not be enough for you for some guys and gals so then what? It's prob never going to be 'enough' for some people.

Tried Sertraline and Bupropion, bupropion was better, however as I have some ADD tendencies. Sertraline I tried for about 2 weeks and bupropion about 4 weeks. Also therapy was much better for me in the end.

Maybe a sign of jealousy. This is not supposed to replace therapy/shadow-type work for people struggling with mental health. Yes on the other side there's tremendous peace and love and serenity but that's not some guarantee it's up to the individual.

Tried a few, they have the effect of numbing you down emotionally as well as giving me some anxiety/heart racing problems so I stopped. I have some back ups on hand for 'emergencies' but don't usually take any nowadays.