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Finding men who are okay with loving multiple women if it happened to them.

Maybe it's a reminder of being a bit lonely? And also if you feel more ashamed of it as opposed to taking joy and pleasure. That's mostly conditioning. Also orgasms can in my experience induce an opening experience which can reveal the inner emotions/feelings that have been bottled up and away from your everyday consciousness - similar to some psychedelics in that. But it sounds like you are pointing mostly to guilt.

Also aphrodisiac effects lawl.

Totally depends on how you carry yourself.. If you're otherwise confident and calm let's say, it's pretty attractive, or can be seen as more masculine/mysterious. If you feel insecure about it and that affecting how you come off then probably will make it less attractive.

I guess if you keep 'flirting' when she's obviously not into it then yeah it's turning into 'harassment'. It's usually fine if you're just doing it to test the waters and generally okay at reading social cues.

Very subjective thing what makes someone feel it's "sacred". You can have the most crude and vulgar kind of communication and that's your "sacred" in that moment.

This tells me it could be a sign of a deeper issue to look into as well... Without spoiling too much it could be childhood-related which can make us pin a lot of hope in romantic prospects - and thus when they don't work out it can be soul-crushing rather than just move on and continue our exploration/adventure. We may be hoping to meet some kind of unmet need for love/validation/to be seen. This is something you can work out through spirituality/self-therapy and/or with healers. I've been there (it's still not easy) and know what it's like to be on a 'hamster wheel'. Just thought I'd add this you can ignore it if it doesn't seem to apply .

Prob she just didn't feel that way about you and felt creeped out by it. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm not sure about your situation but some women feel really unsafe too and that could be a factor. There was a time when a guy was semi-stalking me and it made me feel really unsafe even if from his perspective it was maybe 'loving' but it was clearly not reciprocated and he kept doing it (stalking and saying suggestive stuff). I don't know the details but sounds like best to move on..

Communicate first, and if still nothing and you don't feel good about the situation, it means you don't share the same values on this..

Err, I would err on the side of, communicating your test status (if you have them regularly when changing partners often), and if you aren't sure, it's best to be safe than sorry. Taking chances with STDs doesn't sound too fun to me but seems like most people don't care about this until it's "too late".

I am a 50-year-old white man. Just kidding, hmm there're others I would rather meet before those ones.

Hayashi Yasunori ('yasu') Not possible: Frederic Chopin, Michael Jackson

LOL some kind of glitch happened there... or could it be on purpose... ? nah.

I am not taking the highest recommended dosages for those. Maybe you can cut it to where it's not affecting you negatively like that.

^This.

The odds are in your favor. We're wired to be social. Start noticing that everyone wants to feel desired and loved in some shape or form. When you feel the abundance abound you'll stop chasing and naturally attract who you're meant to be around.

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LoL.

Find ways to give yourself income that's not from a typical job. Find ways to live your life the way you see fit that represents "your true self" within the limitations. More and more you will find the power is within you to do so. Dare to be different from the crowd, despite the temporary costs, gossips, demonization. If living your truths is worth everything to you you will find a way.

No need to feel guilty just enjoy it when you do, sounds like you're a very moderate drinker to me .

What I've discovered is that it's not just about those things. You are prob vibrating on a different plane than most, and thus ideally you want to find someone also vibrating on that plane. This may be one of the reasons it seems harder for you than it may be for others - and the many rejections and heartbreaks. It is not just a matter of external factors. The thing is even if you did get a sweet or hot girl lets say, if you don't vibrate on a similar plane it won't feel very good for long. But that's just my experience. Maybe you'd be good with just a relief for once.

Let me know if you find anything that 'tones sexual energy down' that's not a pharmaceutical kthanks.

Not a bad thing she literally told you it's a dealbreaker so it won't work/saves you time. Not much point in trying to skirt around the issue or hide your preferences (and hers) until later.

Sexuality is a spectrum/web of complexities. I don't view it as black and white usually and it also can evolve throughout your life. Just stay open to the possibilities and don't shame yourself for having certain feelings that may be deemed 'outliers', and stay open to exploring your curiosities.

I believe those are highly treatable/healable conditions if done right and root cause is being addressed, not to diminish what the person is going through. It can be a complex process but generally speaking nurturing environment and ongoing therapy for starters.