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Does Sadhguru & Frank Yang look like pussies to you? I mean, they dont look macho, but they look aceptable to society. If your enviornment, like mine is judgemental on feminine energy, then compensate your character. Wear masculine clothes and colours, use larger clothes, grow a big beard, use masculine accesories/ symbols, get buff, get tattoos, get a masculine haircut, use masculine sunglasses, get masculine associations to you. Drop feminine self-images. Drop all self image if you can, until you can be conscious alone. If you see yourself as weak or feminine, others can perceive that self image of yours through intuition. Try to cut all feminine associations to you. Like some type of music or things you like. (dont leave any of these feminine stuff you might enjoy, just dont share it with average people). Have a thin, but loving masculine self image. By all these, you compensate your image to society into fitting in to their eyes. It will be the perfect mix of sweet energy and masculine look. Still, not all will like you and thats perfect. Too much meditation will make you uncapable and too passive for the world. Save meditation for private space alone. The thing with meditation is that people want to take advantage of you when they feel that innocent energy. Approach primarily through presence and concentration/contemplation. Here you can be still and active. And dont forget to hiss and fight if you need too even in the path. Then you can burn that karma again. But dont let things pile up before its too late.

Just to let you know, both are equally important. Structure: The strength of your mind's frame work (personality strength). Which also translates as confidence. Content: the type of your personality. Likes and dislikes. Your style, energy, nationality and anything else you can add into it. Basically concepts and meanings. What is crucial about content in socializing more than your own content, is being good at reading the social content for contextualizing the situation. I struggled with Structure (confidence in the past) and thought the extreme of only one being particularly important. Well, I actually did quite well without having that much confidence to be honest. Now that I have more pride, many girls dont like that, but at the same time they do on a sexual level. Having too much pride creates a frame of somewhat more war between you and the other. I would say in my experience that Structure is even more important in person and mid/long term. The reason confidence is necessary is not just because its attractive. Its attractive because it is useful. It makes you capable of doing many things for survival. Anyone trying to get good with people. I would say is better not to focus on the content first. Focus on your structure strength (confidence) by accumulation of experiences, habits and knowledge to build a solid ground in your mind. After finushing the path of building confidence, you dont have to think about it anymore, nor even try. The confidence is automatical and unconscious. After confidence is built, you can place your awareness on content inside social situations. Then after getting that solid Structure, you can focus on creating a strategy, changing your style, being positive, learning how to pickup, neg, shooting interesting openers, playing games, seduction, etc. Leave all that for later, you will waste time doing it all together. Content. Now about content. It is just as crucial as the Structure, specially at the pickup and beginning phase. Because it is what intrigues the girl for getting to know you. In person, Structure has more value. Vía facetime both have the same amount of value. But via text content has somewhat more value at first. So, the only way to get a girl out vía text is if practically if you have a great ig profile. Even thou you might waste alot of time. The way ig works is the following. First, having no expectation of if you will get the girl out. When doing a pickup, you cant even be thinking is pickup what you are doing. You just approach. Follow her, then see if she follows back. If she does, now you can text her in order to appear at the top of her dm. But before texting her, see if you really like her. If thats the case, like at least 4 pics from her in order for her to notice you in her notificacions and check your ig while knowing that you are interested in her. The reason for going for ig instead of dating sites is because you can comply actions without having to talk. Like following and liking her pics. After this, you can send one post you like from her vía dm and comment something you like or unique ("This is a vibe"). If she respond, you then answer vía voice note to create more attraction and comfort. All of this has to be done from a source of simply wanting to do it. You cant feel like she should do anything (expect to go out with her). Through this, you can continue uploading stories for her to like you more and you commenting on hers. The only thing that will create the possiblity of both of you going out is if you did all these without hurry/expectation and from an attractive/we frame. She has to feel in the way you talk that you feel attractive for her to also get attratcted unconsciously. You literally have to imagine/visualize a new frame, practice being into it and then snipe it out onto her. Only after sufficient attraction and comfort, she will proceed to go out. It will be obvious. Other wise you are just gambling into loosing. Social media gives you more control but takes alot longer. In person, everything is at ligthing speed but just as fast you can fail too. All of this is easier said than done and takes patience, non-compulsiveness/relaxation/self completeness/non expectation/inner space. Language can be tricky in dating too, specially when learning from others. There is stuff that only you will have to figure out.

Give it a try and just quit if you dont, lol. You might encounter an old millionaire who gives you extra money cuz he doesnt even know what to do with it anymore. Or an old millionaire lady (I had a friend that bought his first car thanks to a lady vía chat, to whom he gave videoservices as a side Hustle) . Your self esteem will go up, since people will worship you. Basically, it depends on how you see it. If you just do it for fun it can be a positive experience psychologically. Dont quit your job and test it out first. Dont forget being a live sexcam model too Now that you put the topic, I should consider trying this sometime too, lol.

@Javfly33 Approach people in stores always first to warm up and get you in the mood. There you build momentum and confidence to get in a state to approach strangers. You have to be careful with approaching. It can fck up your self esteem if you do it wrong and blindly. Whatever you feel, the other will feel. Is not normal to force yourself into approaching if its not common so it will feel weird at first. Thats why you have to build up slowly that perception in your psyche. Only at first you might need courage. Then approaching strangers should be something so normal you dont even think about it. Also, you get anxious because you are expecting something from the other. Which means you are lackung security (confidence) in some area of your thought process. Remember that if you approach her with confidence you dont even have to talk much. Your personality, aura, physique, style, tonality, body language, eye contact, timing, state, etc. Is being communicated. All of that is doing more work subconaciously than what you say. But to realize this, you might need to see it for yourself first. Specially if you dont have a strong sense of identity as your subconscious structure does the work automatically for you. See, when you approach a girl thinking stuff and calculating it, you are putting your awareness inside your head instead of just the outside to read the social situation and her. Your subconscious is the one that should do the calculations to help you, not you consciously planning. Learn how to work with your subconscious.

It seems these things are becoming more common. Ofcourse I have heard this happened on occassions, but it surprises me as before coming to the forum I saw a vid of a big black guy who grabbed a girl's ass who was walking down the street while using her phone. The girl got mad and started punching the guy and the 7 foot tall black guy (NBA type) started punching her and just kept walking. So, I would not recommend you to punch these guys. You dont know how they might react. Just because you are a girl doesnt mean they wont smack you out. They might have a gun or knife. They can use the excuse that they just went to ask you for something and you started hitting them first, so they defended themselves. What you should do is get really angry at them to get them off you first. Have a knife, pepper spray, taser or even a gun. But just after whatever their act and getting angry, tell them you are calling the cops. "That you have a cop friend". And you should really try to have one for emergencies. If after that he comes at you again, try to run and scream so people around can hear and make him go away. Only prepare to attack if he gets close to you and you are about to get trapped. What makes you mad is the fact that you felt impotent and surprised. Welcome to the world, where abuse is more normal than you think.

Being completely undisturbed inwardly from morning till sleep.

Consider from which culture are the scorts you are picking. I find most euro and american scorts cold and with lack of empathy. If you can, try brazilian, colombian and venezuelan scort models. They are very friendly, open minded and sweet, which I love. I dont have problem attracting girls, yet I love scorts. I dont know why people see it as bad, I see it as something very positive. Maybe thats just me because im very sexual and really dont care being looked at as a fckboy or whatever. Fckng love good whores. You know how good it is to have a couple of scort friends and when you get tired of fckng with one, just switch to the other for some time? I know it sounds a bit rude, but hey im honest with my self and girls. What I want from women most is simply fun and fucking. And I even care for scort girls, is just that you save so much time, energy and drama, while getting exactly what you ask for . You who have to make it fun. I have not met an ordinary girl with the sexuality (experience) of a scort yet. Take out this idea of making sex something sacred. Is just animalistic desire. You give too much meaning to it, lol. You better say, what you want is making holy love not sex... Find one who suits you and become her friend. Dont generalize so quick. Telling you fckng a scort is bad is just as close as telling you money is Evil. You dont know what you are missing out .

@Molaric You will know when you are progressing without doubt. If you still dont know if you are getting better is because you are not getting better, but still has to keep going/repeating. Only force yourself to be in such enviornments like is the gym. Its a social gym. After you are there, you will work out as you wish but definitively will. Built a strong sense of identity by accumulation on knowledge, habits and karma. Thats how core confidence/strong personality is Built. Only from that ground you will feel confident in your own persona to make your personal decisions and not fall onto others frames and bs.

When you put expectations on yourself like becoming better at social skills and women, you pressure yourself and almost always fck up. The trick is that the self improvement has to occur almost unconsciously without intention of wanting to improve. The reason one improve is because of survival. If you truly were to see yourself almost dying, you would take action without much thought. Alot of courage and action will rise naturally. If you place yourself in an enviornment, without looking to get better at social skills, you will improve through time automatically. Either a job or going to the same club like its your home. You just stay there in social enviornments without looking for results and expectations. You will then truly improve alot faster. Then only after you have built some decent confidence and skill, you may intentionally start to aim with some expectation. Still, I dont use expectations. I let the enviornment make me improve.

I have seen how having too much knowledge in my head and not being distanced to it is already causing problems in my life. Including some mental unstablity. Not to even mention the karma problems I have got into cuz of it. Has something similar occured to someone here? Any tips to handle this properly?

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@AdamR95 Finding a satisfying partner will definitively be challenging. Just the search of it... Man, I can sincerely say, you are really not missing much. Maybe if you get laid a couple of more times you will let go of such conditionings. Women are great and not so great at the same time, lol. Its more of social conditionings and beliefs towards them that you have to check for your self or overcome/letgo. I used to be the same, until I realized the reason I wanted women so bad was not even because I wanted them, but because society forced/tricked me into believing I need them to be complete. Drop those expectations and you wont be frustrated. You need more clarity and perception of yourself inside dating and women. Too many beliefs and generalizations will fck you up. Some stuff that has helped me when approaching: Always warm up first. Talk with hot girls in stores. Ask them anything about the stuff she is selling. Communicate more with your body language, tonality, speed, eyes, etc. Subconscious body language (subcommunications) rather than words alone. When you get good feedback from this, you build confidence and momentum to now approach other girls. When approaching a girl, always go for indirect Opener. Ask for a direction, then quickly read her body language to see how she reacts to you. If she likes your approach and is attratcted, you can change topic with one you have prepared and escalate towards instant date. The reason for always going indirect first, is so you can protect your self esteem. If you go blindly talking to girls that are not interested, you will believe you are the problem and fck up. I prefer not using social media and tinder for girls. Its mostly a waste of time and self esteem dropper. (95% of girls in dating sites are loosers. Only maybe a 5% will be there for the same reasons as you. To be specific of what they want. And its hard to find them or even match chemistry). If you dissapear the media from your perception, alot of beliefs will drop too. Your mind is constantly creating beliefs based on what it sees, including the media. And it can really make you feel like shit. Try to live as natural as possible. If you really feel horny or needy. Start creating an independent sexual belief system. Meaning be your own source of sexual pleasure. There is alot of stuff you can do to satisfy your cravings by yourself believe me. Sexual toys will trump normal jerking all the way. From dressing up, using mirrors, fleshlights, virtual reality, Machines, vibrators, self massage, visualization, get a doll, fuck pillows with a condom, etc. Its too much. Be creative and see what you like. But you should not over do this. Tease yourself until your no fap cant hold anymore. I can tell from experience, that my solo sex time is almost as good if not same as fucking with someone. Remember that the fact that she is simply a women, doesnt mean her sex will be good or even satisfy you. Second option, build a friendship with a high quality scort you can trust. She must be pretty hot, so you can drop your illusions with women being on a pedestal. Such repetition will create a belief system that will calm such sexual needy beliefs. Then after those, you will feel so non needy, you can talk to any girl without caring a shit. Literally. Like, today I downloaded tinder just to see whats up in it. I will delete it tonight. A hot girl texted me "Hi, what are you looking for in tinder" and I just said, " To do the 69" . Note, in the past if I did this I would mess it up, but girls have superpowers to smell your frame/intention/confidence. This time she responded postively cuz she felt I truly didnt gave a shit. But thats all because first I have built confidence and second I have a backup belief system/strategy for overcoming sexual neediness and keeping the right perception of them. Now I dont know if what you mean confidence is really the confidence girls are attratcted to. Such confidence is animalistic. Spirituality breaks that type of core confidence which is the building foundation of your personality structure. That is the confidence that is sexy (animal/primal) , that they like. It takes time to build up, you need to stop spirituality for it to build and freeze new knowledge/beliefs/habits. You need strong bondage and self entaglement until you get used to that new Structure. Which manifests as the possiblity of multitasking and high mobility. For me it happened by accident and need. Not by reading books and doing any practice. It means surviving and fighting and getting good at it. Coming back to the topic, girls always seem more attractive only when you cant get them. The mind is always playing with you. Once you get her and fuck her, you will see is not worth much time.

@Arzola Thanks for bringing me clarity. Yes, im emotionally stressed by too much information in my life and confusingly accuse knowledge as the cause. I couldn't make the distinctions right cause im somewhat blind now. Working on regaining my perception and entering the truth soon. Had been learning loads of useful stuff on the relative plain lately.

@Nos7algiK Yes, agree. @Goldzilla@Goldzilla How to tap into akasha?

@Leo Gura Any valuable things to consider that maybe we are over looking? That might improve our experience? Asking since you seem to be a little pickier than most.

I have gone by 5 sessions and still no real permanent noticeable results. Am starting to think this is just a holy scam and waste of time. How long did it took you to see anything substantial? The guy says am leveling up, but i dont really see anything going on. Also, something that took me off guard was when he said(in a dominant manner), enligthenment will either occur by pure random accident or someone gives it to you by blessing.

It can be useful and useless at the same time. It all depends how you approach it and what is your situation. To the very least, being totally relaxed, clear sigthed, present, detached, in peace and positive is very useful in the world. Take it slow. Thats what I do. Dont go fully in and pressure yourself. When I quitted I realized I need spirituality again, then came back to it in a more mature and balanced way, based on previous experiences. You need to contemplate your life situations first. Including the people in it.

I just discovered that the reason I mostly suffer unconsciously is because I dont want to let go of my confidence. Because if I do, alot of things will fall off in my life. Like it kinda happened in the past when I was not confident because I was very inwardly in the spiritual path. Does anyone have any idea how to deal with this existential problem of confidence and being in the world? Its like one or the other. Either I suffer but handle my survival and enviornments. Or I dont suffer but loose ability in the world. Unless I reach complete self-realization in the process.

@BipolarGrowth Yeah, but being courageous alone brings problems. I have learned the hard way to stop being a hot crack head, including enligthenment. Maybe am not supposed to get enligthenment at this stage of my life because of my life situations. It has created many relative problems in the past. Everytime I deconstruct my self, alot of chaos starts around me. And I have the balls, Cuz I have done it before, but didnt understood why so many things where occuring the way they were. It was simply too much to handle at the same time. Enligthenment is a luxury that requires exclusivity. This has thought me to be very strategical, smart and intellectual with everything. Not just courageous. Its not enough for true success. Just look at Jesus... What I mean by upgrading my consciousness, is that people cant relate the same way with me. And that brings some problems to a chain of things that I depend of which they are in charge. Or for example, if I dig very deep, like in the past, I may realize I dont want to finish college or even quit my job. Or not even want to socialize and talk. Stop being productive, etc. This just a few examples. And these things can be managed even after dissolving, but it requires alot of time and space to do this work and Inner change correctly without causing external disturbance to others. This is the problem in Mid path. You are in shaky ground, neither truth nor confidence. Its very risky territory. Neither in the deep ocean or the coast. Trapped in between. It has happened before. Also, I think another factor is that many of you live in advanced countries. For which people can still be open to relating with you by being "different". Its a little bit more normal the idea. Even to have a soft energetic aura, in the eyes of others is fine, specially if you are a man. Over here, if you dont have a strong dense masculine aura, you are already a pussy, subject to bullying, exploitation, etc. Culture has alot to do. I think im just gonna be doing some inner engineering and karma modifications. Energy work, yoga, etc. To at least be in a better position. But i cant destroy all of my confidence right now. Maybe some part of it. I still need some ground. After I get in the right state and heal, I can continue my journey to financial freedom and then finally, finish the spiritual path. Its a more realistic and probable outcome than just throwing the dices with survival at risk. Do you do shadow work? If yes, any tips? This actually true. But what I see is that this perspective is too advanced to be adecuated to people trapped in survival with risk. The reason im in survival is because my situations have demanded it in order to truly survive as a body mind organism. Even I, who have experienced truth.

What are the principles that leo lives by to stay grounded in truth even if one is not to get enligthened? At least some truth can transform ones life's perception by mantaining some constant clarity.

The thing is that I know its not sustainable in the long run, but its really effective in this moment. The confidence im talking about is self-belief/core certainty. My enviornments require lots of confidence to thrive in them. Work, family and even my law degree that will be done this december. In the past I felt very confused even inside true clarity because I did not knew how to ground my mind. It was always changing and going blanc. It was pretty hard to remember and be functional to the level im now... In your case specially, is there a feeling of certainty? Any feeling of confidence? What practices do you do to stay grounded? The problem is not loosing the confidence. Its the risk of doing it now. But i need to balance it out, Im loosing almost all my perception. I feel like a blind diamond right now. Are you in this state of no confidence right now? What is your experience in relation to it right now? I have done that in the past, not needing confidence is not really the problem. I dont need to feel trapped to feel secure. Its really about other side things, like having a grounded mind in relation to my life situations. If I drop my confidence at this moment, lot of things will change that I may not know how to manage. The risk is not so much in loosing the confidence, but exactly at which moment. Because lots of karmas can desenvolve out of this. For example, I can not influence, socialize with high skill or even manipulate if I loose the confidence, which then a chain of things will start to fall in my life. Creating a chaos inside of another chaos. People unconscious minds can read my being in nano seconds to know how they can interact with me. If they feel I have no shield, a weak one, see my vulnerabilities, by instinct they will try to take some advantage out of me. It has happened alot in the past. It is really tiring trying to go your own way while others dont understand you. Their expectations dont match with my behaviours and it can really get annoying or even into trouble. Another thing is, I can set boundaries. Being a temporary mind is really effective in comparison to being in Mid spiritual path. The True confidence you speak of, only truly comes in avance stages of the path where you have stabilized in non duality, no coming back. If not you will be shaky and weak in the eyes of others. Also, girls and people are seduced by my confidence. Its like magnet. I dont even need to try to impress, look too good, show money, etc. Its like people can instantly feel my presence and energy and everything changes. I can feel girls wanting to get fck by me just by their stare at me. You know how hard it is to make money without confidence or sell an idea... I mean this are some of the positive sides of it inside the survival paradigm. Ofc you dont need this in higher consciousness, but the thing is that the more I upgrade my consciousness the trickier it gets to handle my cultural enviornments, people, chores, etc. Its very risky. Its like playing with fire and gasoline. I have to be almost like a bomb technician when doing spirituality. If not I might waste my life. It would be nice if Leo could make a vid on how to do proper safe spirituality, not only tell its dangers. Im referring to confidence as to thr strength of my ego Shell. The level of density and compression it creates. Its full of itself. Im conscious there are various things creating my suffering for which I need to set aside more time. I got trapped in this survival paradigm. Like I always have to be going forward in a hurry. My mind always finds a way to make me feel guilty and tricked back into distraction. So Yeah, motive is one its causes. Inside of it, also emotional baggage I have gathered in the world by survival, fights and setting boundaries. But also, the size and strength of my ego kinda creates an un natural feeling. Out of aligment. Where would you recommend to begin with? My mind has taken a life of its own and its hard to control right now, give me a direction where to shoot. I dont have the same amount of time and energy I used to in the past to be all day in spiritual mode, where I used to find all my tricks, insights and techniques.

@Preety_India Stop doing spiritual work. Stop consuming spiritual material. Stop coming here. Then, get lazy and leave everything to last minute. Do this temporary to create a sense of emergency. Consume alot of data and think alot in whatever you want. Non spiritual. Get into a challenging enviornment. Somewhere that may threaten your identity. Then after some of your identity has been threaten, you will get mad and your survival instinct will rise. It will make you fall more into the illusion of survival without you even realizing it. Then you will want to stand up for your self survival, cuz if not you will be exploited. Then, if you rise, you will be prideful and will want to make yourself a priority in life. You will care alot less about people and their opinions. You will be one pointed reach goal minded. This will create layers of energy within that create an armored ego. From this ignorance, confidence is born. People may start to look up to you. Your esteem will then start to rise higher. And this is how ego identity is created in plain words. It takes time. But it will occur faster than the blink of an eye.

Sadhguru is refering to the need of a sense purpose. You can create a purpose without having that need of Drive. Non doership is what he means. Because everything is already complete there is really no need. Its a tricky thing as always...

@Synchronicity But have you experienced real shifts with this stuff? Im not paying anymore RASA. I simply wanted to confirm and its ok. He said he will give some more for free now, but still I think its a waste of time. I dont know how ppl say they got enligthened by this thing through the Internet.

@Bluff Interesting thread. Yet I didnt found the part related to scientific proof of spiritual genetics.@Anahata Yeah. Yet the relative is crucial too in the path. Too many obstacles. Starting with conditioning, culture and enviornments. If you dont study these ones in your personal life situation, you can get into lot of trouble.