Ajax

Oh God I hope not the bride was 87. My dad married my mom in his mid 50's He had my younger sister at 64. He was an amazing father He did pretty much everything a younger man could. You'll need lots of naps though!

I can't evaluate your dating techniques since I am not there to watch them. You mentioned logical conversations... Hmm that flashes a warning light in my mind. Would you provide examples of how these conversations typically go? A helpful tip to keep in mind is that a date should require very little thinking and a great deal observing. You should keep most of your time on her. Pay attention to her non verbal cues. It would be time well spent to study the awesome threads on body language that are on this forum. You should pay attention to signs of interest or let her initiate subtle flirting. Other than that, dating is the time to get to know her. Your job is to keep the conversation light and fun. Being funny is a major plus. There are many other things to cover but, it's time for me to stop!

Could you? Yes. Should you? Well, that depends on your character. Will it help you get where you want? Or will it distract you and delay your goals. No one can answer those questions but you.

Because the law is based on past experiences rather than truth and ethics ( which I define as implementing the best possible solution). Imagine taking on a task and making a new rule for every new problem and decision made. Eventually, you are going to create an ungodly mess of complexity. Just like any chaotic game, the people are structured in a hierarchy so that the semi strong will take orders from those above them because they are comforted by the fact that people are below them so they can feel secure. Anyway, the advantage of the hierarchy is that someone will make a decision and many people are willing to go along with it because they feel secure in their position. These legal decisions are then made by the top accordingly to the time, place and their worldview. So now that some decisions are made and this massive mess of systems is starting to run smoothly so they don't want to really mess something up so they go along with it every if it isn't so relevant anymore. That is one perspective of many, but I am ready to do something else lol.

My Uncle remarried at 90.

That just means that you have never seen truth. Just because you have not seen Truth does not mean others haven't or that it doesn't exist.

1. Truth is important because it is what remains when all the lies are removed. If you even saw a sliver of truth, you would not ask that question, you would simply know. 2. Everything that is not you is a lie. 3. To experience, you create stories, these stories take a life on their own and then you believe these stories to be true. 4. A "person" can only see truth, only when an identity is created, the lie, things go weird. What happens is that you know Truth when you see it, but you imagine that you don't. So, each identity is looking through his own screen that distorts truth, he knows it's true what he sees but is oblivious to the distortion. So no, it isn't what you decide it to be. It is what you see and its appearance is changed by the limitations of the identity. However, it doesn't really change. 5. " What does it mean for something to be true?": You can't explain what it means. It supersedes words. You can only describe some characteristics. For me an experience was just infinite awesomeness. Imagine the most awesome experience that you have ever had in your life. Then double that experience, then double that experience, and keep doubling that experience to infinity. Another is that you just Know. I can't explain in other than that, it is just know. pure clarity. There is no such thing as complexity, just infinite simplicity. I can't go on about it, it just defies human experience.

Your opinion about love is simply a lie. That's all. You have no idea what infinite love is. If you did you would know the answer.

1. In video games you are just copying someone’s design. It seems easier to paint when you are using a “paint by the numbers” canvas. 2. The flow of a skill comes after years of practice. 3. Your “theory” that successful people don’t experience growing pains is pure trash. 4. Sorry. You reap what you sow. That’s just the way it works. No cheat codes for you.

Circuit training routines are perfect for me a few times a week. I generally mix cardio with mobility calisthenics, that way I am exercising my heart and training my muscles to function more holistically.

Marriage. Been There, Done That, Over it... for over 10 years. Great for the experience. Would be willing to do again if circumstances present themselves. I find that lasting happiness is cultivating meaningful relationships with people. That is where I spend most of my time and energy. I would rather have a good friend than a lover who is not a good friend, if that makes sense.

And you think power over others is going to help? I'm sorry, but no. It will be good for you to find someone to talk to. There isn't much anyone can do on a forum. This is something you can't handle alone and I urge you to find a professional that can guide you through whatever difficulties you are facing. Be well, friend.

Indeed, I try to follow the 3c's of writing, whenever possible.Clear, Concise and Compelling. ( The 4th is correct, which means accurate form and information, but I avoid that one when I can,lol) For me, writing, is a form of discussion with myself to process what I have just read. This allows me to understand the material in my own way and come up with new ideas I can make my own. That way it sticks with me better. Accordingly, if I must take notes, I design it to be used in my personal writing discussion. I often write the notes in the form of a question with this purpose in mind.

Know wisdom.

Well, I think you have much more to worry about than narcissism, my friend.

Could you summarize what you just said in 1 or 2 sentences, please?

Your not ready, God never gives you what you can't handle

Yeesh, tough day at the office, bro? Wanna talk about it? What is really on your mind?

Cut out the news and social media, then you won’t see it anymore. I am sure the 200+ year old Brazilians who got their county back from mean old Portugal are no longer holding a grudge. They are just mad they can’t make churrasco like you guys. Get over it bro, build your life and relax.

Self Actualization is living up to your potential. What do YOU need to live up to your potential? Nobody can answer that question but you. That is a good place to start. Preferably something creative. I didn't see you mention social activities. That is an important part for most people whether they want to admit it or not. Personally, I write, but to me that is not using my brain, but expressing myself. I enjoy coming up with ideas and exploring them. But we are not the same. I do martial arts. Self-expression is recreational to me.

Neither, both are paths, not the destination. What is important is the Ultimate Realization, which is "Knowing". Self-actualization is the path of living up to your potential. Spirituality is the path of realizing everything you think you know is pure BS. There is no path. Don't think of them as something to separate. Like you don't want to separate your heart and brain from your body. Develop each to the best of your ability. That being said, if you don't have the tools to handle the hell on earth, you will fail in both. So, focus on LP and financial security at least, so you don't get crushed by your environment. So, for you, I say Self-Actualization.

1. Other people’s negative emotions are simply unprocessed emotions. 2. Your ability to receive their unprocessed emotions and make them your own, shows that you lack the ability to fully process your own emotions. Thus, your mastery of emotions is lacking. 3. You are doing well on the path of mastering the subject of emotions, keep at it. Know that you still have plenty of work to do. Imagine this scenario, Joe loses the bowling tournament. He starts crying that he got 3rd place. Are you going to start crying with him, lamenting how life is not fair? If so, why? If not, why not? People Jail themselves by their thoughts. Imagine an inmate, Tom, that has killed his wife and is sad because he will never see his daughter or family again. He feels devastated by this loss. Is it easier or harder to feel his pain? You can see this scenario from different perspectives, you know Tom has caused immense pain to many people with his actions. You know his thoughts, decisions and actions put him there. You can tell he did it to himself. This is an exaggerated example, but people imprison themselves with their own false perspectives and choices. They are reacting to being in a mentally constructed jail of their own making. Even if you could break them out by sympathy or compassion, they would find a way to put themselves right back where they were. Now, let’s look at the sad stories shown in the media… Look at what it is, it is a production designed to make you feel terrible, guilty. It is engineered to make you feel a certain way and guess what, you fell for the trap. You are their puppet, take a bow for your performance! I used to have the same difficulty. What helped me is having some major realizations. First, knowing or realizing that I momentarily allowed myself to be the effect of the event that I allowed these feelings in. Then, I look for the positives of the situation until I start feeling better. Then, I noticed the areas where the person that pushed me into sadness failed to take responsibility for the lies, misunderstandings, limited beliefs or just plain BS that they are thinking. Or the actions/inactions they are refusing to acknowledge. This helped me realize they are doing it to themselves. Emotions seem to have a negative/positive pattern. The important thing for me was to continually create positive thoughts and the “silver lining”. Even if it is completely BS. The idea here is to nullify the negative effects. You see a video of a mangled dog on the street, look for the beauty, think wow, this could really reach someone. This could inspire people to adopt dogs, wow this could reach the right person… Wow, this could enlighten people to stop being so carefree to the plight of animals… Imagine the possibilities until the sadness starts to change. Then you realize that you have more control over the emotion. Just beware: Don't start laughing in the middle of a conversation with a friend who is brokenhearted about a fight he had with his GF, because you are imagining that he is so lucky she didn't kick him out of the house buck naked and he is forced to scramble around, trying to find clothes and shelter. It doesn't end well... Not saying this happened.

@Shroomdoctor Would you say that you fear becoming delusional and out of touch with reality? If so I would say that you already are. So how do you separate fact from fiction? Simple, if it doesn't seem true to you don't accept it. That's it in a nutshell. If you are putting together a large puzzle you want to put the pieces that fit and put aside the ones that don't until you can get to it. It is also helpful to realize that just about everything has some degree of truth/falseness to it. It would be helpful for you gain the ability to easily change modes of thinking.... You have probably heard the phrase, "put on your thinking cap." Well, to understand some of the more esoteric ideas you may have to remove your analytical/logic cap... perhaps replace it with a metaphorical/symbolic/figurative hat. For example, I am sure that the flow state, the zone and the subconcious and generally accepted concepts in the science community. They represent real phenomena. These abilities have been recognized by humanity since they became sentient. So who is to say that connecting with higher self,aliens, disembodied spirits,angels,God's, or whatever.....are not manifestations of the subconscious? By the way the subconscious is a very limited umbrella term to describe a very broad range of unknown and mysterious phenomena. Therefore your ability to make sense of different ideas is...1) dependant of your mental flexibility. 2) your courage level to meet face to face with ideas that that are totally contrary to the world as you see it. 3) your ability to have a total and thorough perspective of the subject as it is without prejudgement or bias. So to elucidate on the major points. 1. Always think for yourself and accept what makes sense to you. If you try to force something that doesn't make sense than you will remain ignorant of essential factors that relate to your worldview. 2. Know that an open mind is the seed to understanding. However open acceptance is not as it can lead to ignoranice which can be harmful. 3. Be willing to entirely destroy all your cherished thoughts feeling and opinion. A great deal of consciousness work is unlearning what you already know. 4. Anything that you can comfortably and fully face you can handle. Therefore it would be to your supreme advantage to develop and master this ability. 5. Communicate with the subject effectively. If you are having a conversation with someone and actually want to understand their point of view... You engage in active listening without intersecting your personal thoughts and idea but seek to ask clarifying question to get a more thorough understanding of the subject matter. I used this method to find some delightful practical applications in some previously unpalatable subects I was wrestling with including... self love, non resistance,acceptance,no judgement, openminedsess and channeling. I hope this helps

NO, NO and No Let me share an excerpt from the art of war,my fav book on strategy. "Warfare is a great matter to the nation, it is the ground of death and life, it is the way of survival and of Destruction and must be examined. Therefore go through it by means of five factors compare them by means of calculation and determine their statuses. 1, way, 2, heaven, 3 ground, 4, General, 5, law. The way is what causes the people to have the same thinking as their superiors, they may be given death or they may be given life, but there is no fear of danger and betrayal." Here is another excerpt(the commentary on that passage). " the first of Sun Tzu's five factors is the way or the Tao, which represents unity in a moral purpose. From top to bottom, people of all ranks strive for the same goal as if they are one person. The reasons they unite lies in the morality of the goal: the greater than moral cause, the tighter the union. If your way strong, you will naturally Garner strong support from others. With the support, you strengthen your position relative to your adversaries. The fear of betrayal mentioned here is not the people betraying the leaders but the rather the leaders between the People by not acting in the people's best interest." Pay special attention to the last paragraph I wrote. If you will recall, when bran showed the knife that littlefinger gave to him... sansa immediately reacted with suspicion stating that little finger is not a generous man and wants something in return. You see the fear of betrayal was already imbedded in her mind and she started to lack trust that he was acting in the Starks best interest. Now compared that to Donald Trump who many people don't trust... yet when he starts to get heat he will rally support by uniting them to a moral cause such as when he started a Twitter war with the NFL over not standing during the national anthem. Then that pacified the fear that he is not working in the U.S. best interests. Even Hitler had a moral purpose that he was selling that the Nazi party bought. Baylish may have had mastery over heaven and ground and some leadership qualities, but needed much improvement in cultivating the way which is a crucial element.

Yes, just get really good at something. When I was a teen I was the same way so I decided to devote much of my energy to martial arts... The more I put into it the more confidence energy and motivation grew. Find something you like to do and really throw your weight behind it. All the confidence you will ever have depends on your ability to believe in yourself and where I mentioned is a good place to start.