Hugo Oliveira

About 8 years ago, I ran some paid Facebook ads to sell my mom’s handmade crafts, and I actually got a decent return. But I know the whole paid ads ecosystem has changed a lot since then, and I haven’t tried anything recently. Lately, I’ve been observing how some people are selling products or courses without even needing a big audience. They simply run ads that lead to a beautiful landing page—and that’s it. They're making sales. Others have relatively small followings (like 5k–10k followers) and are already promoting their own products or courses. I’ve also noticed some artists (like video editors) selling very simple products—like a specific technique they use, or a color grading preset pack—for $20 or less, and I imagine they sell a lot due to volume. I find the whole world of online sales fascinating, especially because it seems to offer good potential with relatively low investment. I don’t believe in “get rich quick” schemes, but I do believe there’s a real possibility of building passive income through this kind of work. Another thing I find interesting is the use of AI tools to create products—like eBooks, courses, images, and more. Of course, I believe everything still requires intention and thought. There’s no magic button that creates valuable content on its own. So, I’m curious: – What’s your general opinion on all of this? – Do you currently sell (or have you sold) anything online? – Are you familiar with marketing structures like paid ads, landing page design, etc.?

I wanted to share something I’ve been struggling with for a while. I’m honestly tired — tired of dating, tired of trying to connect, tired of glimpses os connection that don't go anywhere. There’s a strange dynamic I just can’t seem to make sense of. I consider myself attractive, emotionally available, and a good partner. Most of my dates go well — we create real chemistry, deep connection, and share pleasant, even exciting, experiences. Often, the women express interest in meeting again. Sexually, I feel confident and satisfied with what I bring to the table too. But there’s another side of the story that’s been draining me. There are periods where rejection hits me over and over again, and I don’t even get the chance to understand why. I’ve tried to look at this from every possible angle — honestly, deeply — and still, I don’t get it. Many of these rejections come suddenly: ghosting, cutting off communication, or just disappearing without explanation. I swear I’ve tried to find the logic behind this — and it’s not some cliché stuff like “texting too much” or “being too nice.” It feels like something else entirely, something I can’t grasp. And it’s exhausting. To make it even more confusing, some of these women eventually come back — texting me again, making eye contact at the gym, even stopping to say hi. But by then, I’m left feeling emotionally worn down and confused. Why does this keep happening? Why does it feel like connection and rejection are cycling through in such unpredictable ways? If anyone relates or has thoughts on this kind of experience, I’d really appreciate hearing from you.

This resonates a lot with what I’ve been going through. I know you're not looking for some step-by-step formula like “make money this way or that way…” What you're really looking for is a state of ecstasy or fulfillment that maybe isn’t exactly “of this world.” And you — poor soul — might not even know where to find it, and everything starts to feel confusing. I’m not here to give you an answer, but just to say: I’m with you in this. I think it’s a journey that has a lot to do with self-knowledge, strategy, courage, strength, and maybe even a little dose of ignorance. What I recommend is that you reflect deeply on your needs and your inner conflicts, and don’t let either one control you. Negotiate with them. Keep moving forward. Sometimes it’s not easy.

INFP-T

Like I said, this isn't a rule or a constant, and my best guess is that it has to do with something subtle or 'energetic.' Yes, sometimes I do feel a strong sense of longing, but I don’t show that in my interactions. That book is still on my list. Soon, with a bit more stability and resources, I’d love to visit Canoas haha 😊

I’m feeling better today. I’ve been talking to other women and things are going well. But the issue I brought up has been a lifelong torment — it’s not something I can just mask with success, making more approaches or things like that. I need to find a way to truly address it. Elevated states of consciousness have already worked as a powerful remedy in the past. But now I need something that can be integrated into my daily life.

hahaha a few things to share... Obrigado pela dica, irmão! I've made a few moves recently that went smoothly, BUT… fun fact: after a really interesting flirty chat in person and exchanging numbers, guess what? Same old story I mentioned earlier. Ghosting and indifference. I did it!! Some crazy results: She actually thanked me for my honesty when I asked, and she answered in detail about several logistical things that were limiting her availability. But what happened next was bizarre. I replied to her voice messages in a way that was totally weak and people-pleasing. When I listened to my own audio, I didn’t recognize myself. It felt like it wasn’t even me — just totally cringe… And then she simply never replied again. I ended up feeling really guilty about the way I responded. Maybe this has something to do with a kind of self-sabotage, as @Emerald mentioned. I really believe in that. I think over the past few days, my energy dropped because of alcohol and porn use. Maybe I became more vulnerable to external energies, and my own vibe got kind of messy. If I were to bet on the causes of the issue, I’d say it has to do with that, combined with something related to my childhood/shadow, as mentioned earlier.

Absolutely. My childhood was chaotic. I agree that this is an inside-out process. It’s just that, despite extensive research into shadow work and similar approaches, I haven’t found anything that truly helps. Thanks for your response @Emerald

It’s not ideal to receive a lot of technical advice when the situation requires a deeper approach. @Majed, I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I hope your life improves soon. Here’s what I would recommend: Unconditional compassion – Recognize that life embraces everything. The “wrongness” of the situation is not absolute. Dehypnotize yourself – This is crucial. The internet, YouTube videos, Instagram, drinking, porn, and online forums can brainwash you. They can make you feel insane, needy, and desperate without you even realizing it. And be especially cautious with coaches—they can end up re-traumatizing you. Take a break – Find ways to be happy with yourself and with life beyond women, at least for a while. Get into a hobby, a nice sport, something artistic, or whatever interests you. If nothing excites you, push yourself to find something. Self-care – Prioritize your physical and psychological health. Come back stronger – Return to this forum and teach us how to make a woman go crazy for you. Learn about it slowly, lovingly, and intelligently—rather than rushing out and asking a hundred girls out. Don’t assume you know everything. Learn through your own experiences and develop your own approach. P.S. You’re still young as hell. Don’t fool yourself, and don’t let yourself be fooled.

From "Realms of the Human Unconscious" - Stanislav Grof I'm sorry for the image quality. I hope it is possible to read.

First, don't get trapped in the SD model as if your life needs to fit accordingly to its narrative. Ask yourself what is your true relationship with morals. Are you just judging yourself for being a "bad person" or do you notice other negative symptoms/consequences in your life that come from a lack of integrity/ethics? (write that) Question yourself deeply about the real reasons you have to change. it can not be just about a different bright color in spiral dynamics. (write that too) Identify what you want for yourself and the world by breaking these patterns. Which new patterns do you want to develop and why? Then, consciously, step by step, make the transition. Notice what you'll get, what you'll lose, and what you'll sacrifice. The most important point here is to work with great clarity or intuition to know your reasons and how and why you are changing.

I mean, Hojo's comment

Sounds very accurate AIUSHAUIHS

Fasting is powerful! But how can you guys go for a week? On my second day, I don't feel hungry anymore. But I have zero energy, can't do anything, can't sleep, time doesn't pass. Is it supposed to be that bad? @Princess Arabia @shubhamsharma @Spiritual Warfare @ICURBlessings

Take care with drugs that can turn you off giving the illusion of sleep. Real sleep requires full cycles with different stages. Clonazepam helped me for a while but it is very easy to get addicted. Now I'm using Valeriana. Sometimes tea made from bay leaves and chamomile. You may be skeptical but tapping (EFT) was helpful on some occasions.

It is natural and OK. Just remember to be wise and strategic as much as possible. Be careful about the content you are consuming. Pick up videos and porn can fuck your sense of reality and brainwash you into just wanting sex. People underestimate how some content can be toxic. Balance is key.

Hey, I'm a SOMA Breath facilitator. Feel free to ask questions. You can search for SOMA Breath, Rebirthing, Xamanic Breathing, and Holotropic Breathwork. Each method has its own goals and protocols.

I really want to change my life's circumstances. Most of us here know how much effort and energy it demands. When I hear spiritual teachings like "nothing can make you happy" or "everything you got will make you miserable", or "just detach from the outcomes", it destroys my motivation and almost makes me suicidal. I know that there is some truth in these teachings, I know that mundane satisfaction is suspicious. But I'm struggling so much with the idea of accepting everything and living a "spiritual life". It is like both spiritual and material satisfaction feels out of reach for me right now. Plus, I have a lot of bills.

Keep looking into it. I can relate. If I'm not wrong Ruppert Spira says that it is a "stage" and eventually you recognize that experience and "experiencer" are just one. I'm not sure what is required for that. Maybe a higher awareness. Here is a report from an experience that I had: I was having some unpleasant feelings of disconnection and loneliness, so I decided to sit down and become totally aware of the feelings, allowing them to be and letting go of suppressions and aversions. The "problem" was that those feelings were not so clear and constant and I was having a lot of random thoughts that distracted me from that original focus. Because of that, I decided to simply be aware of whatever I was having in my experience. Whatever feelings and thoughts. Them, gradually, I felt so grounded in my own presence, in my own awareness that everything became observed. Simply observed without the need or the "notion" of a separate observer. From this point, I had the discernment of being experiencing myself as my own experience and my experience as myself. So simply! In all my previous meditations doing self-inquiry, I had this idea of forcing awareness "backward" into its source. But now I had the experience of witnessing everything as awareness itself. It was shocking at the moment but then, peacefully, I came back to my "normal" state."

It seems like a very limited way of thinking. As someone who worked closely with chemical and biological defense teams in the Army, I can tell you that society, the military, and international agreements have good reasons to deny this kind of idea. On the other hand, there are stories of accidental massive psychedelic contamination in past societies. And I'm curious about the impact that such an event could bring.

I'm not sure about abandonment but I have the intuition about some traumatic energy involved in this process. Thanks for bringing that up.

Thank you. I think this mindset is what is putting my life in motion after a long time of depression. I want a better lifestyle and a business that is not so draining. The point is that sometimes this longing makes me feel in a hamster wheel without getting significantly anywhere. This is what is scaring me now.

Thank you. It makes sense. But in the back of my mind sometimes it feels as if I don't know what I really want. Or even as if I am deluding myself into wanting something that I don't really want.

I think all these things could be good! Thank you.

I'm living in Rio! I'm not involved in pickup at the moment, but we can talk about it.