Nahm

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  1. @Colin What humor!? This is total bullshit. I was going to listen to the new video while I clean my kitchen, so, ya, totally fucked now.
  2. @Feel Good That’s so great to hear. ?? Just curious, from the ‘new vantage point’ you’ve arrived at recently... has the notion of -self honesty- changed? Like, do you see it any differently than before?
  3. @Revolutionary Think Hellz. Yes. Great to hear!
  4. @Feel Good “Happy” for “you” man. “That’s” “great”. ? It is all rather funny, no? Is the word “wisdom” really funny to you right now, or is that going to far?
  5. Yeah. He’s right. Love’s bullshit. ?
  6. @moon777light This might be hit or miss but just on the chance it’s helpful.... Have you considered that your troubles stem from a sort of uber-stubbornness in not accepting that you’re already perfect? Maybe another way to say this is, everything you see is finite and not perfect. But you know, just in the simplest sense, you can make choices. For example, just look at these letters, and pick one. Doesn’t matter which one...but just choose one... G. E. J. P. R. I. C. If you were finite, or imperfect or partial, like a gear in a machine, you would not be able to have made a choice and picked a letter. But you did pick a letter, and that is only possible, because what you actually are, is infinite. Infinite as in, a state of potentiality, not something fixed or stationary - infinite, and therefore able to choose between things. Infinite as in, already perfect. Hope that’s at least a tiny bit helpful. I really feel for you. Also, btw, you took the most important biggest step already imo, and that is self honesty. You said “I have this and I’m tired of it”. Most people fear doing that. You’re brave.
  7. @Florian Yes, but in terms of creation and love, not reproduction. 2 of 3 of those are real.
  8. Yes. This is how you think about yourself, cause that’s all there is, It’s an incredibly limited and false view void of understanding or even the beginnings of self inquiry.
  9. @MarkusSweden If you make distinctions in those, you perpetuate your own illusion. They are maya.
  10. Another way to go about this is to become familiar with the exact opposite paradigm.
  11. @electroBeam They had less ego. Give that some thought.
  12. @Revolutionary Think What is it you could use some inspiration for?
  13. @PhilGR He’s lost. Fooled him self entirely. You were better off trusting your Self. Stop expecting him to understand you and your seeking, it’s a shitty trap. Just free yourself by loving him.
  14. Not groundless, just all relative to the inescapable actuality of love. Stop confusing yourself. All there is, is You, and you are love. When you create a “reality” of finite things, then enter it, from within, what you really are, seems as if it’s nothing. Fucking hilarious. Contemplate how you’ve completely bullshitted yourself into believing you had some idea of what nothing is - though you have never experienced it directly. You just use the word nothing like it’s nothing. Step off the mind fuck ride for a minute, and see the common sense and hilarity at play. You’re really somethin man. Priceless. The last place we look, is of course, nowhere.
  15. You don’t. But it can be awesome. You’re limited by how you’re looking at things, due to your frame of reference. Get some better things into your frame of reference. Or live in a cave. It doesn’t matter.
  16. @Epiphany_Inspired You sound clearly overwhelmed (overthinking). The only thing that helps is to sit and breathe and relax. Do your best to eat clean and get enough sleep at night. In times like these, we can often have huge spiritual break throughs, but you have to be consistent with practices, and you have to CHOOSE to relax. No one’s ever going to swing by and relax you for you. It’s days exactly like this that can often give us the message just the way we need it, and the message is slow down, relax - you’re in an ocean of joy, no more overthinking, missing it. Get up 15 minutes earlier (or more) everyday, and just sit and let everything empty out. Crying is ideal; tension out, love in. Ya need some kind of release, maybe a few. Be mindful to keep moving from the head to the heart. If thinking comes up (court, uncertainty, etc), put your focus on the much big picture, the real reason, the source of all your strength - the love for your child - and know with every cell in your body that you are loved exactly like that. We indeed are all God’s children. Emotionally.... Is this is running through your mind all day everyday, without respit ? Do you meditate daily? I know it’s like a broken record, but it does help tremendously. We all have shit going on, or at least I know I do. Meditation just simply works. The important difference lies between having a ton going on, even things with emotional triggers .... and not being triggered by means of doing the practices. They work. Also, don’t forget for a second, who you’ve become for all you’ve been through. That’s very important - not losing yourself in that way. You’ve always ‘got it done’, what needed to be done. You’re resilient. You’ve been through these things before, hang in there, you’ll see, like before, the situation is not the catalyst of the stress, the over thinking is. The situation is going to work out fine, you’re going to be fine. Pragmatically...Sounds like there is a no contact order, but there is contact anyways....? Confused. Sounds like you’re “not preventing contact” but yet attempting to move away from the ex, preventing contact? Either I am misunderstanding, or there is cognitive dissonance, or two opposing views you’re holding about the situation. One way to frame up stress, is zooming in & zooming out. I’d say you are hyper zoomed in, as in, you’ve been mentally over focused on this for too many days in a row. Like looking at a situation through a microscope for days on end, without taking your eye off it to look around and see the much bigger picture. So, do some zooming out, do some ‘just for you’ things. If you can, get away for even one or two days - it’ll change everything as far as your outlook. If that’s not possible right now, be on purpose with taking some ‘me time’ through out the day. Do things simply to have some fun, to loosen up. Music is great for this, exercise, go to the park, watch a funny movie - don’t neglect the fun. Also, maybe it’s going to work out just fine no matter what happens. Have you thought of it that way? There’s probably a best case scenario in your head, and a worst case scenario. But however the details unfold, your child has your love, and you have your love, that much is certain, and that’s enough. Focus there. Let it be enough.
  17. @Nadosa Well, the ego hates silence & practices, but that’s exactly how and why they work so well.
  18. @RendHeaven omg I can’t stand it, it’s like not being able to take my eyes off a train wreck coming. Don’t you wish you were in the yard nextdoor so you could yell over the fence “it’s You”!!!
  19. @dvdas Try 24/7 mindfully breathing from your stomach, the thoughts will subside. Also, maintain vigilance on meaninglessness. Notice when thought arises, it brings meaning with it, don’t fall for it, just return your focus to breathing from your stomach. Keep all the muscles around your stomach, and all the way around your lower back, relaxed. Notice them relax deeper and deeper.