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@Alex14 Just ask questions, ideally about something they might be interested in answering. Everyone seems to like to talk about themself, so ask about them. Try not to be thinking when you could be listening.

They didn’t meet your expectations. Let go of those, accept them, and you, exactly how you are. This is the cornerstone of separatism, the belief that happiness will ever come from another person, or an object. The sooner you realize it won’t, the better.

@Arcangelo Really enjoying this thread, and your sentiments and experiences in the dating world. More power to ya man. Look at the potential dates you approach like fishing, drop the line out there, and then shut up and wait. Don’t double up, it’s desperate. Girl at local supermarket says “I got a concert Friday night” - don’t double up, be glad it wasn’t a “no”. Just say “cool, have a good time” and mosey out. Confidence, not neediness. Next time you see her, casually ask how the concert was, etc. You can take them or leave them, cause you’re having fun, and really just seeing if they want to have fun together. Not sure how kosher this is but, maybe try rubbin one out before you go cold approaching, so your brain isn’t in ‘get laid right now / must secure date right now’ mode, you know what I mean? Keep cool. They’d be lucky to spend some time with you.

@Hellspeed “Love you Hellspeed!” -THE MIND

@28 cm unbuffed Getting in touch with your emotions is really the point. Do that, and by default, you discover the ‘masculine & feminine’. Especially the ones that don’t feel good. It’s very important to ‘listen to those messages’, they’re always saying the exact same thing... You: thinks negatively about someone, yourself, or a situation. The message of the ‘not good feeling’: “You’re separating! That is You too!” The message does not change. The thinking, and therefore perspective must change to align with the feelings. Do that, and you have no need to ‘work on becoming a better person’. Trust the infinite intelligence that you are, that feelings are. “Everything is Love” callback....the heart is never wrong, because it does not think. Follow it endearingly. Do that, and there is no need to ‘become better with woman’. They’re subconsciously attracted to you being in touch with your emotions. You only think you’re ‘not good with woman’, because you’ve been ignoring your emotions, which feels like ‘self doubt’. The emotions & self are one and the same. Do not continue doubting, just listen, be the student to your body and emotion. Do that, and you have ‘figured out’ yourself. Then, you will see you have also ‘figured out’ everyone else. Want to know what a woman truly truly wants - just start listening to your emotions - listen to what you truly truly want. Woman are not as different from you as you think. Also... Stop measuring yourself so to speak. Let go of the need to impress anyone. It actually comes accross as insecurity. Be willing to be vulnerable instead. ♥️

Yes it is. So why persist? Consider letting it all go, it’s just overthinking. There is no need to be received, and no resistence.

I bet. It’s never going to really make sense, because it’s all thinking, because you are already you. You have a ton of knowledge, and I wish you the best with your karma. ??

@Salvijus Have you had Kensho yet?

@improvementedward Yes! Love it!

@Salvijus Well help me out then, what do you know about karma?

@Andreas Where are they when they’re not in school? Pick one you like. Go there.

@Alex14 Don’t “ask her out”. Just ask her, “hey, have you seen ________ yet? (Fill in the blank with a movie you think she’d like to see). If she says no, just casually mention you wondered if it was any good, cause you’re thinkin about seeing it. Then casually say... “Would you wanna go see it?” And you’ve just asked her out, without having to “Ask Her Out”. If she says yes (she has already seen it), then ask her - “how was it?” “Did it have a good ending?” “Would you recommend it?” “What movie do you think you’ll go see next?” When she mentions one, say “Oh ya! I was thinkin about seeing that one too! I might go see it this weekend” Then just wait a minute or two.... Then say “Do you think you’d like to go see it?” She already stated she wanted to go see it, so if she says yes to it - she likes you at least enough to go see it with you. If she says “no, I got this and that to do”, and doesn’t say something like “what about next weekend, or Thursday?” Then at least you took a shot, and the ball is now in her court. When it’s tactful and genuine, girls are flattered by this. So you’re good either way. You’re ok with either outcome. Ask 3, maybe 5 girls, and 1 or 2 will be interested. Maybe all 5. Idk. Some will, some won’t, so what. It’s important to assure yourself that you are totally fine with either outcome. This comes off as confident, but not over confident. Her subconscious is responding far more to your apparent confidence than your words.

@Highest Loving your perfection via imperfections and your imperfections shared with us via your perfection! Loving your unique expression of the most ordinary all that is! Absolutely loving being so privileged as to witness your expansion, your humility, and your never ending incomprehensible majestic mystery! Thank you! ♥️

@cetus56 ....”who is peeling the onions?”.....?

@Salvijus Don’t be satisfied today, don’t acquiesce today. My spidey senses suggest today is your Day. “Mukti” has become the finger, you must look at the moon.

That has to be True because I don’t know anything.

@Salvijus You underestimate ‘liberation’ a little there imo. You are so free in fact, that you can believe you are in bondage. When there’s liberation, then there was no bondage, and no liberation. ? In the same sense that there is no limit, and there is not no limit, to what human consciousness can do, because there is no such thing as human consciousness. It’s like how one must surrender all beliefs, to then see how powerful their beliefs are.

Love is formless, unthinkable & imperceivable, because it is all forms, all thoughts and all perceptions. You’re still that kid. Many layers of “man” have been “added”. @Shin .....is perfectly on point for you, imo. Awareness only thinks it became a child, and a child only thinks it became a man. When masculine accepts it’s inherent femininity, experience (self) is more, not less. In discovering you are masculine and feminine, you uncondition your Self of either & both. While you are one, “love” persists as a thought, a thing, for the “other”. Unconditional Love knows Truth, because Truth is unconditional Love. If you had to choose - would it be Truth, or Love? See that they can not be separated. Unconditional Love has no inclination, no desire for, no need or concern - for Truth. Truth has no inclination, no need, no desire for - Unconditional Love. No one truly loves to lie; anyone truly lies, for love.

There’s no pain in being alone. The suffering is in the wanting to not be alone. This is as deep as it gets. Find out what alone really is. Omg. Write that down on a post it and stick it to your closet wall. One day you’ll be so glad you did. It will seem hysterical every time you read it.

@Sharp Yes. Nice! ....don’t stop there though. Go all the way!

If how you feel is still someone else’s fault, well, you’ll be riding the waves made by others for the duration. That’s a rough ride man. If you take ownership, if you can be honest with yourself, that you created the beliefs, the fear - and you inspect just how you did that - then you are liberated from continuing to do it. Consider the difference between, Truth, and beliefs. One of them is true.

Have you ever actually experienced “going insane” or “losing complete control”? Can you honestly say you know what sane is, and you are that? Can you honestly say you know what control is, and you have it? No. So while thought is telling you that you’re afraid of those things - you’d have to admit, that those are not what you’re afraid of, because you don’t know them, at all. They’re just thoughts. You know them, as thoughts. Nothing more. You have a memory of not liking how you felt a year ago when you smoked too much weed. Notice you are superimposing what you don’t know - “enlightenment”, onto a memory. That is not enlightenment, it is a memory, a thought, you are aware of, now. You don’t know that experience, now - you know a thought, now. You’ve been aware of all kinds of different thoughts. But the awareness has never changed, has it? Thoughts, feelings, sensations change, perspectives change, states change - but - the only possible way that you even know all of that changing stuff, - is because you - awareness - are perfectly consistently constant and unchanging. Only something which never changes, could be in a position to know changing things. You’re asking about fear, ego, spirituality, going deeper, me, and Truth. Notice, those can all be placed into a category entitled - “Things I don’t Actually Know Anything About”. This is because they are thoughts, which you are hanging onto, by believing they are more than, thoughts. But, of course, it can’t be as simple as being forthright and honest, now, that the truth is you simply don’t know the first thing about those things - other than that you know them, as thoughts, now. So instead, you believe another thought in an attempt to reconcile those other thoughts. You introduce the thinking that you should know - so there could be, or might be, something wrong with you... then you hold a perspective against yourself...an experience often described as low self esteem. But notice - nothing actually happened. It was only thought. You were the awareness of this, the entire time. Nothing more. Nothing more is needed.