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Nonthousandsality...? ? ..... ? ?

@Tom T No, not a great idea. Read up https://www.askmen.com/sex/sex_tips/how-to-finger-a-girl.html Nice.

That is no small thing to be able to say. There was a time when you weren’t able to say that. You did that. You made that change, made it happen. You can make other things happen, you can make anything happen. Sometimes it’s good to have some help too. Sometimes just having someone around, someone who listens, someone genuine, can change everything. Different ‘stuff’ arises with such a person, in such a communion if you will. That’s a great fortune in imo. Also imo, you’re in luck, cause that’s all you need. I’m no fan of dogma, but wisdom is irresistible .... “Again, I tell you truly that if two of you on the earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you in heaven. For wherever two or three gather together in My name, there am I with them.” Some times we just can’t see what is closest, and we can get ‘stuck’ for a long time. We’re not meant to bear such burdens for so long. Consider, to bear, is to hold weight, such as how the functionality of ball bearings, is essentially, weight-bearing. So consider no longer bearing it, but rather, beginning to bare it. Shedding it, via vulnerability, talking about it, sharing and discovering a new perspective, and a new feeling. You, your friend, and a dry erase board with “what do I really want?” on it - and the magic is indeed there. Don’t bear it man, bare it. You’re just too good to be down like this.

@non_nothing I love you.

You know, if you weren’t distracting yourself, you’d be focused on what you want. But when you begin to want, you feel uncomfortable sensations, fear, self doubt. So, you go to the distraction. But, if you inspected the sensations, wrote about them, begin to understand sensations - clarity arises, great feelings, relief, release. Don’t procrastinate. Inspect. Trying to ‘not do something’ is exactly the same as doing it. Try ‘not thinking’ of a blue pick up truck next to a red barn. See? Tat’s precisely what you are now thinking of. You must, you must, you must - choose to think about what you want. You must allow the release of sensations, so that your entire body and mind may fill with sensation, inspiration, and so life becomes effortless, inspired. You are not what you think of yourself - EVER. Get a dry erase board and a couple boxes of tissue. Let’s get living. Let’s get experiencing, and understanding, forgiveness, acceptance. Self. When you let all this attachment to the past go - and you catch even a teeny tiny micro glimpse of you who you really are - you’ll probably shit. Are you hearing what I’m saying man? You’re wonderful. Let go!

Looking for ‘ways out’ is adding yet more thinking to the existing catalyst of the suffering, which is overthinking. More thinking won’t help. Letting go is what is needed. When we let everything troubling us go, all those thoughts, we eventually realize - you ARE the happiness itself. That is why it can not be found. Happiness is being, is the essential nature. You’ve been Happiness, for those ‘years and years’, believing thoughts, experiencing unhappiness. Everything can not look like delusion & illusion, and that is a very important thing to understand, a critical point, a turning point: Illusion - you’re being tricked. Such as a magician cutting a woman in half in a box. Delusion - you are holding on to falsity, projecting, unwilling to let it go, not understanding how you are holding on to it. This is so important because while one says “everything looks like delusion”, one is missing the very trigger of releases itself - which is that you are holding the delusion - it’s in your perspective, your perception. It would be hopeless is the delusion was in “everything” - but it is not, you can realize you are holding it - so there is indeed ALWAYS HOPE. This is not to be solved. This is to be let go. BECAUSE YOU ARE ENOUGH! YOU...YOU ARE ENOUGH! YOU DON’T NEED ANYTHING. Sans maybe - to begin letting go, of all beliefs against yourself, all resentments, all projections. Uncover YOU. YOU ARE GOOD my friend, and you will see. WE ARE GOOD.

Very nice.

“You have the sight now Neo, you are looking at the world without time.” —The Oracle

Yeah. That and the pesky fact all experience is “happening here”. In all universes, galaxies, etc, etc, so far reported experience on earth 100%, the rest of the entire infinite universe other than earth, 0%. Just worth considering the odds of this. Lol. So far objectively speaking, 0% odds. Or 100%, depends.

@Dodo Delusion, not illusion.

@Inliytened1 Is a fish a high enough level of consciousness to be considered in enlightened?

@mandyjw .....return to the Statue of Liberty....rather than meet there. @zeroISinfinity No, it can’t. Love ya! ♥️

@Pouya Life doesn’t have context. I can not put pressure on myself. Hone into the sensation accompanying such a thought, and you know from the feeling it is not true. (You are not-two). Aside from that / those, you are creating as you go. Any “content” is also your creation, and there is no remaining apparent choice between feeling good, or being productive. Any residual is dissonance between what you really want, and what you are choosing.

@Inliytened1 If nonduality is not a state and intellect is defilement, then relative is a “write off” of the intellect veiling nonduality, and there is no paradox. No?

Why is it scary?

@Mikael89 Not much constructive in that post. It’s bordering on verbal abuse. Just uncalled for.

Meh. Was gettin good.

@How to be wise Then what?

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Why would anyone prefer the experience of “frustration, dissonance, perfectionism, principles, expectations, properness, perfection, competitiveness, and being hurt”...over being happy? Of course, no one would. Frustration involves sensation, dissonance in conceptual. Thought is so sneaky, to imply feeling comes from concepts. Very tricky. Dissonance can’t actually cause frustration. Enormous and continuous effort is required to maintain such an intense & broad scope of judgement. The root of the frustration is the dissonance between sensation (feelings) and beliefs (repeated thoughts). This is why is doesn’t feel good (because sensations are involved). We are not made to carry burdens. Actually, we don’t even carry them, we recreate them over & over, situation after situation, because we don’t realize it’s our own perspective we’re recreating. The counter-conceptual move to make, is to slow down and listen to the sensations, and acknowledge the thoughts you’ve been choosing aren’t aligned with what you want, nor are they true, and that is why it does not feel good. Realizing one has essentially put how one is thought of, above how one actually feels, is to realize one’s own judgements of self and others. The root of judgement, is need. In the deconstructing of conditioning, one’s relative past & therefore identity, there is a learned belief of need. Some deeper than others. For you, pretty deep. This realization allows the letting go, and the purification is always at the ready for one letting go. The clarity and understanding always follow. I’d grab a paper & pen, and some tissue, and write down the opposite of each of these words: frustration, dissonance, perfectionism, principles, expectations, properness, perfection, competitiveness, hurt, being. Then I’d look at them, and recognize that is what I want to be accepting in myself, that is how I want to be feeling.

@Western Buddha That’s great man. Writing a letter is pretty reliable. ? ♥️

Classic backlash, greatest learning potential. Put you first, put how you feel first - then proceed. Every day! Every minute, every second. Mindfulness.......... .....in doing so, you will realize more of what you want, just like that. You’ll also see, you can’t “not fit in”. You exist, this is not a fluke nor accident. You don’t even need to consider if you ‘fit in’. You are, it is self evident that you do. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t Be. This is a Good community indeed. ♥️

The problem with judging ourselves, is that it is based on the false concept of need. This doesn’t feel right, never settles, because it is not true. The manifestation of need, of self judgement, is the illusion projection upon others. An implication in perception that we are being judged. One way to avoid one’s own Goodness, is the attempt to derive it from what is perceived, to constantly make sure everyone else likes me. Then I must be good. An “ I “ can be good. But you my friend, are Good. A Light like you, ya, there’d be some hesitancy to let that bad boy shine. It’s powerful. It could change everything, and that can appear scary. “It” is so sneaky. ( I )