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This is a funny application of teamwork making the dream work. “We got you, you can totally do this!”

@Elham How long have you been sort of ‘fixed’, on this one mental image? And is this image something which can play out with your partner, or something distinct from your partner. Such as your partner is a man, and the mental image is a woman, etc. What is preventing you from having the fantasy, and also exploring the other methods?

@peanutspathtotruth ☺️ “Congrats!”

@Elham I’d consider what is the comfort factor which exists in the fantasy, but is believed not to be available in ‘real life’. Unless it’s an alien or something, without the resistance to it, you’ll experience it. Maybe even if it was an alien. The limitation of your wanting & belief you can have it, is yours, not a partners. Have you communicated what you are wanting to your / a partner?

Founded on the indoctrination of need.

You are not that self in the thought story. You are already liberated of this, imposing the limit in believing the thought story. Don’t judge your self, you’re free. In accordance, what & who you are wanting to explore with, simply shows up.

A simple, plain, gentle, choice of thought. Source has got your back on all the rest.

@Rasheed ?? You as well. ??

@electroBeam Great question. First, a great feeling thought is never an issue. It is the order of creation creating. “Great feeling” is relative to what is on your dream board, what you have identified you want to create. Experience itself is created via Consciousness limitation, as such, fundamentally, experience is the experience of expansion. The experience of the “expansion of your consciousness”, is the act of unlimiting yourself, quite literally. If you can let a thought go, let it go. A better feeling, clearer, more inspired, more aligned with what you are wanting & creating thought is always arising behind it. If there is resistance to letting a thought go, then scrutinize the identity relationship, the condition or limiting belief which ‘holds it’. An arising thought & an accompanying feeling are not a tiny insignificant event in a physical universe. The “physical universe” is unfolding in accordance with the choosing of thought, in alignment with the absolute source, in expansion of Self, which limited itself, to create experience. We are an echo in a continuum of creation, experientially. A contemplation might be...as thoughts are appearance, just like a chair...what happens to all the chairs that are “let go”? They recycle in the universe and ‘become’ another appearance. So what happens to every thought which is let go? Why would it be any different, and what does that say about you, and your creating of reality? Imo, such a contemplation stands to draw attention to the creating importance (if creating your reality is relatively important, aka, what you want) of choosing better feeling thoughts. A thought is like a blanket on the floor with an apparent lump in it. When you look under it, there was nothing there causing the lump, it just seemed like there was. If you can just readily see this, that there is no ‘blanket / lump’, that you are the thought “itself”. then there’s no thought to scrutinize. If that is not the case, looking under the blanket is analogous to looking under the thought. Which is to say, inspecting the attachment between feeling & the thought. The bridge there, is identity / conditioning / limiting beliefs of Self. All which can be said, heard, experienced, is thought, sensation, perception. Of the utmost importance, is tuning into this actuality. The mind loves to project what is “inside” of / experiential - thought, sensation & perception - “outside” of thought, sensation, and perception. ALL...space, time, anything, everything, etc, etc...ALL, is actually thought, perception, sensation, which You are creating. You created the means of this creating, so you could create. If anything, it’s too perfect, too seamless, too convincing. You’re that good. Too good. Too perfect! A simple example of this, is the realization you have never experienced that anyone is thinking, let alone what they are thinking. It is always “your” arising thought, implicating a knowing of what someone is thinking. There is a great liberation is the realization, there is only this one at a time linear stream of arising thought. All thought is relative, and resonates in degree of alignment with absolute, with unconditional love - with creation, which thought is inseparably orchestrating.

@Rasheed Yep.

@Buba I misunderstood, ?? I thought you’d ruled that out. It can of course be most helpful for someone who will more readily listen to another, in leu of their own feelings, there own inner being, their own suffering. There are lots of professionals who can help you reconnect those dots. A very powerful thing happens for her, when you aren’t interested in her anger, when you are no longer affected - when you’re off creating the life of your dream. There is no assertion, but such love & zest sure pushes the limits.

Every thought is an added layer. Layers implying twoness in a variety of ways. If you’re aim is nonduality, then weed out any and all twoness thought patterns, by scrutinizing them at more intense, and yet more subtle and loving, levels. If one has a soul, there are two. The one, and the would which it has. There was said to be electricity & magnetism, then electromagnetism. There was said to be space & time, then spacetime. Human thought makes twoness. Awareness of thought, scrutiny, and all is reducible. “I realize nonduality means all is one”...write different perspectives of this on your board, work it out, reduce it. What is that if there’s no I...if there’s no meaning...if there’s no nonduality...if there’s no all...if there’s no saying of this...if there’s no recipient...? Direct experience...you have it. Question it. Derive your answers from it. ?? You know thoughts about reincarnation. What else about it is in your direct experience, right now, here and now in this moment, not in a thought?

@pluto ♥️

@herghly Yes! ?? It’s a great start! And... a dream board, dry erase board, is ideal asap. Not only because you can easily add to it, but also the fluidity of modifying as you see the pieces all coming together. It’s also very useful for working thoughts out, like noticing the separate self in thinking, self referential thoughts, etc. Ultimately, like all things, you’re creating it and it’s up to you. Imo, it’s tough to beat holon “in the middle of the room”.

You’re aware of changing states, yes? You can not therefore, be the states. You’re what’s aware. Awareness.

@Matt23 Relax & gently scrutinize the thoughts. The “separate self” is only sustained in thoughts. Self referential thinking, and ‘outside force’ narratives. That’s all. Less thinking, more loving and relaxing, and guiding thought via feeling. Who says this about who, are you not simply you? It is the thinking & believing of such things to be let go. There’s not a thing “wrong” with you, sans the thoughts there is.

Unconditional love isn’t really understandable. That’d be a subtle condition. Everybody touches the stove, not everybody is so responsive & sensitive to being. Take care not to dwell in this, just get the message, and feel the better for it. Let the thoughts about the perception go, and notice, in a sense there’s an absolute at play. That’s why it felt relatively terrible to create that experience, to choose It. Notice there’s no condition forcing you to choose that. How’s such radical freedom treatin ya? That absolute unconditional love within you is absolute indeed. It will never, ever bend to conditions. It’s ever-allowing you. It will never impose a condition, and will never meet ’you’ when you do, even if you beg & plead. ‘You’ listen to it. ’You’ align with it. Choose more wisely from the knowing of such discord, make use of this direct experience. It tells you who you are. Feel the answer to the degree you can. Make sense of it. It’s all ‘on time’, reality’s all fine as it is, intervene whenever you like, as you like. We used to have guillotine shows in the courtyard you know. There’s an infinite predicament & a love story playing out. It’s getting better all the time, from the love of you. If you could snap your fingers and have the world in accordance with your “perfect”, you’d regret it in two minutes. For experience, there’s space, time, fields, particles, etc, and here we are. Consider the actual possibility that you are what’s behind all that, and that you can fully realize this. Repurpose your intellect, cleverness, and sneakery in the name of love & truth, and you will know it more & more deeply. Get on purpose, be unflagging about it - you’re already creating. Don’t just be another John Doe.

@Matt23 I hear ya. I still vote have sex.

@Spiral Wizard A belief = a thought, arising right now. The thought arising now suggests it is about a past, trust, and belief. Without the story, you’re entirely, spontaneous, entirely, wholly, completely, magically, insanely, joyously, free. You are not the “self” in this story. You the real deal aware of a single arising thought, and it’s implication. Why’s it seem hard to simply - not believe the story about you? Because of the feelings “attached to it”. But the feelings are not attached, to anything, ever. The feeling, that “down on yourself” feeling...that’s what you should be listening to. The feeling is saying drop the story about you, “it’s not true!”. You’re unstoppable, you’re The Spiral Wizard for God’s sake. No one can stop you!

@Javfly33 What a great breakthrough / realization. Congrats?? Two cents....You could relabel “image”.....”thought”. That’s all it is. “How to not defend a thought?”, brings out the silliness. You can just let that thought go, and a better feeling one arises. “If I totally let go of a thought, I stop trying to defend a thought”. On #1, just take ownership, and it basically evaporates. “ I had this belief (a thought) that certain...”. Girls want to be happy just being themselves too, without adding nervousness, anxiety, etc. We have guidance of inner being, of feeling. It always cuts through the thinking. ”Not sure if the feeling of anxiety, or grounded & confident is the way to go”. Also reveals the silly. You might find there to be an effortlessness here in attracting girls. If you want to probe a little deeper...what you’re questioning “hiding”...also, is just a thought...”weak”. Just a thought. Be on the look out for self referential thought, and let those go. They can’t be true about you, as you are always the awareness of the thought.

@Fede83 Freeeeeddoooommmmm! ??♥️

@Fede83 Yes, and take it a step closer to actuality. Rather than “my mind making up a story”, rather than give a “my mind” a notion of being a separate entity, having influence or power that isn’t actual...just notice the arising thoughts. “My mind”, is itself just a thought. If a thought doesn’t feel so good, just notice, and choose a better feeling one. Nothing needs to be ‘solved’ to do that, and you’ll build momentum in feeling. Notice, “karma”, is an arising thought. You can say, do, think, and feel, better, right now. “The last 20 years”, is an arising thought, arising in this ever-same now, like any other thought. There is feeling as our infinite being is unconditional love, duality for togetherness, and thought for expansion, to create. Have your cake and eat it too. That’s what ya ‘came here’ for. Be steadfast in this, via your dream board. Bringing the life you want into fruition brings forth passion, determination, inspiration, and excitement. As a lovely offset, this is in itself attracting, both the life and the woman/relationship. Consider, what is your preference...being with someone asleep in anxiety, depression, regret, etc - or co-creating a life together woke af? What are you attracting?

These arising thoughts are within my awareness. I am aware of the thoughts. One such arising thought...” I am...” What you are asking to hear, can not be said, you are awareness of the thought “ I “. You are awareness of the thought, “you are awareness of the thought”.