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Congrats on recognizing the matrix. Very few make it this far on the path. Well done Onelove, well done. ?? As you’re experiencing, “stopping the urges” does not work. This is also referred to as suppression. Expressing the emotions, such as anger, and continuing to express totally, totally works. The holy grail of expressing & understanding emotions, is the liberation from the matrix of duality... ...the realization there is not an I which feels mad at a myself. Nor a you which told a yourself. Expression is the way. The heavy lifting is done. It’s all expression and letting go from here on out.

Mind is not a duality. Thoughts are dualistic. The thought about “it” is a thought. There is not a you & an “it”. In mistaking thoughts about a you & a mind...it’s missed there are not actually two. This is what is meant by “asleep” in the “matrix” of the mind, and what is referred to as “monkey mind”. Likewise, there isn’t a “my mind” which creates problems. “Problem” is the dualistic thought. It’s devicive, as the thought implies a you & that which could be the problem. As there are not two, and these are all thoughts, it can be glimpsed that no mind is no dualistic thoughts, no narrative, no thinker thinking. Meditation & expression is the way.

That’s not going to work out in the longer run, as loa is inseparable of Truth. Happiness fills life with happiness. You seem to be missing that manipulation is quite delusional as there are not two. This is a sure fire way to remain ‘asleep’, or on the seeker’s rollercoaster. One only manipulates oneself, and then fills that hole with seeking short term good feeling from outside oneself, such as with meaningless sex, substances, self image inflation, demeaning others to feel ‘superiority’, etc (samsaras). None of which is satisfying. It’s one gaming oneself. You might say do to the law of one, there is no exception to this. Yes. Truth is unconditional, and paradoxically therefore fulfilling of every aspect and venture of your life, relationship(s) & creating. I’d swap ‘express’ for ‘tell’, and ‘amazing feeling’ for ‘brutal’. Truth, unconditional love, and loa are inseparable, One whole experience. Release of conditioning = being aware of attracting, and is for you. Sharing what remains, the whole world smiles with you, everything magically works out, because reliably is pure magic. This is the pinnacle of being and living, the best of ‘both’ worlds, effortless creating in joy, co-creating with Truth ya might say. Right. Loa & conditioning wise, life would fuck you, and you’d be believing in two, missing you’re attracting it, fucking yourself. Don’t do that lol. There is no one here to manipulate. Don’t ‘fill the hole’ with objects & objectifying, release conditioning, aka the identity of / as a manipulator. There are not two, and so this is a foundation of delusion and falsity. The ‘straw house’ of the three little pigs. Don’t wolf to compensate, there was no problem to begin with, without manipulating others. Brick house yo’ self of Truth, simple honesty. ? Experience doesn’t attract, you attract. Notice, listening to intuition & feeling, even considering this ‘duality’ is extremely low hanging fruit on the path. Pass it up readily, and dial into intuition & feeling, Oneness more so (brick house).

@EmptyVase ☺️

@VeganAwake ??

The named is the mother of ten thousand things.

Should be said, these are ‘story time’ answers about ‘Phil’, but happy to help nonetheless. It would be entirely relative to that someone. To give a general answer though, for a seeker... loving, responsibility, a clean diet, fitness, Maslow’s pyramid, using the dreamboard & emotional scale, daily proper meditation, guitar and or piano & singing, solo retreats & trips in nature, the books Ask & It Is Given, and The Nature Of Consciousness, law of attraction, law of one, law of as above & so below, all of the immutable / universal laws really, basic economics, psychology, neurology and quantum mechanics. Again, very general here, the much preferred answer is entirely a one off from talking to the seeker, if they’re still a seeker by the time we’re done talking, which is highly unlikely. To someone who wants to start a similar business I’d suggest scheduling a session. That’s not a sexy answer I realize, but it would be entirely relative to that someone. There really is no generic answer I could say here that would not be misleading. Imagine someone advising Ester to be like Rupert, or Rupert to be like Ester. Can’t be generalized really, other than to say it would be best if they had many years of experience talking with individuals, couples, and families about wants, needs, & life dreams, and have already met their own needs, are manifesting their wants, and living their dream life. Generally speaking, the best experience for helping people create successful businesses is having created serval successful businesss, like any other line of work in that way. No. None. It’s been a great joy in my life. That there were no challenges is basically the result of the answer to question 1. Fall in love with truth and being alone, or find something more fitting that one is passionate about, maybe life coaching or the like. That is not to say be alone. I’ve a wife & family, friends, coworkers, etc. Offered what came to mind. The only real answer is I never thought of any it. It really is just experiencing what’s happening so to speak.

It’s not what others say that gets your goat, it’s your own vibrational resonance with it. Do what they have not, use the scale. Harmonizing is for the studio, not the muggles. ? Put ideas on dreamboard, make them literally in your reach. See them visually, perceptually, rather than as thoughts which come & go. Then watch them manifest & use the emotional scale for any discord along the way.

Check direct experience. The seeker is illusory. Ineffable. Inspect, de-condition, self realize satisfaction beyond asking. There is only the words to go on here. Reading into it more, as in thinking more isn’t inspecting, de-conditioning, self realization.

Thinking that way doesn’t feel good, yet feeling is blamed. Nothing “personal”, I couldn’t love ya more, but you’re already deluded. You’re not God. Take that one slow my friend... not two. Sometimes what seems popular is really poopular. Use the emotional scale to release. You create your reality, so why claim of ten minute molehill is a lifetime mountain? On a Jesus kick lately, bear with Me... "Whoever blasphemes against the father will be forgiven, and whoever blasphemes against the son will be forgiven, but whoever blasphemes against the holy spirit will not be forgiven either on earth or in heaven." Curse God, no biggie. Curse other people, no biggie. Curse your life, you screw yourself. Understanding emotions, using the scale, is amazing. It uncovers the magic of reality. No one can make you understand yourself though, you’ve got to put the armor down and willingly choose to. Home slice is coming from truth & wisdom. We just love the giggles outta ya man. Living life without emotional releases is like having sex without orgasms. There would be a “what the hell’s the point” kinda vibe. Totally understandable. You’re missing out bruh.

You & reaction is already duality. Reaction isn’t natural, it’s a causal semblance. You can not be a thought (unreal) which you are experiencing. Seeking is not believing, it is inspecting what is actual. The illusion of the separation, or separate self is already apparent. No, that is another duality. “It” & true, you & nothing. Likewise, you & states, someone & not doing or not getting, someone becoming aware. The dualities, and imo, most respectfully and relevantly, the suffering, is already the case.

@zeroISinfinity It sounds like you’ve got a dream paradigm that could be seen through. In the sense, if the beard of dream is shaved, being is the clean face.

It’s always what we claim to know that shoots our foot. The knower can never see what the knowing claims to know. Before you concern yourself with the splinter in the other’s eye, remove the board from your own eye. That is, you believe it’s because of someone else that you feel that way, because you aren’t inspecting your own beliefs / judgement / conditions. The miracle of doing the work of inspection, is unconditional love & unconditional happiness is uncovered. Every single moment of your life from that point on is literally blissful and pure magic. This can not be communicated, you’ve got to directly experience this. How long are you willing to make your list of what you must avoid so you can be happy? Two conditions, three, twenty, hundreds? Those are your conditions. This is what is referred to on the path as conditioning. It’s what we let go of. Not what we use to reinforce our own suffering. Religion, and or spirituality, often refers to this as judgement. Psychology refers to this as deflection & projection. Divorce lawyers & therapists just call it income. How ever you slice it up, you’re in control. You can choose love, and emotional equanimity. ? No you can not, because you are already “there”. You’ve only actually ever been there...and you are creating conditions upon “there”, which is to say, your own love & happiness.

?? @Eren Eeager There aren’t “separate selves”, and stories about individual selves therefore will not do. There is reincarnation, but it can not be explained. Only self realization will do.

@Snt_lk Other people are as real as you are. There is no “concept of nonduality”. That would be two. Nonduality is not-two. (Non-dual)

There really actually is no “separate self”. There are just thoughts about.

@traveler And now I am infected as well. ??

@The Buddha

@Chris365 It’s fine, he’s got a hell of a sense of humor. Infinite, they say. @charlie cho Worst thread hijack in a while. Carried away and my apologies. Hopefully a trinity of laughs for you sir.

@Dark_White ??

@Bazooka Jesus Nailed it.

@Bazooka Jesus Only the Good die young. @Mason Riggle ?

@Dark_White The emotional scale. Beautiful work my friend. Really nice. I definitely had similar moments, still do and still will, and I’ve learned to drop it on a dime (release it) and have talked with many who have as well. I’d frame this up as contemplation in this regard is like diving down into the depth of clarity. This releases emotions, and that is the desired effect. As emotions clears out, unconditional, formless, clarity remains. Along the way, thought tends to ‘hijack’. Spot the self referential thinking, that is, thoughts about yourself that don't feel good to you...that is the ‘red flag’ to release. Thought labels, such as with the thought “objects”, and it can definitely seem like you’re ‘stuck’ there. Also notice thought labels it’s own source, such as with “I am really impatient person”, and “I like to get things fast”, “I lack”, or “I’m dealing with”. The concepts got you thinkin, which is great, and it tapped intuition, which is fucking awesome, and that is bring emotion up & out which is the ideal. Now, help em out by expressing slowly, loving, up the scale. Allow the identity misunderstandings to release, and self realization, seeing the “objects” are nothing, naturally follows. Sounds like you’re experiencing doubt, disappointment, irritation and frustration....so check out the scale, and express how this sometimes leaves you feeling and thinking pessimistically about your future. Then express ...sometimes boredom is experience...and so on. If those thoughts were true about you...”I’m impatient”, “I lack”, etc...they’d feel like orgasmic liquid love oozing through the body mind.

@Jodo ...puts...self...back in chair...

@Bazooka Jesus You set this whole gig up so proper, even you don’t know! So well done sir, soo well done. ? An sorry bout the crossy thingy. We didn’t know either.