Nahm

The instant you stop blaming others and recognize you’re feeling what you’re thinking, you feel better. It’s the recognition you’re in control of how you feel. Not others. Focus on a thought that feels good, not a story about an ego which doesn’t feel good. Doesn’t have anything to do what what other people think. Focus on a thought that feels good (rather than a story about developing anything). You didn’t change your identity. That’s still thinking about what other people think / seeking validation. You made choices aligned with well being and you should feel great about that - doesn’t matter if anyone approves, agrees, etc. They can make their own choices. One can become addicted to thinking about what other people think, from holding the belief something is wrong with themself. Thinking about what other people think will never solve this, because there is nothing wrong with you in the first place. Do anything and everything loving for yourself possible. Loving meditations are self love. Taking the time to understand the emotions you are experiencing is self love. I would start on the scale at blame. Believing how you feel has something to do with what other people think, is blaming other people, for how you feel. The willingness to express and let it out changes everything. One can not do both, express how one feels and thinks... and continue blaming others. It’s one or the other, and you must choose well being, loving, feeling great. The fundamental underlying belief is that there is something is wrong with you (self judgement). All efforts are to resolve that belief. In ignoring that it is a belief, the habit of projection can become so convincing, that we actually believe how we feel is the fault of other people. The belief never gets resolved, short of realizing, it is a belief, and nothing is now, nor ever was, wrong with you. I recommend reading The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, and Ask & It Is Given, in addition to expressing and understanding emotions. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhuabY4DmEo Also consider calling it ‘what I’m focused on doesn’t feel good’, rather than anxiety. Only feeling better matters. Only that will lift you out of this. What you think, what I think, what anyone thinks - does not matter.

Is there an example of a thought which is not fueled by the desire to feel better?

What if the falsity of a thought of a separate self in time is in & of itself traumatic, vs what the thought is about being true, in the sense there is no actuality of there being a separate self in time, just this peace appearing as, thoughts, which repeat only when believed or identified with, mistakenly, to be about the awareness aware of. If that were true, there would be no separate self, only peace, love, intelligence & happiness, free & unbound, fully creating the desired life.

Think ‘air’ instead of consciousness. That way you can more readily recognize you’re not actually thinking about any thing, just claiming that there is a you which is thinking about some thing, projecting those beliefs about a thing (repeated thoughts, just an idea), and believing that you are thinking of some thing.

By recognizing those are thoughts. Aka self referential thinking. The ‘one’ all those thoughts are about, the ‘one’ separate of consciousness which can obtain, attain, reach, has been, owns & claims, will be, x level of itself, etc... those are thoughts about a separate self, but where is that which is thought about? Use the finger, point to who / what you’re actually talking about. Is there even “a thinker”? If every single person on earth is believing the same, still, awareness of thoughts, and no more. Settle for thoughts about a self. Or self inquire, and meditate. Without the thinking about the you awakening, awakening ensues for no one.

Self Inquiry One sure fire way to be aware of being aware is to recognize never being aware of any thing whatsoever being aware. Some projections & assumptions may be uncovered.

Only thoughts make it seem otherwise.

Bring to mind peacefulness, kindness, appreciation, and how do you feel? Bring to mind that you are a person... that you are not a person... that there are people... that there are not people, how do those thoughts feel?

@Heart of Space Didn’t see this thread before that other one. Can see where you’re coming from. I’m sure it is difficult. Not to imply it’s easy, but perhaps paradoxical, the more you embrace, be at ease with what is, find that inner allowing & acceptance, the deeper you are feeling the true nature. All things wanted do not compare to this love.

One can not think perception.

@freejoy ??

I’ll answer but then you must abide by my answer. If you are inclined not to, then that’s a mental disorder. Fair enough?

@Javfly33 Yeah, I think you’re on the right track there. Next, take away your labels of male & female, to recognize one can not think perception.

I think you’re ‘seeing the light’ there. I’ll answer but then you must abide by my answer. If you are inclined not to, then that’s a mental disorder. Fair enough?

@freejoy I’ll answer but then you must abide by my answer. If you are inclined not to, then that’s a mental disorder. Fair enough?

Exactly. That’s kinda how judgement & ignore-ance works.

The same one you mentioned.

@freejoy It’s not normal to be heterosexual. Heterosexuals have a mental problem, same as a person with some other mental problem. Totally not ignorantly judging you here.

That things have, produce or procure consciousness is the material paradigm.

Because nothing, you, and consciousness aren’t separate things such that nothing could work in making you more conscious.

@VeganAwake ?? Can’t think the way to thought detachment / no mind.

It’s how the sphere of the world literally ‘self’ perpetuates.

@Growly Haven’t listened to anything by him.

@Endangered-EGO Might not be the absence of it either. What’s it or absence anyways.

@Growly Framing the thoughts as intrusive leads to the aversion. Listening to the thoughts, and what feeling is ‘telling you’, leads to alignment. When I say ‘leads to’ I mean instantaneously feeling a bit better and better with each aligned thought. Also, consider, it’s effortless to put different material in front you which resonates and feels good. YouTube Abrham Hicks. Listen for a day or two. Your whole life will change.