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@One Day So much love, joy & inspiration indeed! “Moving past the bullshit from my past”... is the belief there is a past... and that is how you’re keeping the discord active. There’s no past, nothing to move beyond. The truth is that good. If you keep saying there is though, that isn’t letting it go, that’s “the problem”. There is no problem, there is just saying there is a problem. (Saying the problem is that there is a past, and that you have to move past it). This is what’s pointed to with “the separate self” being illusory and the root of suffering. It’s as simple as telling the story about you and your life, that you actually want. That will then be what you experience. This is always true. Notice it’s true right now and always has been. You are telling the story of having to move past a past... and your experience is that of focusing on trying to move past a past. If you can laugh about this, you’re very wise.

Expression ‘works’ because it’s so hard to spot that you are saying there is a problem. With ample expressing, you release the belief. You’re no longer holding the belief, because it was expressed out. You’re also believing no one could help you to do this. That also is a belief. You’re free to believe these things and suffer, but listen to what the suffering is saying, what is it telling you so to speak. But there isn’t a problem in the first place. Perhaps just the habit of insisting that there is, and insisting that you are right, and insisting no one can help you. Believing meaninglessness is a problem... is believing there is a problem. It’s meaning which is being wrestled with, the belief kind, or, the not actually true kind of meaning. There is quite literally, absolutely, nothing at all needed from beliefs, meaning, or anyone, for you to love today, and all that arises. Here is a suggestion as to how to go about that, and ‘why’.

You can believe there are two, imagination, and reality. You can also believe there are three, imagination, reality, and you. If you no longer believed this, it would be clear that believing was the denial, and that it was being projected.

@Loving Radiance Not really no.

@SQAAD If you believe there are unicorns, and someone else doesn’t, they are not in denial of anything. You would just be in denial that you are believing in unicorns, and projecting the denial. It’s likely you would do this because you think the truth is not good. It’s likely you believe that because you hold a belief that you are not good.

@SQAAD Those assumptions = your suffering.

@One Day Making a dreamboard puts everything you want, that feels good to you, in front of you. Slowly but surely, identifying via a past dissipates as inspiration fills you via aligning thought with feeling (no longer expecting to think the same yet feel good).

Feeling isn’t broken, it’s literally perfection. But thought makes it so.

@dvl64x Up means not down, down means not up. Meaning is dualistically implied, but is apparent.

@SQAAD Do you experience a their experience and a their suffering?

And? Quit?

@Podie45 It is possible to have a belief about oneself and be aware of it and feeling it... while missing what the word belief means, or, what a belief is. Even feeling the resistance of the belief with the desire (for a relationship), it’s still not unheard of to miss what a belief actually is. In missing the relationship between the belief and the resistance, it is possible to believe something is wrong with oneself such as having anxiety, or that one is antisocial. It’s common to try many things that don’t work, but make one feel worse, like trying to force oneself out of being comfortable in the present moment, which usually results in bringing up very uncomfortable suppressed emotion, which can often come out as blame, but doesn’t do much for feeling better. It’s also common, in missing that initial belief something is wrong with oneself, to try to be something or someone one is not, this also unfortunately typically results in experiencing blame. It’s possible to be feeling the desire to be social and have a relationship, but missing the resistance is from the belief, not from being social or having relationships. That unfortunately usually results in feeling the resistance more intensely and creating another belief... that the intense feeling is because something is wrong with oneself. Believing in the solution tends to reinforce the original belief, that there is a problem as in something being wrong with oneself. Again, in not recognizing the belief is a belief, it’s possible to add another belief, that one has to accept the discord, or, suffering. When this is experienced to be impossible (because the belief is a belief) the suffering can be so intense that it seems nothing could relieve the belief. One often thinks of everything outside of oneself, and is aware none of them really change this long term, and yet still it is possible for it not to ‘click’, what a belief is. This difficult path always leads back to ideas. The intuition knows that is where the relief lies. The world, or, conditioning, teaches the solution to a problem is more, but the intuition knows less, is really more. In learning this way from conditioning, one innocently attempts to apply this theory of adding more to their emotional experience. But the intuition knows and feels that pushing, forcing, and trying to be someone one is not will never bring peace. Only being yourself will do, because a belief is a belief.

@ivankiss Write a song about a guy doing everything on earth to create an identity. Use three chords. Be honest.

@Gabith I’d definitely do that. Love to hear back on it after just two or three days. I think you’ll feel relief and more relaxed. Thought activity will settle. Godspeed.

Infinite can not know finite. Infinite is the true nature. For One (infinity) to experience, One must appear to itself to be two, and one forgets it’s own oneness by ‘doing’ (being) so. It’s unthinkably brilliant, and the only possibility which allows for experience, or, creation. The apparent twoness of thought is a facade, illusory, the actuality is oneness appearing. This is why thought detachment leads to enlightenment and thinking more does not. More thinking, concepts, conceptualization and reconceptualization is creation, all illusory, and is great and serves creation, which is an appearance. In direct experience this is not exactly accurate. No one experiences your thoughts. And if & when they do, they’ll quickly realize it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be, and they’ll ‘turn it off’. Short of this rare exception, thoughts are private. Yes it is. Enlightenment and life has always been that simple and straight forward and it will always be. Thread wise, consider, a ‘narcissist’ is actually suffering greatly and doing everything possible not to, but it could be said they are just taking the very hard path. Thought detachment, or transcending the finite mind, is not believing thoughts. That, can’t be thunk. Which is why folks meditate, do yoga, go on retreats, employ practices, eat clean, speak clean, think clean, let stuff go swiftly, etc. Looking for reason to live in thought is like looking in the garbage at Disneyland and not even recognizing you are already in Disneyland. “Reasons” is just more illusory thinking. “Control” is more illusory thinking. Let such discordant thoughts go. They never add up to anything. No one needs a reason to do, be, have, create & experience what they want, though it could be said they ‘need’ the empowerment to do so. Empowerment is indicative of the true nature, which again is uncovered by releasing conditioning. Releasing conditioning is effortless. Resisting feeling takes effort. Something to consider... a bigger picture frame up of sorts... A person experiencing negative psychology will first spite & resent someone experiencing positive psychology. They usually employ deflection & projection, and name call or insinuate with labels like ‘goody two shoes’, or ‘lucky’, and they’ll attribute what they aren’t yet willing to recognize within their own behaviors, actions & choices, as what is outside of human choice, like genetics, talent, charisma, and other ‘God given attributes’. A person experiencing positive psychology will first spite & resent ‘someone’ ‘experiencing’ no mind. They will usually be more manipulative and subtle about their deflection & projection, attacking their character, discrediting, etc, and projecting their own unresolved motives and impulsive behavior onto them. They don’t believe as much in luck, because they’ve experienced changing their own psychology from negative to positive, but they are still ‘lost’ thought, or, “psychology” (which is a thought). None of this negative or positive psychology will carry over into no mind, only true mental and emotional equanimity will do here, and that requires addressing the reaction and impulse of the apparent body / person / animal. ‘Someone’ ‘experiencing’ no mind will no longer spite or resent anyone, because they addresses the reaction and impulse of the animalistic side of the situation, and now see those are illusory thoughts which are in discord, and they’re well aware of this, and they desire to embody more of the true nature, as no mind equals more feeling presence which of course feels wonderful. Most hang their hat here, in accordance with how personality has or hasn’t served them, and do or don’t relinquish remaining vestiges of personality and or animalistic influence (attachment to reaction, impulse, lux, sex drive, relationships, habit, etc), which tends to dictate an absence of the humility required to recognize that in creation one plus one, and all which arises of it, is great than one. Just perspectives for consideration.

One approach is consideration it’s what we don’t do or add which naturally ‘results’ in present moment awareness being present moment awareness. Not doing things like eating sugar, starches, drinking alcohol, caffeine, not focusing on what I don’t even like, etc. But then you gonna feel, a lot. But then, that’s what you want in the first pace.

?? It’s the ol’ “both” are actually One situation. You are absolutely capable of achieving great things. By you, I mean the ineffable, the One which forgot itself by being this very experience. The One which arises as the flotsam & jetsam of conditioning and forgetting is released. There is obviously the discernible experience of imagining and visualizing and creating the future you desire to, but you are all of this and none of this, greater than this and within this, and never actually see, let alone see, yourself. All “experience” already is yourself. You see by not seeing. So to speak, to truly see, is to see there is no thing to be seen. By appearing as such that there is the experience of seeing. By appearing as the thoughts and perception, or ‘seer’ & ‘seen’ experience. Rather I should say I do or do not. If I visualize, and I visualize ‘myself’ in a visualization, I can then believe that is me in the thought or visualization, but I am always the awareness of, never actually thinking, visualizing, doing anything, or even moving. Just appearing as. I appear to myself as everything else, to make it seem as if I am doing. Awareness of ‘this’ is perfectly humbling. ? Nothing is won, nothing is lost. Nothing can be taken, nothing can be defended. There is such an experience of believing thoughts, and therefore believing I am in thoughts, or could think myself. That is what is humbled. I am no more a person than a bird a thought or a soup can at the bottom of the ocean. Just a never ending silence, or peace, having fun by not having fun, is really the funniest & funnest possible scenario. TLDR, don’t blame ya. It boils down to feeling discord & alignment. We each have a choice it seems, to say this & that about the other, to ‘see’ parts or wholeness without and within, to be reaction like animal, or to take pause and address discord to align, and proceed consciously creating, in deep appreciation of the profundity of creation, or, you. It’s ‘what’s happening’, apparently. If it is good, for you in your direct experience, via feeling, to believe in yourself... then there is no remaining question in thought, as to if it is good. Good is good. If it is suffrage, or even slightly unpleasant to believe in yourself, feeling is already ‘telling you’ that belief has nothing to do with you. To think about it more imo would be in error. A single thought and feeling of what you want, and then letting it go from mind so that ineffable may be it, is worth as much as the entire universe. They are truly, literally, one in the same. You might say the manifestation of the universe, and manifesting this & that in your living. The latter is an echo of the prior, yet there is no sear Atari on, as it is essentially vibrational and spiral. Bigger to smaller spirals. The Milky Way and a water tornado I create by moving my finger (so to speak) in a puddle of mud. Same. Any experiential thought, belief, visualization, imagining, hope, dream, etc, which feels good, feels good because it is indicative of who you really are, of the true nature or truth. We could think of it as de-veiling, or illumination. One is already & always feeling the true nature of oneself. One never left, never even moved.

@Zeroguy Awesome.

@IAmReallyImportant No I can not. It’s a belief. If someone said seeing unicorns is a belief, they wouldn’t be able to give an example of seeing unicorns. Btw, it is good to see such people’s strife & struggle through the lens of compassion & empathy, as often they are avoiding dealing with something most are not aware of or tasked in life to have to deal with. There are many examples, and it’s all in the eye of the beholder. It is also wise of course, to implement one’s own boundaries, without unnecessary judgment.

Some people are humbled, and thankful, and aren’t believing they can see themself. Therefore, some people aren’t experiencing comparative thoughts at all, in regard to other people. It seems there is everyone & anyone everywhere in between, and yet we are all ultimately in this together. Some people, especially in difficult times or transitions, project what is coming up and out within themselves, onto other people as well. Specifically people they experience who are already on the other side of the transition they are presently experiencing. As to why anyone would act in such a way, likely for what they believe acting as such will get them. The usual suspects, notoriety, as in fame, or money, praise, sex, etc. There’s an endless variety, yet no acting, incentive, or reward ever measures up to the nature of the truth behind the actor.

@tatsumaru Your post inspired me to add a tool I’ve been meaning to create for sometime. Thank you. If you’re interested in checking it out, here’s a link.. Going Prior.

@ivankiss @VeganAwake Well said. @Mu_ Well done sir.

@Shiva99 Not receiving a text does not equal being ignored, but thinking makes it so. What if her attention so to speak, is hers, and yours is yours? Maybe there is a little ‘off ness’ in missing this, and thinking hers has something to do with you. Seems like it does, but it doesn’t. Since it’s hers. Notice what you’re presently doing, with yours. Putting hers as higher. This will not resonate with direct experience. ‘Re-sourcing’ is a facade, a tough lesson sometimes, short term thinking or focus. What happens when you shift from focusing on what you’re not getting from someone else, to what you want to create, do, be and experience on your own behalf? (Which does not include expectation upon others).

Yes, but perhaps a key difference is found upon that recognition of the desire to be more in alignment, to feel better, thus to change behaviors and actions. Some, have a itty bitty pity party, release, and alignment is already underway. Yet others, will go to any length imaginable, and then full circle back to addressing the simplest of behaviors. Then, there is clarity, that there aren’t individuals which have or posses empathy, compassion, awareness, love, etc. (The true nature, or, truth). @28 cm unbuffed Spot on ime. They will never apologize, admit when they missed the mark, misinformed, hurt someone, misled someone, nor will they give credit to anyone else for ideas they ‘borrow’, nor do they have it in them to thank anyone for helping them. (Yet) That is a miserably hot stove, which again, is inevitably full circled back to, wether within the appearance or without. It makes the simplest effortless functions incredibly (seemingly) complex and arduous, praying on convincing another of the same, via comparative ‘measuring’ thinking, guilting tripping, motivation, etc. Best of both worlds imo, is the way to go. Takes letting go paradoxically, humility, vulnerability, free expression. Great songs about this revelation... “Figured you out”... & “You should’ve seen the other guy”... by fellow ox wrestlers.

Feeling good, actual. Looking good, projection. Some projection is natural, healthy, like inspiration. Too much projection, not so well being oriented. A blanket which covers the prior mentioned, feeling good. Attachment to thoughts of what others think of you, or that there are and that they even are. (Motivation - ‘getting it done by avoiding circumstances & situations’... inspiration, what you actually want, unwrapping the real gift you are.)