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Discordance….. Alignment. How to stop caring what other people think of me? I care about how I feel. I let others choose to do or not do the same for themselves. I am the one in my story, who meditates, takes psych’s, etc. My direct experience is only ever that of here, now. I believe I make people angry. I’m in control of how I focus, and therefore feel - and everyone else is too. I believe other people need to be happy for me to be happy. I am Happiness, and feeling tells me so, without fail, without exception. I dig in & figure it out, working through difficult feelings. I listen to Source, not “people” who’ve been conditioned to ignore Source. I believe ‘self & other’ is something to transcend. I laugh, noticing these are just thoughts, like ‘toaster’, or ‘cloud’. I get the joke. I actually think & believe there is “fear” & “suffering”. I listen to source / feeling / guidance, I don’t name it away like muggles & fools. I guess a part of me second guesses myself. I laugh because obviously there are not three of me. I am one. I am not enjoying my current job. I change perspectives in accordance with alignment with source / good feeling, I am unconditional happiness. I believe in “guilt”. Thoughts about myself which aren’t true do indeed feel very not true. I appreciate, and really, relish in the guidance, seeking only to know & feel it more intimately. I believe I could feel 100% certain. Feeling is absolute certainty, infallible guidance, creating. I have to figure this out to feel better. I let it go, it works out. Source, appearing as this, is infallible, perfect, and unconditional. I struggle with feeling great now, vs later. In accordance with direct experience, there is no “later”. I believe there is urgency, cause people need my help. I used to believe in time, and others. It’s me & source from here on out. I don’t know what I should do. I let thoughts go w/o resisting & better feeling, more insightful thoughts always arise.

? Why would there be desire, preference, and focus - if what you desire, prefer and focus upon would not manifest? The instant you recognize you want more financial security and are receiving it, you are conscious you are creating your reality.

“My favorite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time.” - Steve Jobs “Goods & services are the real economy, any form of money is simply the accounting thereof.” - Elon Musk “Success is measured by how much good you do for others” - Zig Ziglar “I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life, but as by the obstacles which one has had to overcome while trying to succeed.” - Booker T. Washington “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” - Maya Angelou ”I believe that anyone can be successful in life, regardless of the natural talent or the environment within which we live. This is not based on measuring success by human competitiveness for wealth, possessions, influence, and fame - but adhering to God’s standards of truth, justice, humility, service, compassion, forgiveness, and love.” - Jimmy Carter ”Always demanding the best of oneself, living with honor, devoting one’s talents and gifts to the benefits of others - these are the measures of success that endure when the material things have passed away”. - Henry Ford ”Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” - Albert Schweitzer “The only true measure of success is the amount of joy we are feeling.” - Esther Hicks

Run to your dreaming when you're alone. Unplug the TV and turn off your phone. Get heavy on with digging your ditch. I'm digging a ditch where madness gives a bit, where silence lives, for when I'm old; digging a ditch - my story is told, and all these troubles that weigh down on me - will rise. Run to your dreaming when you're alone; where all these questions spinning round my head will die, where all these worries that weight down on me will rise, where all these habits pulling heavy at my heart - will die. Run to your dreaming when you’re alone. Get heavy on with digging this ditch.

@PhilGR TLDR: Just ‘do the roar’.

Yes it is indeed offensive. Can you put yourself in their shoes? Can you sincerely, viscerally imagine getting raped, and then listening to someone imply you should have been more responsible, because ‘no amount of education about consent is going to get that kid to keep it in his pants’? Can you see there is no actuality of “that kid”? You’re expressing your view. Not some hypothetical kid(s). If said hypothetical kid wants to express his opinion, great. But he can’t express yours anymore than you can express his.

Nothing is wrong with you. At your truest core, you’re unconditional. So believing something is wrong with you (holding beliefs, conditions) veils, yet, ‘what you seek is seeking you’, Rumi. Consider the possibility that there are self referential thoughts, yet no separate self, as in other-than-unconditional, is actually being referenced, which is why some thoughts which seem to be about yourself don’t feel good (because they aren’t true). If you are to abstain from something, let it be creating suffering.

Your belief is based on hearsay, or what mom shared of her dreams. No thing or substance is needed to spot a belief (dogma). The wisest thing Jesus ever said imo is not to make him an icon, essentially, not to reduce his message to your beliefs, but to inspect for yourself, to see what is true. Likewise, no religion, including Christianity can “fall short”. It is your own inspecting which does, or of course, doesn’t.

Gotta understand what deflection is, to spot your own deflections. And projection. Deflection & projection = holding the same beliefs, by changing the subject when they are in question, and assuming your beliefs are true on behalf of those telling you they aren’t. The opposite you might say, is introspection, or, questioning the validity of the belief.

“Take these chances, place them in a box until a quieter time - lights down, you up and die... red & black, antenna’s waving - we all do it the same - we all do it the same way.” DM Stoically remove your nose from other peoples’ business, and get into your life, you’ll love the smell. Odds you will inevitably die are 100%, living is the only variable. Let us off the hook already. We ain’t ever gonna be perfect.

What sense is there in you being a human? At least the ants aren’t susceptible to illnesses.

“If a tree falls in the woods and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound?” That old joke remains quite mysterious, until the flaw in the proposition is recognized. The setup implies there are two; the hearer, and the tree which makes the sound. No hearer, no sound experience… no tree falling, no sound experience. What if you didn’t believe you’re a hearer, any more or less than you believe you’re a tree? The punchline, nonduality, suggests there are not two, such as a thinker of thoughts, a perceiver of perceived, a creator of creation, a hearer of sound, or someone doing something, or anyone doing anything really. If you & I wanna have a party, we gotta rent a place, hire a band, book Gallagher, hang the disco balls, paint ourselves, establish wingman-ship, order the kegs and strippers, etc, etc. You know how it is. But when Not A Thing wants to have a party, it just be’s the whole party… and sometimes mid-party it’s all ‘is there really this “No Thing” or not? That’s a helluva party if you think about it. Or is it if you don’t? Dunno.

There is no ‘thinker of thoughts’. Absolutely, ultimately, questioning never leads anywhere, because there isn’t an actuality to anywhere, only ‘now’, ‘here’. In the sense, aka ‘experience’… questioning leads to the realization all thought / thinking is dualistic, a twoness facade of one. Yet, experientially, in the absence of ‘monkey mind’… insights, realizations, epiphanies, Armageddon, intuition, sensational / feeling guidance. “You” can never… indeed. Yet to believe those can’t be seen through, self-realized, and therefore debunked, would only be a belief. Materialism is the believing of subject object and self referential thoughts. It’s a debunk-able belief. Idealism, because it is an ism, is also a debunk-able belief. The Immutable Laws are handy for this. There is no getting out from behind creating. There is no pause, rewind, or fast forward button on experience. The life experience of monkey mind, and the tension and stress that ensues, in comparison to self-realization and conscious creating is pretty substantial. Yet again, there’s no not being you, so that is always, up to you. I’d agree in the sentiment of ‘how hard you try’… but otherwise, ‘that reality is external and or objective’ is not only debunk-able, it is already actual. As you said, those are thoughts. Also as you said, you can never debunk them. Not knowing, as in you choosing the way or path of not knowing, is another belief, and is not the self-realization of not knowing, or no thing which could be known. But imo, not efforting, figuring out, trying to solve in thought, is the way to go. Let those phat insights arise of their own goodness, so to speak.

Sounds like a pretty loose guess… doesn’t sound like you both desired that, sounds like she desires that. Might be assumption on my part, having just the thread to go on. I’d share that with her. You might be pleasantly surprised. Also, you might have experienced what you wanted (being with her) and might walk away more aware of what you now know you want more specifically… and you’ll attract that, just as you attracted this. If you can see it, you’re in a no lose situation. That ‘it’ might be the faith, or understanding of loa, such that you know you’ll inevitably attract someone who is more adjacent to what you’re wanting. I’ve found that to be deeply true. Also, nothing wrong with sleeping around. The beauty of it is it’s up to you, what you want. The more you realize what you want with acuity, the more you are deepening the relationship with source, which is being that which you want. Again, no lose scenario here.

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@kinesin Great info, so well said and clearly explained. @RMQualtrough You can also ‘go a level more subtle’. That ‘I am not but my brain is’, and ‘I’m enjoying my night… but it sucks my brain isn’t comfy’, are subtle beliefs that you are two, which is discordant, given no actuality or direct experience of you ‘being two’ (me & my brain). Same for ‘the condition my finite brain is afflicted with’. You could think of that condition as a belief, feeling for subtle discord each time it is repeated. Likewise, ‘scumbag brain’… source might not be able to join you on that one, so it might feel off… or, Truth might not be able to join in on a thought which isn’t true about you / source. It’s possible no accounting of anything else causing it is needed, though there is a lot to be said for momentum and that vagus nerve. Spotting beliefs & seeing through them can take time, but the better feeling for choosing a better thought is always instant and readily available. That ‘my brain’ could be instead thought of as really, downright miraculous. Imo it’s the most interesting ‘thing’ in all of existence. Thoughts of appreciation, of wonder, might resonate. You might consider an old paradigm / new paradigm framing. Old paradigm, you’ve experienced this for twelve years. New paradigm, there is only now, you are the space all arises within, and the focus on the thought / belief is the recreating of the same emotional & physiological experience. You might also reconsider feeling being illusory. Could very well be a belief / misunderstanding. I can see where this would lead to much confusion. I agree with ‘accepting the way I act & feel and carrying on with that in place without viewing it as a reflection of my self’, in the ‘don’t beat up on yourself’ regard. Yet also, changing what thoughts one focuses on doesn’t require any judgement of any previous thoughts, beliefs, or of oneself. That is, we don’t have to suffer or entertain any guilt or shame to change our interpretation and understanding of our experience, feeling, and emotions. If we let it, it can be as easy as ‘this thought just doesn’t resonate’, such as the thoughts about my brain, etc. That might be the cause, which is to say, there is no cause… some thoughts just aren’t in accord with the true nature.

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Accept that there is no condition you could or couldn’t accept.

@Vagos Life is already the teacher. The debating, the suffering, the tension, the reactivity & anger, all are the teacher-teaching you’re looking for yet not finding in the conceptualizing of yourself (or any other), as a teacher. The attaching in the this & thating of thought, the identifying in the left & righting, the comparative lenses in the me vs theming, all are the teaching.

@Blackhawk This could change your life my man.

Meditation.

@Gabith Right on. Have / be fun, vs overthinking.

The duality of the liver of lifetimes.