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What is bad about "wasting" your time and energy watching something like GoT instead of doing something more helpful or productive? I thought that's quite obvious. There are way better ways to relax if that's what you want to do. Not to mention if you won't stay aware it will influence the way you think.

Honestly even one bad meal affects how I am. If I had to eat McDonalds once it would have an effect on me. Not a big one but still. Even if science says that you can eat unhealthy food now and then I personally wouldn't do it at all. Sure you can take some time to transition if necessary and in the end it's more about how you see it when it comes to lasting transition. It's worth it to eat healthy.

If you care about your friends you might see calling them as a way of caring and loving them. Maybe it is what works, maybe it is not. Perhaps it is how you would like to be treated and do it for them. Your friends might not care about you or they care too little, or they care if different ways. You might not notice all the ways they care about you, but you can think about it. Could you be missing something or do they just not care?

I'd assume the successful ones are just buying that following the neurotic mind will bring them good stuff. And to be honest it's not (usually) worse than just laying on the couch not doing stuff. You either have to follow the neurotic mind and live in hell or go the hard way that gets easier over time and learn more positive ways of motivation. The ones on the couch could also have limiting views and belief stopping them from forcing themselves to do stuff so it's not so obvious.

Imagine you cared about everyone on the same level. Would you still use your time helping her or creating something bigger? What I mean is that instead of staying anxious about it constantly you might be way more useful to everyone in other ways.

For me in do nothing meditation my mind started bringing a lot of disgusting images in the beginning. I got used to them and saw nobody is actually getting hurt in them.

Well meditation has scientific effects as well so they could still be technically open minded to try that. But they're just using rationalism as a cover for something I'd imagine.

Instead of wondering about how to seem attractive while saying hello I'd see if the will to get to know that girl came from a good or bad place so to say. Was it very neurotic and came from the ego or was it from abundance and more like curiosity? I'd try to stay true to myself and generally avoid the egoic needs (by accepting them) instead of trying to seem like something and please people just to get laid, be liked or whatever. Also to me it sounds kind of silly to think you couldn't get a girl after saying hi to her. Even if it was a turnoff you could still remain attractive from that point on and for sure there's a chance you'd win her over. Even if the only thing you have to start with is "hello, how is it going?" that doesn't matter. Just stay confident and ok with the possibility of failure. You might also learn something just by talking to them. It's not a heavy investment.

Have you watched Leo's videos on this? After that try to love the side of you that pleases people. Just what I'd do

I liked Teal Swan's videos about this in youtube. Not sure if they're correct, but I've been able to get value out of them. I think it's a good idea to ask if a kink is making yourself close down and have more self-centered pleasure? Or opening up and sharing love? For me it was the first and I still have them but I'm aware of them, ok with them and know quite well how to let go more.

Maybe you unconsciously know that by doing what you're doing you're accomplishing some fragile way of manipulation. You could be just making up drama to distract yourself as well. If it's the first one it won't last or the relationship will be unhealthy. If you really want to have her I'd recommend actually working on yourself rather than working really hard on the relationship. Improve yourself, be passionate about what you do and you will naturally be more attractive. Work on doing your best every day and being an inspiring person and partner. She can be just a plus in your life, even if it might be a plus you really like to have. Also stop idolizing her. That's just bonkers. It is imo a way of giving you an excuse to not act as greatly. A way of procrastinating. "Oh look she's so amazing and awesome, if only I could be like that but I can't". That is just an excuse. Of course you might not be as good immediately but still you can get there. She's just a human being and if she's more developed than you are then either work on yourself or break up and develop yourself to be able to someone similar. Also study relationships. Read just one or two good books and you'll get a lot better understanding of your situation. These are just suggestion my ideas, hope they help.

Some of the books can be found as pdf if you just google. I'm have no clue how many of them, but hopefully some. Edit: I just noticed you meant the list, good luck with it I hope you'll find a way to make the money. If you show yourself working for it in some ways maybe they'll see it's important for you.

I can relate in some ways. I'm also 19 and I don't have high interest in sex or relationships because why would I have. Sure they can be fun, but I consider other things to be way more important. Sure I can get experience and practice which is cool, but I'm honestly pretty good at that stuff already having studied it and learned from past experiences. I'm still in a relationship which is more like seeing every one or two weeks and I mostly see it as being friends that support each other with some added benefits. Seeing more often would feel like a waste of time. Some people have been weirded out by my approach to things as well, but considering the results I've been getting from self help and meditation I don't think I need to be worried. I rather focus on those things and I can assure you I've thought about these values a lot since many have questioned them. I still don't feel a need to change. I might value relationships differently if I could live with that other person since then I could get more out of it. The drama and losing lots of money isn't worth it. Find some really high quality girl or none at all, unless you just want to try stuff out or learn. Focus on improving yourself is what I'd say.

I saw you already commented after I wrote this so here goes anyway. Imo being honest isn't important on it's own. It's about being truthful in other ways. Also did you hurt her or did she "hurt herself" getting offended? Sure she did hurt herself in a way but it's not like at the moment she has power and awareness over it. Wanting the best for her and you in this situation would have meant that you either don't say anything or say it face to face in a very delicate manner. This is situational probably depending on whether you think that's important to express. To be honest though why the hell would you care about some beauty standards . Your mind might want to jump from honesty is never a good idea to always be honest. You have to figure out something in between those two. If you do love her and accept her then you obviously don't really care about her looks that much. Sure they might be inspiring or attractive and you like that stuff but it's not what really matters to you. Consider explaining that those were just some shallow thoughts and you don't really feel that way about her looks? Also being honest shouldn't mean saying whatever ego is thinking. Try to say more truthful things instead, things that are thought out and from the higher self (of course that's not always possible but it's a good idea to try). Letting her go for a while and taking a break shouldn't bother you that much either. I mean you don't need her in your life and you don't have to be attached to her. Also understanding it's good for her also helps.

Maybe it is their way to show that they care and love you. But you see buying food etc just as a thing that needs to be done and nothing special. As a thing that has nothing to do with caring. For them it might be kind of like doing the dishes for a partner, way to show caring etc.. Maybe they don't know how else to do show affection and this is the way they're used to showing it. I understand it's weird because money is involved, but if it's not damaging their lives no need to be upset about it. Just because you accept a favor doesn't mean you're reliant on them and not independant. Hope this gives you some food for thought!

Why force yourself to be social anyways? Did someone tell you normal people do that? Maybe they were right and maybe wrong. I mean I don't know, it can be fun for sure, you rarely learn anything if you're a person into self actualizing and it's mostly a waste of time apart from it being an inspiring experience with the right people and attitude. Just look to understand people, life and love and accept it more if you want to enjoy it. Then you do not need to be worried that much about is socializing something you have to do and what you're getting out of it. What you get out of it is mostly an experience imo. So let go of your worries and be happy and enjoy the little things. For me if I was in your shoes and worrying about this I'd be very right brained and sort of letting my thoughts lead the way, not to a bad place necessarily, but with a critical attitude.

He is just used to using manipulation techniques he probably isn't even that aware of. In a way who cares if he's giving you silent treatment, once he sees it's not working things might start to change

Honestly what I don't know why one wouldn't sit in a quite normal position while meditating even if they're a beginner. It's literally having your legs just folded in a way. Last thing to do? I hope there are maybe 2 steps then although I don't know if the whole position is even necessary. The second comment seems to have some flawed logic uhm he said he wanted to meditate strong determination way, it doesn't remove the techniques point which is to be better than other techniques. It doesn't have to be done with ease anyway or that's at least what a lot of people think including Leo so you might as well do it. Sure you might get scared off track easier but that's about it. I know prab's point might have been that just deal with it but man is he bad at explaining it. And yes I'm tired salty and triggered but this is just stupid and don't want the starter to be confused.

I think it's possible although not for every case. The deeper it gets and the more open the people are the harder it probably is to be best friends at least on both sides. I'm not sure why you're interested in this though, saying you're best friends is probably a way to show affection without any sexual vibes.

Because if I study I have a sure way to get to the next school which will help me get a job if I need one. Learning is also fun and it does increase my intelligence, and learning to write well in school ain't that bad either. To be honest school stuff seems secondary compared to learning about myself and the world and I'd rather sit home meditating and reading books about life than be in school. Psychology and philosophy are often kind of lame after Leo's videos since I "know" better. So if I knew how to not have to go to school and get enough money then fuck this shit I'm getting out of here because other things are way more interesting although I can get motivated to study. My plan is to study a lot about money while in uni so that I won't have to struggle as much with it and can seek enlightenment and whatever I see fit more freely.

Leo told us about those different ways to focus before meditating. I've been doing it by focusing on feeling my fingertips but I'm wondering whether I should sometimes switch the fingers I use and just go with what feels good or always use the same hand and finger.

I'm just going to say that you're totally normal, just different. No need to feel ashamed over thinking differently or disagreeing. I think you'll eventually find people who can be open minded enough to understand a lot of the stuff you're talking about and maybe befriend them. I can't tell how long it's been since you've talked to people in alien language but surely at first you might feel weird if you didn't see the odd looks coming when you talk in this different language. I think it will pass once you gain some perspective on what it means to think differently. It's a big difference to think so differently compared to others but it's still an understandable one. When it comes to loneliness just letting go and letting it be makes it fade away for me. Accepting and thinking that it's fine you don't have anyone you deeply connect with right now. It's all good. Also realizing how silly loneliness can be sometimes and that it can be sort of like worrying about something you can't do anything about. You might still be lonely after going through my tips but it won't take it down with you, or that's how it went with me. Nowadays if I do get lonely it's not really loneliness, it's more like extra social insecurity and I get lonely very rarely or it's very mild because I accept it without question. Hope this helps!

Yeah sure he may have some points, who knows since nobody watches, but come on nobody is going to seriously listen to him if he is acting in such a way about it.

I think one of the things you have to sit down and consider at least is what does Leo mean when he says the system isn't good. Being aware of those things will certainly help and then you can try to study the way you want to study on your own while trying to keep up with what is required by the school. My plan is studying in schools for now, but who knows if I will educate myself more on things to allow me to skip school and actually know what to do without it.

Maybe you've faced some new issues or old issues and you just have to take your time to solve them. It might have been inevitable that you'd come to this phase again. Whatever you do start dealing with it and doing your best to solve it, and you won't have to go through a lot of procrastination and tricking yourself in various ways. Just what I did and worked.