Gabriel Antonio

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Bingo! Love and belongingess is an authentic human need.

What are you talking about? When you're in the flow state, you're in the moment. Which means you're automatically mindful. Yes

That's called paranoia.

First of all, emotional vulnerability a practice. But you shouldn't practice with anybody. This is called oversharing. You need to find someone who has earned your trust and who you feel you can step out of your comfort zone. Second, do it in homeopathic doses. A common trap is to overdo vulnerability. You gotta take baby steps. As the guy said above, it won't happen overnight. Third, psychedelics can help you reconnect to your feelings. Just make sure you're doing them responsibly. Do you want a book recommendation for this topic?

That's a good insight. I don't know why you had to write the title in CAPS though lol Anyway, this reminded me of the flow model: I hope you can fix your self-esteem issues and do the things you're good at

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It seems you’re dissociating from reality. If this persists, you might need to take medication.

Or, he’s just freaking out...

Sounds like a maniac episode...

Lol https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-difference-between-megalomania-and-narcissism

Would you consider that a positive experience? Sounds pretty dangerous imo...

If you hit me with a baseball bat, it will hurt me. If you hit a coffee table, it will not hurt me.

So, I recommend attending a Vipassana retreat.

Nice =)

I've had that. I used to be pretty hardcore, like I would allow mosquitoes to bite me, meditate in very cold temperatures, and that sort of thing. In all cases, I would eventually get desensitized and would get used to the discomfort. Looking in retrospect, all that "endurance of pain" was useless and unhealthy. I was just feeding my spiritual ego, like "Look at all the things I can do! I just meditated in excruciating pain for 2 and a half hours without moving. I'm getting so advanced!" Nothing could be further from the truth...

I've been where you are. I used to do many hours per day of Do Nothing. But in reality, all I did was daydreaming. And I assure you: half-assing meditation will do nothing for you. It might even worsen your situation (emotions, neurosis, problems etc.) The goal is to observe the natural activity of the mind, which is very different from getting lost in it. Otherwise, you're feeding the whole thing. I only had moments of, "OH! This is what meditation is all about" when I began taking Tai Chi classes. Using my body helps a lot to stay grounded. Sitting meditation doesn't really work for me.

Why do you want to "get enlightened"?

Very interesting... I wiill check it out. Thanks for sharing.

@kieranperez nice! Leo is a passionate guy, that’s something nobody can deny. In my case, I’d say the same as you, and also how to understand the people-pleasing mentality I have had since my adolescense. And how to be released from its grips.

I have experienced something similar to what you described. Here's how a typical SDS would go for me: Discomfort starts to arise, but I choose to be motionless. My body is rigid, but I keep myself still anyway. The pain gets more intense. But I resist. My body ends up getting even more tensed (but I don't notice). At some point, I get acclimated to the pain. It's still uncomfortable but is not bothering me anymore. I'm now, in a twisted way, enjoying being in that state. I wanna stop it (like I naturally would), but at the same time I sort of like it. Then, when the session is over, I feel hyper-aware. @aurum How does that differ from your experience? I look forward to hearing from you.

You can watch a video before tripping. I recommend the strange loop one. It will greatly influence your trip.

Isn't that masochism?

That's a misconception. There's no need to kill anything. Meditation is a systematic training of the mind. It's similar to taming a wild horse. Or training a puppy. The goal is not to kill the mind but to make it your ally, like a loyal dog. That's actually called numbness. Pain is essential for our survival. It's how the body tells that something's not right. The traditional advice is, "Stay mindful of the sensation." But sometimes you need to seek an alternative to dealing with the pain. Trying to be mindful is not always the answer... By the way you express yourself, I think you might need psychological help.