Gabriel Antonio

That’s not how depression works.

Yes, it’s called Martyr Syndrome.

Yes!

Right, me too. It's not easy to find good friends, who I naturally feel affinity with. lol Don't force it though... Right Yes!!!

Do you have real-life friends?

Do you have real-life friends?

Why not?

That's so cute. <3 ? Yes! So... here's my two cents: What I have found to be the key to breaking free from social anxiety is tuning into the body. That can be done through sports, music, touch etc. Another things that helps is physical contact. This relaxes me so much. Like, cuddling with someone I feel comfortable with. Social anxiety makes us feel trapped in our heads and when we touch someone else, we tune more into our body. I used to try really hard to feel my emotions mindfully and all that stuff. But I'm an overthinker, so in essence I wasn't practicing mindfulness. I was just thinking about what I was feeling. In other words, I was even more in my head. Instead of focusing on being mindful, I try to focus on letting myself go. But the thing is, you can't force yourself to feel relaxed. Also, it's really beneficial to have strong bonds with a few friends. People you can count on and who accept you no matter what. Who you don't feel any anxiety around. Easy people. This is called your support network. People who you can relax with, have easy laughs, etc. Stress-relief, you know? I have found that the more I cultivate those friendships, the more secure I feel around other people. One last thing: try not to think and talk about social anxiety too much. It can be counterproductive. But don't beat yourself up if you do it Books that might help you: - The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a Fuck - Daring Greatly - Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking Hope that helps! =)

"Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water." You might have depression, btw. So it'd be good to check that with a good psychiatrist.

I agree. @ajasatya thanks for the reply

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Those are just spiritual beliefs. Suffering is a real thing. It is the first Noble Truth of the Buddha. However, if we are caught in the suffering of the world, we’re in a very low vibration. Therefore our actions won’t be effective. Feeling the suffering of others too much is a distraction from turning inwards and dealing with our own suffering. When we heal ourselves we naturally start to heal the world just by the way we are, the way we talk, the way we interact with others etc. And also if we want to do big social projects, they will come out of love, which is the most powerful vibration that exists. Btw - I think enlightened people are aware of the “ocean of tears” of the planet, but they do not get lost in it. @ajasatya What’s your take on this?

@Shin

I like his teachings.

Don’t worry about the world... Can you love yourself?

Be more specific.

It’s simple. If you’re using spiritual beliefs or practices to avoid dealing with a problem, then it’s probably spiritual bypassIng. For example, someone has an alcoholic addiction and he say to himself, “Oh, everything in the universe is in divine order. I have no free will. So might as well keep doing what I’m doing. After all I have no control at all.” Another example: A person has social anxiety. And to deal with the problem, they meditate for many many hours instead of seeking professional help.

Yes, they can. Psychedelics help you tune more with being, and that’s where your authentic motivations and desires are. Just remember that psychedelics are not the only way, and is not for everyone. So be careful.

Lol

First of all, you can’t be unconditionally lovIng with everybody. That’s just an unrealistic expectation. Remember that you’re not Jesus... But anyway, the way I’ve found to be more unconditionally love towards myself is through having strong bonds with my close friends.

Agreed.

Interesting. I didn’t see anything on the Wikipedia page mentioning fluoride as a factor for calcifying the pineal gland...

I wish I had bond more with people. I was too much in my own shell...

Relax, dude